Ukungabikho kwengqondo, izizathu zayo:
Uloyiko
Ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye, ukwesaba ukuzala okanye ukuzalwa komntwana oye wavela nathi, mhlawumbi ebuntwaneni, unokufaka inhloko yakho ibhloko eliya kukukhusela umzimba wakho kwingozi - kule imeko ukukhulelwa okanye ukubeletha. Ibloko elinjalo linokuvela kwiimvakalelo ezinzulu ngenxa yeminye intlekele kwintsapho (umzekelo, umntu osondelene nawe ngexesha lokubeleka ufile, umntwana wazalwa efile, njl.). Kodwa akusiyo yonke into eyimfuneko ukuba imbangela yengozi yokugula kwengqondo yayisiganeko sangempela. Kungenzeka ukuba iyunithi yasungulwa ngesiseko solwazi olufunyenwe kwiimidiya, iifilimu, amabali, njl.
Kodwa ukwesaba kunokuzala kuphela ukwesaba kuba nabantwana, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, unomnqweno omkhulu wokuba nomntwana. Umzekelo, xa umfazi ephantsi kwengcinezelo enkulu evela kumyeni wakhe okanye kwiintsapho zakhe, kwaye ukuzalwa komntwana kuye kuba yinjongo kuphela.
Ukuvalwa kweendawo
Uluntu lwethu luchaza imithetho nemimiselo yalo mfazi wesimanje. Ngoko, le ntombazana ixelelwe ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili kunye nokuzalwa komntwana kuya kudala ebomini bakhe iingxaki ezininzi kwaye akuyi kuzisa nantoni na. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba emva kokuphela kweminyaka, sele sele ikhulile, isatshati kwaye isilungele ukuzalwa komntwana, umfazi akakwazi ukukhulelwa ngenxa yebhloko engaziwayo engqondweni.
Elinye ibhloko elibekwe yintlalo yentlalo ingaba ngumnqweno wesifazane ukuba "angaphumi kwinqaba". Uloyiko lokuphazamisa uphuhliso lwezemisebenzi, ukuphuma kwiinkqubo ezibalulekileyo zoluntu kwaye ungakwazi ukubuyisela konke.
Kuvela ukuba ibhinqa lifuna umntwana, kwaye lizama ukulifumana, kwaye umzimba uvimba umnqweno.
Ukulimala ukususela ebuntwaneni
Ukuba intsapho yayinemeko engathandekiyo: i-scandals, umtshato onomvandalo, ukubetha, intlupheko, ukusela utywala okanye ukufa komnye wabazali, ngoko-ke ekudala, zikhona izizathu ezininzi zokungabikho kobantwana. Kwaye, njengenqatshana yokungafuni abantwana, kunye neengxaki ezingqondweni zengqondo.
Iingxaki zobuntu bomntu
Imilinganiselo yezobude sele isetyenziswe kubafazi kumajelo aseburhulumenteni kunye noshishino lwefashoni, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwiifom zabo zakudala kungabangela ukukhulelwa kwengqondo. Ibhinqa linokuthatha isigqibo sokuba nomntwana, kwaye umzimba wakhe awuyi kumnika ithuba, ekhokelwa ngcaciso ayenayo.
Kudidi olufanayo lokwesaba lunokubakho kunye nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumntu sonke ngenxa yesinye isizathu - ukulahleka kokutsalana emva kokubeleka. Ndiyavuma, oku kukunyanzeleka kwengqondo kakhulu, leyo ibhinqa kwezinye iimeko idala.
Okanye bobabini abatshati bakholelwa ukuba ukubonakala komntwana kwintsapho kuya kuguqula indlela yokuphila kunye nokushiya ixesha.
Esinye isizathu sokusweleka kwengqondo kunokuthi kukuba ibhinqa eliye lagqiba ukuzala umntwana lincinci kwaye yena ngumntwana omkhulu. Ngaphezu koko, akuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yowesifazane. Umntwana unako ukususa ingqalelo efunwa nguye. Kwaye akanako ukuqonda malunga neli bhloko, ngelixa eqhubela inkqubo yokonyango yokungabikho komntwana.
Ukuvinjelwa kokukhulelwa kungavela kwimeko apho kukho iingxaki kwiimeko phakathi kwamaqabane. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba omnye wabalingani akaqinisekanga ngokuchanekileyo kokukhethwa kwabo kunye nokungabaza ukulungelelaniswa kokwakha ubudlelwane obusapho bosapho. Kwimeko enjalo, nangona xa uzama ukufumana umntwana, ayikwazi ukusebenza.
Kukho imeko apho bobabini abalingani banokungabikho kwengqondo kwengqondo, kwaye banokuphazamisa ngokungazi ukukhulelwa kwabo komntwana. Ngokomzekelo, kwiintsuku ezithandekayo ukukhulelwa, amaqabane asebenza kwiimeko "eziphuthumayo", ziphikisana okanye zihamba.
Umntu unokuhlakulela ukungabikho kwengqondo kwengqondo, ngaphezu koko, umzimba wakhe unokuvelisa izidakamizwa kwi-spermatozoa yakhe.
Kwenzeka ukuba izibini zengqondo ezingapheliyo zihlala kunye kunye nomnqweno wokuba nomntwana kwaye, ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza xa bejamelana neemeko zabo, kwaye umntwana ubonakala, loo mbhangqwana uyahlukana, kuba akukho nto ibenza ukuba bayisondeza baze babe ngabasemzini.
Indlela yokujongana nale ngxaki, indlela yokusombulula intsingiselo yengqondo kunye noxinzelelo?
Ziqonde ngokwakho, uqonde ukuba kutheni ufuna umntwana. Ukuba kungenxa yakho indlela yokulahla ubunyulu, ukuzalisa ubomi bakho ngenjongo, ukugcina umntu okanye ukufezekisa enye injongo, ucinge ngezinye iindlela zokusombulula iingxaki zakho. Xa ufuna umntwana ngenxa yakhe, into efunayo ingasondela ngakumbi.
Qinisekisa ukuba ukungabikho kokusweleka kwimeko enokwenza ngengqondo kwaye awunakho ukuchasana ngokomzimba. Uphando olupheleleyo kufuneka lwenziwe kunye lakho iqabane.
Khumbula kwaye ubhale yonke into ephathelene nokukhulelwa nokubeletha kwaye ibangela ukwesaba wena okanye iqabane lakho. Zama ukuba "ufike ezantsi" zezizathu zangempela ezibangele ukwesaba.
Zama kuyo yonke imeko eyoyikisayo ukongeza kwi "minuses" ecacileyo kuwe, ukufumana "amaninzi" kunye nokuzama ukuwazisa. Emva koko, amawaka amabhinqa abeletha imihla ngemihla kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye konke kuhamba kakuhle kwaye abantwana bazalwa bephilile. Ukuba ukwesaba ukungena kubomi bentlalo, ke ujonge ngaphaya, amaninzi amabhinqa namhlanje akayekanga ukusebenzela aze abele abantwana abaninzi, ngelixa bekhangeleka kakhulu. Ngoko, baya kudibanisa konke oku, ukuze ufumane. Ngoko, zama ukuphazamisa konke ukwesaba kwakho.
Emva koko, ukwesaba ukuphendula ngokuzimela komzimba kwiimeko eziyingozi ezingenakulawulwa. Emva kokuqonda nokuqonda isizathu esibalulekileyo sokwesaba, unokulawula imeko. Umzimba uya kuphumla, ukucinywa kuya kususwa kwaye ukukhulelwa okude kulindeleke kuya kwenzeka.