Amehlo akhe ...
Njalo uqaphele ukujonga kweqabane lakho. Ukuba amanye amantombazana akakubukeli, kodwa ugijime malunga nomfazi ochasene nomnye kwaye akabuyelanga amehlo abo kuwe, oku kubi. Izifundo ezininzi ziye zabonisa ukuba indoda ethandwayo iya kubheka kabini kumlingane wayo njengabo bonke abantu.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphela oku, kufuneka ukhawuleze uxoxe nomfana wakho. Mbuze umbuzo ofuna impendulo enzulu. Jonga indlela asabela ngayo ngeli bali, jonga amehlo akhe. Ukuba uyaphambukela kuwe, ukhangela ngawe, ugweme ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo, ngoko mhlawumbi akunjalo indoda yakho. Ku no kubakho. Umzekelo, uhlazo ngenxa yokulinganisa kwakho njalo. Ngoko ke, amantombazana, ulungele ukuhamba ngomhla, qwa lasele ngokucokisekileyo, ujonge ubuso bakho, ukubonakala kunye nokuziphatha. Ufanelekile "ukuzingela." Xa le ndoda isele eyakho, akudingeki umsongele ngeetoni ezikhanyayo. Ubungqina kufuneka bube buhle kwaye buzolile. Ewe, unokugxila kwamehlo okanye emlonyeni, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi umlinganiselo. Ubuso bakho bube yendalo. Akuyimfuneko ekuqalekeni ukuba ungabonakali ngokusemthethweni emlonyeni okanye emgodini. Iyakusasaza nayiphi na indoda.
Kunconywa ukuba usebenze phambi kwesibuko uze ufumane ukumamatheka okumangalisa, ubuso bakho. Musa ukugubha, gubungela umlomo wakho kwaye wenze ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Ukusebenza okumbalwa ekhaya kwaye usuku lwakho luya kuphumelela. Unokuba nethemba lokujonga umntu.
Ku koluntu ...
Jonga indlela umlingani wakho aziphatha ngayo xa uhamba naye ejikelezwe ngabanye abantu. Ukuba umntu wakho umi phambi kwakho okanye umva emva koko, oku kungabonisa ukungaqiniseki ngeemvakalelo zakhe okanye ukuba isimo sakhe sengqondo asiyonto. Indoda ethandwayo iya kuhlala ihleli eceleni kweqabane layo, lihlombe.
Ekugqibeleni, kukho ukungafani. Kodwa, njengommiselo, ulwimi lukhuni. Unika iimvakalelo zethu ezifihlakeleyo kunye neemvakalelo zethu.
Ngaba le yinto nje ihlaya?
Ukuba iqabane lakho livumela ukuba lihlekise ngawe kwisiqulana sabangane okanye phambi kwabantu abangaziwayo, uze udibanise kwaye uthi uyadlala kwaye akafuni ukucaphukisa - ungakholelwa. Le ndlela ayikho into ekhohlakeleyo. Cinga malunga nokuba ufuna ukuchitha ixesha lakho kumntu onokukuhlazisa phambi kwabanye. Indoda ethandana nawe ayiyi kukuvumela ukuba uziphathe njengomntakwabo. Uhlala ethule okanye uthetha izinto ezilungileyo kuphela ngawe, uya kuyancoma, ukuze abanye babone oko intombazana enhle.
Ukubonakala kwakho ...
Kukho amaxesha apho intombazana ibuza intombazana ukuba yitshintshe into ekubonakala kwayo. Umzekelo, lungisa kwakhona iinwele ngombala ohlukileyo, ukwandise umququzelelo, wenze enye intsebenzo kunye nokunye. Amantombazana, khumbula, ngoko ke umntu uzama ukukuphatha. Owesibini nowesithathu baya kulandela isicelo sesibini. Ukuba uya kwesinye kwisikhephe, unokucinga ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumntu. Akuyi kuba yakho ngokupheleleyo. Nangona ucinga ngento, ngaba ufuna ngokwenene umntu onganeliseki ngembonakalo yakho, isitayela sakho seengubo kunye nokunye. Emva koko, ukuba umntu wenza, kufuneka asamkele njengathi.
Wena okanye ngabahlobo?
Ukuba ngomhla wokuqala okanye wesithathu umfana akafiki yedwa, njengomhlobo wakhe, ngoko umva ngokukhawuleza ngaye. Ngenxa yokuba abahlobo bangaphambili abahlali. Kwaye kuya kuba njalo. Musa ukucinga ukuba ngenxa yakho uya kutshintsha imigaqo yakhe. Ukuba ekuqaleni kobudlelwane uye wabeka umngane ophezulu ngaphezu kwakho, abahlobo bakhe baya kuhamba nawe phantse yonke indawo. Ngaba uyayidinga?
