Ngoko, ukuba umntu uzinikele ukudibana naye: ucinga ntoni na?
Masithi lo mntu ungumhlobo wakho , kwaye ukuba:
a) Ngaba ufuna ukuvuma, ke ucinge ukuba umenywa ngumfundi ofunda naye, ofunda naye naye okanye osebenza naye emsebenzini. Ungayiphendula njani? Ngokuqinisekileyo wayemomotheka waza wathi: "Ewe, kunjalo. Uphi na nini? ". Kule meko, ingxoxo ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyikubopha, ngaphandle kokuba ubuhlobo bakho bukhula bube ngumfudumala, umhlobo.
b) Ukuba umntu uzinikezele ukudibana , kwaye ufuna ukungafuni - yenze ubenqabe ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka, ukuze ungakhubekisi umntu. Smile uze uthi: "Ndingathanda, kodwa andinako. Mhlawumbi ixesha elizayo? ". Ukuba umntu uyaqhubeka ekumemela aze azame ukufumana umhla othe ngqo weentlanganiso zakho ezizayo, kodwa awuhlose ukuhlangabezana nale ngongoma ngokusemthethweni, phendula ngegama eliqhelekileyo: "Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ixesha lichanekile, ndiya kuzisa."
Ukuba unikelwa ukuba udibane nomntu oqhelekileyo kwi-romance emoyeni , kwaye nawe:
a) Ufuna ukuvuma - ukudlala ngothando kunye nelizwi elincinci, lithi: "Ewe, ndiyakuvuyela kakhulu ukuba sidle kunye nawe", sakhe amehlo akhe mfutshane, umxhwele kwaye umenze akhangele phambili ukudibana nomonde. Ukudlala ngothando akukona ulwaphulo-mthetho, kodwa xa udibana, uya kukwazi ukugqiba ukuba ngaba ulwalamano olubanzi lunokwenzeka nale ndoda.
b) Ukuba ufuna ukungafuni, khawuleza wazi ukuba awufuni naluphi uthando phakathi kwakho. Yithi: "Uyazi, mhlawumbi, asiyi kuphumelela, uxolela. Wena uyindoda elungileyo, kodwa ndinokukunika ubungqina kuphela, kungekhona. "
Ukuba umntu owayengumntu wokuqala wacela ukudibana nawe kwaye ube nengxoxo enobungane , kwaye nawe:
a) Ufuna ukuvumelana - ke ungamkhumbuzi ubuhlobo bakho obudlulileyo. Mphathwe njengomhlobo onyanisekileyo, uyazi kakhulu ngawe kwaye uninzi olufanayo. Kule meko, bhetele uphendule oko ucingayo. Kufuneka uziqonde ngokwakho, ukuqonda ukuba ulungele ukuxolelana. Emva kwakho konke, indoda yangaphambili - oku kukunyamezela ukuhamba, kuba thina, amantombazana, nayiphi na inxaxheba yinto enzima. Ngaphandle koko, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba lakho ex ufune ubuhlobo bokwenene. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuphendula, kodwa zama ukufumana oko akufunayo ngokwenene. Ngokuqinisekileyo unabanye abahlobo abafana nabo abaza kukunika yonke inkcazelo ebalulekileyo.
b) Ukuba ufuna ukungafuni, mxelele ukuba awukwazi ukuba ngumhlobo, ngoko kukungcono ukuhlala uqhelana naye, uthi ungamfihla into embi, kodwa unayo abahlobo abaneleyo, kwaye naye unemibono enhle ekhoyo kwindawo kudlulileyo, kwaye kungekhona okwangoku.
