Xa le ntombazana ishiye umfana, yintoni na ngoku kuthetha?

Abantu badla ukutshintsha iimvakalelo zabo, iimvakalelo kunye nokuthandana. Kungenxa yoko, akubona bonke ubudlelwane obungunaphakade kunye nokugqibela ekungcwabeni. Kwenzeka ukuba sidibanisa uthando nothando, uvelwano okanye uthando. Kwaye xa kufika ukuphulwa kwephutha-kubalulekile ukuphula ulwalamano. Kwaye amaninzi amaninzi anemibuzo elandelayo: xa intombazana ishiye le nkwenkwe, yintoni na ngoku ukuyithetha?

Ewe, le meko iyinto ehlekisayo kwaye ingathandeki, ngakumbi xa ubuhlobo bude kwaye bunzulu. Kubuhlungu ukuba umntu aqonde into yokuba, eqinisweni, yakho impazamo. Ukongezelela, akukho mntu ufuna ukuba loo mntu agcine intukuthelo nomsindo kuwe kunye nesini sonke isini ngenxa yesithuba.

Yintoni esimele siyenze ukukhusela le ntombazana kumava kangangoko kunokwenzeka?

Okokuqala, qiniseka ukunyaniseka naye. Enyanisweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yayibuhlungu kangakanani, ayiyi kuba yimbi ngaphezu kokulala. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ulwalamano luya kuphelisa kwaye kungekudala uza kushiya inkwenkwe, akufanele uxoxe naye kunye nawe. Ungazami ukuziphoqa ukuba umthande kwakhona, okanye uhlale usondele. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kushiya ubuhlobo, kodwa kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu.

Ngoko ke, zama ukucinga ngokucophelela kwaye uqonde ukuba ngaba oko kukugqibela. Mhlawumbi unenkathazo yobudlelwane okanye uxabana. Kule meko, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ngaba esi sizathu esivakalayo sokubeka ingongoma kanye kunye. Ngaba awuyizisola kwaye uzama ukuwubuyisela. Musa ukulibala ukuba ngesigqibo esinjalo uza kuzisa intlungu kumntu, kwaye kwenzeka ukuba xa ugqiba ukubuyela, akayi kukuvumela ukuba ubuyele entliziyweni nasemphefumlweni. Kungenxa yoko, akufanele uthathe izigqibo ngokukhawuleza, ngomsindo. Ukuba wena kunye nomfana uxabana, ungaqali ukuqokelela okanye izinto zakho, ukumemeza ukuba yonke into iphelile kwaye akukho uthando. Zama ukunciphisa kwaye ulinde kancane. Xa umsindo uyancedisa, unokucinga ngcamango uze wenze isigqibo sokuba usenokwenza ntoni.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa intombazana ishiye umfana, ngummeli wesondo oqinileyo onyamezela ikhefu kunzima kunokuba intombazana ngokwayo. Ziyabonakala nje zizolile kwaye zibandayo. Enyanisweni, kwimiphefumlo yabo bavusa ulwandle lweemvakalelo abafana abakwaziyo ukuzithetha, kuba bayabuthathaka. Ngenxa yokuba kufuneka uzibambe rhoqo, abantu abatsha baqokelela kakubi kwaye bachithe ixesha elide besuka kwikhefu kunye nomfazi wabo othandekayo. Yingakho ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bubaluleke kakhulu, cinga ngamakhulu amawaka ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo, kuba kuya kuba yinto yokugqibela kwaye ingenakuguquka.

Ngoko ke, ukuba isigqibo sisenziwa, kwaye unqume ukuba uyingxenye, ngoko siya kubuya kumbuzo: xa intombazana ishiye umfana - yintoni na ngoku ukuyithetha? Kakade, kufuneka uxoxe. Ungalokothi uphelise ubudlelwane phakathi kwefowuni, kwaye nangaphezulu, ngohlobo lwe-imeyile okanye umyalezo odibeneyo. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonisa ukungahloneli kwinqanaba lomntu. Ufumana ingcamango yokuba akabalulekanga kuwe ukuba awuzange udideke ukuxelela yonke into emehlweni akhe. Ngendlela, eqinisweni, isenzo esinjalo sithetha ngoyiko lwakho kwaye awukwazi ukuphendula ngamagama akho kunye nezigqibo phambi kwabanye abantu.

