Kubonakala kulungile: utshatile, sele unomntwana, kodwa kubonakala ngathi ubomi abuvuyo ngokwaneleyo. Yintoni na? Kwaye ingxaki kukuba ngokutshata, silindele ukuba indoda iya kusenza sivuyiswe. Futhi ngaphandle kokufumana oko sifuna, siqala ukwenza amabango. Yaye yonke into ilula kakhulu - thabatha uvuyo lwakho kunye nolonwabo lwentsapho ezandleni zakho. Khangela umyeni akayiyo yonke into engeyiyo ngaphandle kokuba ungatshatanga naye.
Kwaye enye indlela ebalulekileyo ekuvuyiseni kwabasetyhini. Ibhinqa kufuneka isebenze, ngenxa yokuba imfuneko yokuba yimbonakalo, ukuba ibe kuluntu, ithuba lokuzibonakalisa kunye nokunxibelelana linyathelo eliya kulonwabo. Ibhinqa kufuneka liphuhlise njengomntu. Kwaye ke, akuyi kuziva engenanto kuluntu wanamhlanje.
Yintoni esiyidingayo ukuze sibe nolonwabo? Sifanele sibe ngileyo, sibe nomfanekiso omncinane kunye nemilenze emihle. Ibhinqa liyimvakalelo kwaye impilo yakhe yonke iyimvakalelo eqhubekayo. Kuyaziwa ukuba ufuna into ethile kakhulu, ngoko yonke into iya kuvela. Ngoko ke, ibhinqa, ngokushukumiseka ngokomzwelo, liyakwazi ukuguquka kwinqaba elibi kwi-swan royal. Kwaye ukuba uyayidinga, uya kufezekisa zonke iinjongo ezibekwe othandweni kwaye kwishishini. Emva koko, indoda ibheka ngathi ngamehlo akhe, kwaye ibona oko sifuna ukumbonisa. Yonke intokazi, ukuba ufuna ukuya kusihlwa kwengubo entsha, iya kuhlaziya ubunzima kwiintsuku ezintathu ngaphandle kokutya kunye neepilisi. Abafazi abasweleyo abayikho. Kukho abo bakholelwa kubo kunye nabangakholelwa ngamandla abo. Akumangalisi ukuba bathetha ukuba ulonwabo lwabasetyhini luvisisana nabo.
Thina kunye nobomi bethu silawulwa yi-subconscious yethu kunye nezo mifanekiso ezikhoyo ngaphakathi kwethu. Kubalulekile kukuba ivela kubuntwaneni. Siyikopisha ngokungazi kakuhle ubomi babazali bethu kwaye ngoko ke ukuba umfanekiso wenjabulo ubeka ebuntwaneni, ke akukho phantse. Ukususela kamva siphila ngokwenkqubo kwaye sibeka indawo. Simele sizibuze ngokuphindaphindiweyo - unwabileyo, yintoni lonwabe kuthetha kuwe, into endiyifunayo, luhlobo luni lolwalamano nomntu, oko ufuna ukukwenza. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, kufuneka uziqonde wena nangaphakathi ukuze wenze umfanekiso wesonwabo, kunokugxila kwizinto ezimbi zobomi.
Uvuyo nje alufiki. Simele sisebenze ngonwabo. Iingcamango mazibe zilula, kwaye imifanekiso ifanele ibe neempembelelo. Ukucinga ngeziganeko ezimbi, ngoko sizishiya inhlanhla kwaye sizive sisonwabile kunye nolonwabo lobomi. Iimvakalelo ezithembekileyo kunye nethemba, kwaye inhlanhla iya kuza.
Enyanisweni, ukuba inkqubo yolonwabo ayizange ibekwe ebuntwaneni, ekubeni unyoko ongenakuvuyela umtshato, ke inkqubo engalunganga iya kufuneka iphulwe, kwaye yenza imizamo eninzi. Ukuba ucinga nje ngezinto ezilungileyo ngaphandle kokuqonda izizathu zeengxaki zakho zangoku, akunakwenzeka ukuba uphumelele ukutshintsha inkqubo ngaphakathi kwakho. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayaqaphela ukuba baqala ukuphatha abayeni babo njengokungathi unina wayiphatha uyise. Ngoko ke, zama ukujonga umyeni ngamanye amehlo, kwaye uya kubona ukuba akukho konke okubi. Shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kuye, kwaye uya kulungile.
Yintoni eyolo lonwabo yolula? Ukutsho oku, ungacingi ngento ethethiweyo. Le ngcaciso ebanzi kwaye ngamnye unayo. Inwaba yintando, impumelelo, ukuchuma, intsapho okanye nje ukuba nendoda. Abasetyhini ngabantu abakhawulezayo, kwaye kaninzi abakwazi ukugqiba, kunye neminqweno nemiva yabo. Namhlanje uyavuya, kodwa kungengomso. Yaye ukuba uyayiqonda, akukho nto esiyidingayo yonwabo.
Okokuqala, uthando . Kwaye asifanele sivumele ukuba sithande, kodwa nokuba sizithande. Akukho nto enhle ngaphezu kokuthandana. Emva koko ubomi buya kukhanya kwaye bukhulu. Kodwa uthando kufuneka lube luyinyani, kwaye kufuneka lufunwe, lugcinwe kwaye luthandwa. Kwaye kufuneka unike ngothando, ngoko uya kufumana ulonwabo ngokubuyisela.
I-yesibini intsapho iyimfuneko kwaye inyanzelekile kumyeni nabantwana. Ukuziva ulonwabo xa intsapho yonke ihlangana, xa uxolo nothando lulawula kwaye izandi zokuhleka kwezingane. Intsapho yentsapho yukufudumala okusiphilisa ngayo ubomi bakhe bonke. Intsapho kukuvisisana nobomi bethu kunye nolonwabo olunikezwayo. Inwaba yabasetyhini ngaphandle kobunina ayinakwenzeka, ngoko idibene nathi ngokwemvelo ngokwayo. Wonke umntu uvakalelwa kukuba, okokuqala, unina kwaye sele sele sele ukhetha iqabane ebomini, sijonga iimpawu zakhe ezithile. Kuzo ezo ziza kunceda ukukhulisa abantwana abanempilo kunye nabahlakaniphile. Ulonwabo lwabesetyhini bokwenene kubantwana.
Okwesithathu, uluntu luyinxalenye yolonwabo lwabesetyhini. Ukuphila, induduzo endlwini, ukufudumala noxolo. Yilapho kukho ithuba lokuphila, kungekhona ukuhlala. Xa sizolile bethu abantwana kwaye sinokuthenjwa kwikosi yethu enamandla. Yiyiphi intsikelelo engabizo ukubiza abaphathi, kodwa yonke into isebenza endlwini. Ubomi banjengoko bathetha-ukuba bangemva kwendoda engasemva kwodonga lwamatye. Ibhinqa lifuna ukuhlala nesidima, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukujonga kwikamva yentsapho yakhe. Apha zilapha, iingcamango ezidala ulonwabo lwabesifazane ...