Umatshini, ukuthandana nabantu abacebileyo

Iinkonzo zomdlalo womdlalo oqhelekileyo zisetyenziswe kumaxesha amandulo adlulileyo. Ngaloo mdlalo wokudibanisa kwakuqhutywe ngokwemiqathango "yonke imithetho", ngokwesiko. I-Swat engxenyeni yomyeni yathunyelwa kwindlu yomtshakazi. Umsebenzi wabo kwakuwukudumisa umyeni onokwenzeka kumzali womtshakazi. Intombazana ayikwazanga ukubona le ntombazana. Kuphela emva kwemvume yabazali emtshatweni - umtshakazi waya "kumtshakazi". Kule meko, abadlali bemidlalo bazama ukukhumbula kakuhle, baze batshele umyeni ngokubanzi iinkonzo kunye neentsikelelo ze ntombazana. Emva koko, "umthengisi" ngokwakhe wavunyelwa ukubona kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kunye "nezinto", ngokuqhelekileyo, zibonwa ngaphambi komtshato ngokwawo. Kuphela ngomdlali womdlalo okanye ebusweni bakhe yonke into ebaluleke kakhulu ixazululwe: umhla wokubhiyozela, i-hen party, ukuthuthwa kweendleko kunye nokunye okuninzi, okwakunjalo inxalenye yesithethe. Namhlanje phakathi kwentetho yethu ibingumdlali, abaqhelana nabayeni abacebile abaneenkonzo zabo zithandwa kakhulu.

Umdlali ohlawulelwayo osebenza ngokuphangaleleyo. Kodwa umlinganiselo omkhulu kakhulu weempumelelo zengcali yayiyinani leemfashane. Esi sibonakaliso sembatho sasiyimilinganiselo yamava kunye nekhono lomdlali wokudibanisa ukugqiba imitshato enenzuzo kunye nemitshato evuyayo. Umdlali womdlalo oqhelanisiweyo uhlale esazi ngokumalunga nabaphathi kunye nabatshatileyo, ubungakanani bendoda, intlalontle yeentsapho, abalinganiswa bentsha, isidima kunye nokungahambi kakuhle kwendiza yokuziphatha neyomzimba. Ukuze benze oku, babefanele batyebe izicaka, abagadi bezityalo kunye nabanye abasebenzi, kodwa oku kutyalo-mali, ngokusemthethweni, bazilungele ngokukhawuleza emva kokupheliswa komtshato.

Ngaloo minyaka abantu ababutyebi kuphela banokujika kwiinkonzo zomdlalo wodidi: abathengisi, abahloniphekileyo. Yaye wonke umzali wayefuna ukumbambalela ngempumelelo umntwana wakhe, sele edibene nentsapho enobume bakhe bephakamileyo okanye ngaphezulu kwemali. Ngokubanzi, ngokuqinisekileyo, imitshato ephantsi kweklasi enye yayivamile. Ngokomzekelo, umzekelo womtshato womntu owaziwayo owonakele onentombazana enotyebileyo.

Sekude ixesha elide ukususela kuloo mihla yakudala, kwaye iinkonzo zabadlali beemidlalo zisafuna. Ngoku kwimisebenzi yabo, njengaphambili, umanyano weentliziyo ezimbini. Kodwa abadlali beemidlalo zanamhlanje, ngokuqinisekileyo, bahluke kubaphambili babo bokuqala. Ukwahlukileyo kukuba, mhlawumbi, ekungabikho kwemithetho eminingi yemveli yokumisa umdlalo.

Xa uhlala ujikelezwe ngabantu: emsebenzini, esitratweni, kumaziko okuthenga, kwaye xa ufika ekhaya akukho mntu uthethayo, ngoko ucinga ngokucokisekileyo ngobomi bentsapho. Ukulondeka yinto yesibetho sethu. Apha abaxhasi kunye nabancedisayo abantu bafumana umphefumlo wabo.

Kubonakala ngathi kwihlabathi lanamhlanje lobuchwepheshe beenkcukacha, nangaphandle kokushiya indawo eqhelekileyo, umntu unokukwazi kunye nokujonga abafazi abatshatileyo. Kodwa ukuthandana kwiiwebhusayithi ezikhethekileyo okanye, ngakumbi nakakhulu, iintengiso zephephandaba zingabungozi, kungekhona nje ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomgudu, kodwa, kwimeko embi kakhulu, ukulahleka kwemali okanye ubomi. Kwaye bangaphi abantu abangenalucalulo kwiindawo ezinjalo? Kuthekani kuthi ukuba le ntombazana enhle enee-daisies ingumzingeli wamadoda aneenhlanhla ezinkulu kunye nomgxeki? Inxaxheba yomdlali wokudlala ngokuba ibaluleke ngakumbi. Umdlali womdlalo wamanqaku afanelekileyo kufuneka afunde umlingiswa womntu ovela kwidata enokufumaneka emva kokuthintana naye. Emva koko, unokufumana ibini, ngokusekelwe kule datha yokuqala. Ngoku abanalo abancedisi abancedisayo njengabakhonzi. Kubalulekile ukuxhomekeka kwiinkcukacha zabantu, iziseko ze-NLP kunye neengqondo kunye, nokuba kunjalo, "iliso lakho eliqeqeshwe" namava. Abathengi abaphambili be-matchmaker batyebi kunye nabafazi abaphumelelayo. Ukufuna ukukhula komsebenzi kunye nokuchuma, babengenalo ixesha elaneleyo lokuqalisa ubudlelwane obunzulu nokudala intsapho. Ewe, kwaye ngenxa yokuhamba ngekhathalogu yesayithi lokuthandana kwaye uchithe ixesha elifanelekileyo kubaviwa abangafanelekanga, kwakhona, iimpawu ezixabisekileyo zihamba. Amaminithi angene kwiintsuku, iinyanga, iminyaka. Kubantu abacebileyo abaye benza umsebenzi odibeneyo, baphumelele ngokwemigangatho yobungcali, ixesha lokudala intsapho enoqinileyo neyomncuba iyancibilika yonke imizuzu. Apha umdlali womdlalo uba ngumncedisi oyimfuneko. Ukukhangela amaqabane afanelekileyo, isekelwe kwimimandla yentlalo kunye nezinto eziphathekayo zabaphathi kunye nabatshatileyo. Abathengisi, ngokwenene, banezakhono zengqondo kunye ne-intuition efanelekileyo yokukhuphela ngaphandle ukuqhelana nomthengi ocebile nomzingeli ngemali. Okanye ukukhawulelana nabantu ababini abangahambelani nobomi okanye indlela yokuphila, kunye nezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo, ngaphandle kobuhle nemali, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo nge-"procuresses" yamava.

Kude umntu ezama ukudala ulwalamano lweentsapho, iinkonzo zomdlalo womdlalo oza kuba zifuna. Emva kwayo yonke into, umphumo womsebenzi wakhe uyisibambiso sokonwaba kunye nenzululwazi yentsapho yomntu ngamnye ocela isicelo.

Yiloo nto ayenayo, umdlalo womdlalo; Ukuthandana nabantu abacebileyo, ulungelelanisa ngokulula!