Ngoko ziziphi iimfihlelo zokuzithemba kunye nokulula? Imfihlelo eyintloko yokunxibelelana ngokuphumelelayo: ukuba uwedwa kunye nawe, bonke abanye baya kuba mnandi kakhulu kwaye kulula ukuthetha nawe. Ukufumana izihloko ezifanelekileyo kwintetho akuyiyo ingxaki. Yiyiphi incwadi yokugqibela oyifunayo, yintoni i-movie ekhangelekileyo, ucinga ntoni ngabadlali bexesha okanye abaculi? Imibuzo ebalulekileyo ekuqalekeni kwimibuzo iya kuba zihloko ezilungileyo kakhulu zonxibelelwano. Ngokomzekelo, unokufumana iblogi rhoqo - kuyisiseko esihle somhlobo oluthile loqeqesho ngokucacileyo. Ukuba ufunda ukubhala iingcamango zakho ngendlela abanye abaza kulufunda nje iirekhodi zakho, ngoko-ntetho yomlomo akufanele ube neengxaki ezizodwa, kwaye ukuthetha kuya kuba lula kwaye kuqiniseke.
Nangona kunjalo, ukubanjwa konke kukuba uthanda umsebenzi obunzima kunentombazana. Ema phambi kwesibuko, kubonakala ngathi sizibukeka ngeglasi ephakamileyo, kwaye sibone lonke iintsilelo ezingenakukwazi ukuzifihla, kwaye akunakunzima ukuhlala nazo. Ngaba ufuna ukuba sikuxelele imfihlo enkulu? Zonke ezi "mpazamo" zibonakala kuphela kubanikazi babo, kodwa abo bajikelezileyo abaqapheliyo okanye abazange bahlawule ingqalelo kubo. Nangona kunjalo, ukungaqiniseki okunika iingcamango zakho kuvakalelwa kakuhle, kwaye unxibelelwano aluqinisekanga.
Indlela yokwenza ngayo le meko ngokuchanekileyo? Kudinga ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza, kwaye kube ngcono. Zama ukuqiniseka ukuba umva wakho uhlala njalo, nangona ugibela izithende eziphezulu, kunye nebhegi enkulu ezandleni zakho. I-pose ifanele ibe njengekhululekile kunokwenzeka, kunye nelizwi-elicacileyo, elicacileyo nelingumnandi. Wena, mhlawumbi, uya kumangaliswa ukuba ngokukhawuleza, ekuqalekeni, izinto ezinjalo ziya kutshintsha kakhulu isimo sengqondo kuwe. Gqoka kuphela ezo zixhobo ozithandayo, kwaye uzive ukholo kwaye uzikhangele. Futhi ungakulibali ukuba izinto ezintle zizinto ezincinci, ngoko ungakhohlwa malunga nezixhobo kunye neenkcukacha zengubo, njengebhanti, i-purse okanye i-hoop. Umoya? Kulungile! Kufuneka kwakhona uqinisekise ukuba iimpahla zakho zihlala zicocekile kwaye zihlambulukile.
Kwaye ngoku, sinokuzithemba ngakumbi. Ukufezekisa imfihlelo yesibini yokunxibelelana lula, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuxelela ibali ngendlela enhle kwaye inomdla. Ukuba ugcina idayari, uzama ukubhalela ngoku kungekhona nje ngeemvakalelo zakho zomzwelo, kodwa uhlaziye umlandele kunye nebali lezinto ozibonayo xa uhamba kwiinkalo zobuso. Kukho ukusetyenziswa okulula okulula. Cinga ngamanye amabali aqalayo, umzekelo, ibali elincinci malunga nendlela ibhabhathane elihle lidibanisa intyatyambo yangempela, kunye neentyantyambo egqokweni, kwaye emva koko lixela ebusweni babantu abahlukeneyo. Yaye njani? Kwavela? Kwaye ngoku, balahlekelwa lo mboniso: qalisa ukumxelela kumntu wesithathu ngetoni enkulu, kwaye emva kokuhlambalaza. Ukuba sonke sishiya, uze uze nezinye iimeko kwaye uzicwangcise ngokwakho.
