Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo, abalimi abaphakathi beqaqambile bephezulu, kuba bayazi indlela yokubeka umxhasi wabo. Izwi elithi "ulwimi ngaphambi kweKieya liya kuzisa" wazalwa kungekhona kwindawo engenanto.
Ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha kwenza uncedo olukhulu kuluntu. I-label isethi yemigaqo yokuziphatha eyenza unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu njengengenanto ingenakunzima. Ukunxibelelana ngokuthe ngqo, xa omnye umntu ethetha nomnye umntu, ininzi yolwazi-ngokuqhelekileyo ukuba omnye wabadibaniselwano abafuna ukuthetha-udlula ngeendlebe zesibini. Isizathu esona siqhelo kukuphazanyiswa kukuphazamisana noqhagamshelwano. Ngokomzekelo, ukuqalekisa izikhalazo zokuqala, utyumle impumlo kumgangatho okanye uphendule iqhosha kwiingubo zomphulaphuli. Ukuba umntu owayedla wayesazi imithetho yokuziphatha, engavumelekanga ukuba aphumele iimvakalelo zakhe, mhlawumbi wayekwazi ukumkholisa into ethile ngendlela ethile. Kwaye ke akanalo ithuba. I-Etiquette isusa izithintelo zonxibelelwano.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba i-etiquette yenza ukuba unxibelelwano lwabantu lukhuseleke ngokusemandleni. Khawucinge nje ngomthendeleko ophakathi: ezininzi iinkosana zihlala etafileni enye, ewonke, eqinisweni, i-thug. Baseli wayini, bayidle kunye nenyama, abayinqumbileyo neentambo zabo. Ngokwemvelo, ukulindela ubomi ngexesha elo lixhomekeke ngokukodwa kumandla okuziphatha okungahambisani neengxabano. Indima yokuziphatha ekukhulisweni kwabantwana beklasi eliphezulu yayinkulu ngeli xesha, kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba imeko iguqule ngoku, kwaye uphosakele. Kwaye ngoku kwaye i-etiquette isebenza njengokugcoba iigesi zoluntu.
Ulwazi lwe-etiquette lubonisa ukuqhelaniswa komntu. Umntu uyazi ukuba aziphathe njani kuluntu, oku kunika ithemba kuye kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba ukuzithemba kwimikhosi yakho yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zeempumelelo. Iimvanco zikaLouis Busennar, uAlexandre Dumas zithandwa ngumntu oyintloko - umntu ongeke ahambe kwimimiselo yobuninzi nakwixesha elibalulekileyo. Le yindlela yenkokeli, okhokelela abanye ngeenxa zonke, kuba ngumgangatho kubo. Kwimfundo yabantwana eWest, ingqalelo ngakumbi kwaye ihlawulwa ekuthambekeni kobukhokelo, imigaqo igalelo kuphela.
Inxaxheba yendlela yokuziphatha ekukhulisweni kwabantwana kunzima ukugqithisa. Ekuqaleni uqala ukuzisa umntwana wakho kwihlabathi lokuziphatha nokuziphatha okuhle, ngcono. Ekuqaleni umntwana uyaqonda ukuba kutheni "kungcono" ukwenza oku, kodwa yintoni "eyona nto", yintoni imiphumo emihle okanye leyo ntshukumo engakhokelela kuyo, ngokuphumelela ngakumbi ukuba inokubambisana nabanye. Izenzo zinyani ekusebenzelaneni nabanye zikhokelela ekukhuthazeni iziphumo ezisebenzisayo ukuqinisa nokukhuthaza ukuqhubela phambili kwimpumelelo yokuziphatha kunye nentlalo. Esikhundleni sokubetha uqobo lwakho kwisitampu sesanti ekhanda ngentloko kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwedwa, umntwana wakho unokufumana isihlwele se-comrades kunye novuyo kunye nokuzonwabisa ukuya kwi-kindergarten, kwaye bangazitholi iingxaki zeengqondo.
Abazali bazama ukugcina umntwana wabo kwisibetho esinjalo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza baya kumbandela wemfundo yokuziphatha ngokunyanisekileyo, "bethonga intonga." Kwizemfundo, ukukhunjulwa kwemishini yeemigaqo yokuziphatha ngaphandle kokucinga kwabo kunye nokuqonda akuyi kukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into enhle-i-prude iya kukhula. Uya kufundisa abanye indlela abafanele okanye abangayi kuyenza ngayo, kuba ebuntwaneni wanikwa umzekelo wokuziphatha. Ngako oko, ukufundisa imithetho yemigaqo ilandela ukuphuhliswa komntwana, kufuneka uqale ngezinto ezilula neziqondakalayo, njengokuthi "mbulela", "nceda", "impilo", njl njl. Xa uthetha ngezinto ezingabonakaliyo, umntwana unokukhathazeka, kuba akayiqondi, kwaye uyazixhathisa. Imbali yeemigaqo yokuziphatha iya kunceda. Uninzi lwazo lunomdla olumnandi, umzekelo, iziphelo ezibukhali zetekisi zetabhile, kangangokuba abahlonishwayo abazikhethi ngamazinyo (zonke ezinye iindlela zokuzikhupha kumkhwa ongathandekiyo awuphumelelanga).
Khumbula ukuba abantwana abaqapheli oko "ubafundisayo", kodwa oko uyenzayo. Ungatsho nantoni na, kodwa ukuba umntwana ubona ukuba imigaqo yokuziphatha okungahambelani nokungahambisani neengxabano imfundisa iindlela zokurhweba, ngoko utitshala akayi kuphumelela. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu okhuliswe ngale ndlela uya kusebenzisa iindlela ezifanayo ukufundisa imigaqo kunye nabantwana babo. Imigaqo yokuziphatha okuziphatha kakuhle ifundiswa ngumzekelo wakho, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ikusasa elingcono kumntwana wakho, qalisa wena.