Ukongezelela, ungalokothi uhlele ubudlelwane kuluntu. Awudingi ukujika yonke into ibe yindawo ephakathi, apho abahlobo, okanye abantu abangaziwayo, baya kuthatha inxaxheba. Okokuqala, umntu akufanele akhuphe inkunkuma kwindlu, aze enze ukuhleka. Kwaye okwesibini, abahlobo baya kuzama ukungenelela, baya kuqala ukukuvuyisa baze bakuxelele ukuba ungubani umfana ontle. Oku kuya kukhokelela ekuxabaneni nabo bonke abakhona, okanye ukuxolelana, okwenyani kuthiwa yinto eqhelekileyo.

Kwakhona, ungathethi malunga nesigqibo sakho ngokuhlwa kweeholide enkulu. Musa ukusibekela umntu lo mbhiyozo kwiminyaka emininzi, nangenxa yobomi.

Thetha malunga noko akudingeki ukuba ube yedwa, kwindawo ezolile. Chaza loo mfana ukuba yiyiphi isizathu kwaye kutheni ufuna ukwenza njalo. Awudingi ukuthetha ukuba yonke into ngawe. Oku akukwenzekayo, kuba nganye yezenzo zethu ziyasabela kwisenzo somnye umntu. Ngako oko, awukwaneliseki yinto ethile kwiqabane lakho, ngoko ulwalamano luye lwaphela. Ungamgxeka nto nantoni na, vele uchaze ukuba wonke umntu unengqondo yakhe yehlabathi kunye nobomi, kwaye, ngokucacileyo, eyakho iyanxaxha kakhulu. Musa ukuvumela i-scandals kunye nokucacisa ubuhlobo. Musa ukulivalela kwaye umqinisekise. Yigqiba ngokukhawuleza, nqwenela konke okusemandleni kwaye ushiye.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka uqonde ukuba uyabuhlungu ngokwenene. Kodwa, kwakhona, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba le ntlungu iya kudlula, kodwa ubomi kunye nomntu ongenalo uthando luya kuba yintlungu ngokwenene kuye.

Ungazami ukuhlala ungumhlobo kwaye uthembisa ukugcina ubudlelwane. Ukuba oku kuyinyani, emva kokuphela kwexesha elide, xa lo mfana eyolile, uyeke ukuthukuthela uze uzame ukukubuyisela. Ukuba umfana uxelela izinto ezingamangalisi - ungayihoyi. Ekugqibeleni, unelungelo, kuba ngoku uyamkhathaza, kunye nesizathu sale ntlungu. Ngako oko, umfana uzama ngale ndlela ukuze ajezise ummangalelwa.

Kukho imeko engafaniyo, xa eqala ukucela ukuxolelwa, ethembisa ukutshintsha kwaye uthi uya kwenza konke ukukubuyisela. Ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo unqumle ukuhlukana nobudlelwane, le mpazamo kufuneka iphinde iphathwe ngokungazi. Naluphi na ubuthathaka bakho nobubele bakho buya kubangela ukuba loo mfana uza kucinga: uyandithandazela, kuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo azizange zidlule, kwaye ndinokulungisa konke. Kule meko, kuya kufuneka ukhuthazelele iinzame zakhe zokuvuselela zonke izinto, apho kuye, kwaye uya kuba nzima nakakhulu. Ngoko ke, nqama yonke imizamo uze ushiye ngokukhawuleza.

Emva kwekhefu, ungaboni kwaye uphendule ifowuni. Isihlandlo sokuqala, kunye naye, kwaye kuya kuba nzima kuwe, kodwa, ngokuthe ngcembe, iimvakalelo ziya kuqala ukuphela kwaye ubomi buya kuhlengahlengiswa.

Kwaye okokugqibela: ungazigxeka ngenxa yokuyeka ukuthanda umntu. Imvakalelo yethu kunye neemvakalelo zingekho ngaphaya kokulawula kwesizathu, ngoko-ke awuyikusola ukuba ungayilawuli intliziyo-sisithi ntoni ngoku? Ungabi lixhoba lobomi kuphela ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho lingathandi ukubeka isahlulo?