Kukho ezimbini iintlobo zabathengisi bamabali abantu abathanda ukuphulaphula ngokukodwa. Abokuqala ngabo bangakwazi ukuhleka (akufuneki ukuba baxelele amabali "ahlambulukileyo" kunye nama-anecdotes, bhetele bathetha into entsha, engavamile kwaye ijabulise), ookugqibela - onokunika iingcebiso ngokufanelekileyo (konke kuxhomekeke kuwe apha). Unokukhetha ukhetho oluthandayo. Okokuqala, qhelana ncinane, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uqale uhlala nabahlobo bakho, ngubani oya kuwuxabisa imizamo yakho. Ngokukhawuleza uza kukwazi ukubona ukuba unxibelelwano lwakho luya kuba nethemba kwaye lungaxhomeki.
Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuba akukho mntu uya kuphulaphula ibali elincomekayo kwaye elithakazelisayo ukuba uyamxelela uya kuhlala uzinzile, ungaphephekanga, kwaye awuyi kujonga emehlweni, kodwa endaweni ethile, ukuthetha kufuneka kube lula. Ukuba ufuna ukubizwa ngokuba ngumthikazi wezonxibelelwano, ngokokubonakala kwakho kufuneka kulunge, kwaye ukuzithemba kwintsimbi. Musa ukunyamekela iingxaki ezincinane, ezifana ne-mascara evuvukileyo okanye utolo oluse-pantyhose. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ziqinisekise ukuba uhle kwaye ulungele ukugqiba, kwaye abanye abantu baya kukholelwa kwakhona, kwaye umqobo wokunxibelelana uya kulahleka.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Smile. Awukwazi ukucinga ukuba isixhobo sisebenzise kangakanani. Futhi ungabi sisimbe kwakhona ukusebenzisa le ndlela ukukhangela ingqalelo bakho abahlobo kunye nabadlulileyo.
Yiba nengqiqo. Xa uhleka, awufuneki ukucaphukisa okanye ukuhlazisa umntu. Nangona i-joke encinci iya kuphumelela, kukho ithuba elihle lokuzenza iintshaba ezimbini okanye iintshaba zangempela ezingenakuphoswa ithuba lokuziphindezela.
Yivulekele ukuthetha . Awuyi-puppy enezintambo, kwaye akunjalo ne-Ice Princess. Ungesabi ukuthetha amabali amnandi ngawe. Ukuzihleka akuyihlazo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, kumnandi. Ekubeni umntu onomdla uhlala unomdla kwaye unomdla ekunxibelelaneni.
Yintoni engcono ukuyeka kanye kunye nonke?
Ukuhleka . Ngokwenza njalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kufumana abantu abanomdla oza kukuxhasa kwaye bakuncede "uhlambe amathambo" yonke emqolo. Nangona kunjalo, le meko iyakhohlisa kakhulu, kuba abantu abanxibelelana nabo abahlobo, bafuna ukufumana ulwazi oluphikisanayo.
Flattery . Ngaba uthi ukuncoma okuthobelayo wonke umntu olandelelanayo kunye nayo yonke into, enethemba lokuba ngokwenza njalo ukwandisa amathuba okuthi kuthiwa into ethile kuwe, nantoni na enomnandi? Kwaye apha kwaye ngeze! Oothixokazi bokwenene abayidingi loo ndlela.
Imiqolo . Ukungaqiniseki kwakho kungabalwa kakuhle - kwindlela yakho yokunxibelelana, ukunyameka, ukunyakaza, njl. Thatha umoya okhulu kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ukhangeleke kakuhle: iingubo zihleli kakuhle, i-manicure ayiyi kuhlabalala kwaye iinwele azidibaniswanga-ke zizonwabisa uze uthethe. Kuthiwani ukuxinwa ngenxa yezinto ezintle, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ujabule nje ubomi.