Zifihlakele ...
Ukuba umntu akafuni ukuphendula umbuzo olula "Waya phi na? Yintoni oyenzayo emini? "Kwaye njalo, ezama ukuphuma kuye, oko kuthetha ukuba unento yokufihla. Mhlawumbi akayikuzifihla isifuba sakhe kwi-swami kuba akanakho izicwangciso ezinzulu kuwe, okanye ngenxa yokuba akacingi ukuba ungumntu osondeleyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunokudakalisa kangakanani, oku kuyinyaniso. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu wakho uhlale efihla kuwe zonke iinkcukacha zexesha lakhe, ngoko umlahle ngaphandle kokucinga.
Imali, imali ...
Abanye abantu namhlanje baye basebenzisa ukusetyenziswa kwabasetyhini ngokulinganayo, kuze kube yilapho sibanikeze ngemali. Abo bameli besilisa babizwa ngokuba yiAlfonso. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza xa i-satellites iqala ukuthetha ngemali, cela imali mboleko kuwe, ngoko ngokukhawuleza uyibale. Awudingi ukukholelwa kwiindinyana zabo. Ukongeza, ukuba ufuna ngokwenene imali, indoda yangempela iya kubabuza kubahlobo, izalamane njalonjalo. Kwaye umfazi othandayo akaze azalwe ngeengxaki zakhe.
Ithenda embi ...
Ukuba umntu wakho unobungqingili kwiivenkile, abalindi bamagqabi okanye abanye abasebenzi benkonzo, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ngale nto. Ukuba kwenzeka kanye, unokuxolela. Emva koko, ngubani owaziyo into eyenzekayo: ukwakhiwa kakubi, ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini kunye njalo. Kodwa ukuba oko kwenzeka njalo, sishiya amantombazana e-ignoramuses. Ngaphandle koko, baya kuba nawe ngexesha elifutshane.
Yintoni oyaziyo ngentsapho yakhe?
Ukuba umntu uthetha ngokukhawuleza malunga nentsapho, malunga naye kunye neeplani zekamva, oku kufuneka kusondele ngokukhawuleza. Ewe, unokuzama ukubuza imibuzo. Mhlawumbi ungumntu ofihlakeleyo kwaye akafuni ukukhawuleza izinto. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda awakuthi akhulume ngezinto ezinjalo kunye nabafazi, abaza kuba nezicwangciso ngekamva.
Iintlanganiso eziqhelekileyo ...
Ukuba umntu uthanda ngokwenene, uya kuzama ukuchitha nawe ixesha elininzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Uya kulungela ukuya kwi-swami ukuya ekupheleni kwehlabathi, nje ukuthetha imizuzu emihlanu kwaye ujabulele inkampani yakho. Ukuba uthe uhlale exakekile kwaye ufumana iingqungquthela ezingenakuhlangana nawe, xa ucela malunga nayo, ucinge ngokubaluleka kweemvakalelo zakhe. Kwaye akukho mfuneko yokufuna naziphi na izizathu. Sichitha ixesha ngaphandle.
Narcissism ...
Ukuba umntu uthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kuphela ngaye kunye nentetho yakhe uva "I" rhoqo, ucinge, mhlawumbi ungumntu "wenene"? Umntu onjalo uya kuhlala ecinga kwaye akhathazeke kuphela ngaye kunye namadoda akhe. Abanye abantu baya kuhlala behlala kwimvelaphi yakhe.
Makhe sihlole imemori?
Phantse bonke abantu abanakho imemori enhle kakhulu. Noko ke, ngaphandle koko amadoda anothando. Abantu abanjalo abayi kuze balibale umhla wokuthandana kwakho, ingoma yakho oyithandayo okanye umhla wokuzalwa kwakho. Ukuba iqabane lidla ngokubonisa ukulibala, ngoko mhlawumbi uvele ephuma kumaphupho akhe omthandayo.
Ukusela okanye ukusela?
Namela ingqalelo ekujongeni utywala. Indoda enothando ayisayi kusela kunye nomfazi othandekayo.
Imiqondiso engentla ifanele isetyenziswe kuphela ngeveki yokuqala yamadoda abathandanayo. Kulo xesha lilula ukugcina ukuziphatha kunye nezenzo zabo, ngenxa yokuba ubani unokufumana izigqibo kwaye aqonde ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuchitha ixesha labo kulo mntu.