Ukuba umntu owayengumntu omema ukumema kwintlanganiso yothando, kwaye nawe:
a) Ufuna ukuvuma - (cinga ukuba ulwalamano lungabuyiselwa), ngoko wenze oko ukuze akufune, umbonise ukuba ngexesha owekhefu, ubomi bakho bubuyele kwizinto eziqhelekileyo, kwaye awukwazi ukuma isikhala kunye naye okwesibini. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukubuyela kuwe, uya kwenza konke kuwe ukuba umkholelwe.
b) Ukuba ufuna ukungafuni, mxelele ukuba uyamhlonela kwaye uyabulela zonke izinto ezintle onalo, kodwa ubomi bakho buqhubeka kwaye ufuna ukwakha ubudlelwane nabanye abantu. Mema ukuba ahlale engumhlobo, kodwa akakho.
Ukuba umntu ongaqhelekanga ukumema kwintlanganiso enobubele , kwaye wena:
a) Cinga ngako - ngoko kuqala ujonge kumfokazi. Intuition yamakhosikazi isoloko isitshela ngubani onokuthenjwa kwaye ongenako. Ukuba umxhesho wesithandathu uxelela ukuba yonke into ilandelelwano, mlandele kwaye unyule indawo kunye nexesha leentlanganiso.
b) Cinga ngokushiya-vele ushiye. Ngaphandle kweengcebiso, ukudlala ngothando kunye nokunye okunjalo. Yithi: "Hayi mbulela." Ukuba umntu ufuna ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwaye akasayi kuphinda aqonde yonke into.
Ukuba umntu oselula ongaqhelekanga ukumema kwintlanganiso yothando , kwaye wena:
a) Ukulungele ukuvumelana - ngokokuqala, fumana ukuba igama lakhe liphi. Ukunikela ukulungiselela intlanganiso ezimbini ezimbini - cela ukuba uze nomhlobo, uze kunye nentombi, khetha indawo kunye nexesha leentlanganiso. Ukuba kukho into engalunganga, intombi iya kukunceda, kwaye intlanganiso kwintsimi yakho iya kukunika ithemba xa kwenzeka imeko engalindelekanga. Hayi, ngexesha lethu abasemzini besaba ukuthemba.
b) Ndikulungele ukwenqaba - kuthetha ngqo. Kholelwa ukuba unomfana, ukuba unayo. Unganiki inombolo yakho yefowuni kwaye ungayiboni nantoni na. Ukuba umntu akayiqondi - shiya nje.
Ukuba insizwa yakho ininikele inxaxheba kwindawo yokuthandana, kwaye wena:
a) Ngokwemvelo, ufuna ukuvuma - umbulele ngesimemo, kwaye ufumene apho uya khona, kwaye ukuba kuyamangalisa, fumana ubuncinane i-code yokugqoka, okanye ukulethe kwivenkile yokutyela, kwaye uhlala kwiTekhthi kunye nejebe eziqhekekileyo, uyilo.
b) Awukwazi ukuhamba, kodwa uyika ukucaphukisa - kumanga, uthi izinto ezintle, ukuba uyamthanda njani, uxolise kwaye ucele ukuyeka idibano. Into ephambili - ungamqambi amanga kuye, kuba mhlawumbi unesizathu esihle, ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuhamba ngosuku xa ufuna. Ithemba liyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano.
Kodwa wena ufanele uqonde ukuba ezi zizinye zeemeko ezinokuthi zenzeke kuwe, kwaye kufuneka zicatshangelwe, zicinga ngolu hlobo: ukuba le ndoda inikezela ukudibana, yintoni impendulo? Yithemba okokuqala, ingqondo yakho, ungenzi nto ongayifunayo, ungahlangani nalabo ongafuniyo, kwaye ungakholelwa umntu ukuba awufuni. Ukuba unikelwa ukudibana, ke nguwe kuphela onokugqiba. Cinga malunga nokuba ufuna ukuthetha nomntu othile njengomhlobo, okanye unomdla kuwe kuphela ngento enxulumene ngayo kunye nokuba ufuna ukuthetha naye nantoni na. Khumbula ukuba siyakha indawo yethu. Inhlanhla!