Xa incoko ingomntu ongafuni, ngokukhawuleza kwiingcinga zakho uthi: "Andikwazi ukummisa!". Kule meko, sithetha ngokungahambisani nengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, kuthekani ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nifumana ngokufanelekileyo kakuhle kwisicwangciso sokomoya, kodwa umzimba awukwazi ukuwamkela indoda ethandekayo, ngoxa uyenzela ubuhlungu kwaye usondele ngokusondelana?
Kwiminyaka engamashumi ama-60 kukho iimeko xa abafazi bevaleleke kwizinto eziqulethwe yindoda yesilisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amaxesha anamhlanje, ezi ziko zikhula ngokukhawuleza. Ukwandiswa kwenani lezilwanyana, ukunyuka kwezinto eziphilayo kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwempilo yesizwe kwakuye kwathonyelwa. Ukongezelela, i-qualification of allergists, nayo, ayimi kwindawo enye, kuba ngoku ixilonga i-allergies kulezo ziganeko xa ngaphambili kwakuyi-malaise encinane yesiqhelo. Ngokwe-statistics, ibhinqa ngalinye lesithathu livakalelwa kakuhle emva kokusondelana, ngelixa libuhlungu, lithethwa ngomthamo , ukuba unomdla kuye. Yintoni enokuyenza xa kukho ingxaki phakathi kwakho nomthandayo?
"Ukungonwabi" okulula
Ngokuqhelekileyo, isisombululo esichaphazelekayo kwisidoda sibonakaliswa ngokubuyiselwa kwakhona kwezesondo emva kokusondelana kwezesondo, ukutshisa nokutshiza. Kodwa kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kunokubakho imiphumo ebuhlungu: ukusuka kumkhuhlane kunye ne-urticaria ukuya ekulahlekelweni kolwazi kunye nobuqhophololo. Ukuba sithetha ngeempendulo zokungabikho kokungabikho komzimba, ke akufani na kwezinye iintlobo zezilwanyana zonyango nganoma iyiphi indlela. Iyakhula ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza iholele kwimiphumo emibi kunye neengxaki.
Apha, inxalenye ecasulayo inokusebenza njengento nayiphi na into - ingaba ngamaprotheni aqulethwe kwisidoda somntu, kwaye mhlawumbi amayeza ayithathayo, kunye nokutya okulitshatayo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthetha nini, nini kunye naluhlobo luni lomfazi ingxaki yolu hlobo iya kuvela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba i-swami sele iyenzeka, ke ungaphelelwa ithemba.
Ikondom ayiyilanga
- E-America, oogqirha bayacetyiswa nangaphambi kokuba umtshato uhlole iimbini zokudibanisa. Ewe, le nto ayinakubizwa ngokuba yindlela yokuphuma kule meko, kuba utshintsho lwabantu abalingane ukuze bafumane ukuhambelana ngokomzimba luyinto engenamsebenzi. Kubalulekile kwaye unokwazi ukukhetha iindlela ezinokukunceda uhambelane nomntu osondeleyo ngokwenyama nangengqondo.
- Indlela elula kukusebenzisa ikhondom. Kodwa ku funeka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuba ukungabikho komzimba kwindoda kuye kwaphawula ukuba sele sele ikhona, ngoko ukulala ngokwesondo okungaxhatshazwayo kuya kubangela ukuba kubekho okufanayo. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba isityalo sifika kwezinye iindawo zomzimba, i-urticaria ingaba nokukhukhumeza. Unokuba nefuthe lezinwele kunye nesikhumba somlingane. Ngoko ke, kusadingeka ukuba uye kugqirha kwaye ngandlela-thile ulwe nalo mkhuba.
- Ukuba unesitshixo okanye ukuvutha komlilo kwisenzo sokuqala sesondo, ngoko ngoko thumela kwiofisi yezilwanyana. Kakade ke, oku kungenako ukuphendula kwisidoda, ezi zimpawu zibonakalisa izifo ezininzi, kodwa kufuneka uhambe ugqirha. Ukufumana unyango oluchanekileyo, tyelela i-allergerist kunye ne-urologist.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, ugqirha ugunyazisa i-jelly enjengokubonakaliswa ngokuqhelekileyo kokunyuka komzimba: uxela ukuyeka ukudibanisa ne-allergen ngexesha elithile lexesha, uthathe i-antihistamine njalonjalo. Ukuze uqiniseke ukuba i-uvass isifo somzimba isisidoda sesilisa, ugqirha unokuthumela ukuba uqhube uvavanyo lwe-skinergic test.
- Kukho indlela enye ebizwa ngokuba yi-ISGC, kukuba ngowesifazane oqhuba oko kuthiwa yi-immunotherapy ethile. Kwiiyure eziliqela (ezimbini ukuya kweyesithathu) kwiminithi engamashumi amabini, ibhinqa elisetyhini libeka inani elithile lomlingani wesini, xa ukhula ngokuthe ngcembe kunye nenani le-spermatozoa.
Ukungavumelani kunokutshatyalaliswa
Ngokuqhelekileyo uhlobo oluqhelekileyo lokuxhatshazwa kwamadoda kukutshatyalaliswa kwe-spermatozoa engena kwisini. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yesizathu esilula ukuba "i-scapegoat" ithatha ibhinqa into engaphandle, ngelixa ivelisa izinto ze-antisperm, ukuba umntu unokutsho njalo, ngaphambi kokufikelela kwisibeleko, i-sperm iyafa, ngelixa umfazi engakwazi ukukhulelwa.
Ukuba ngaba umfazi ukhulelwe, kodwa engazange afike, ke loo mbhangqwana kufuneka iphumelele ukuvavanya ukuhambelana: emva kweeyure ezimbalwa emva kokusondelana, umfazi uthatha i-swab yezitho zangasese, ukucacisa i-spermatozoa ephilayo kuyo. Kwaye ke, incinci i-spermatozoids, inokwenzeka ukuba le mibini ayihambelani ne-immunoassay.
Ibhinqa eliphuphayo lokukhulelwa kufuneka likhuselwe ezintandathu ezintandathu (njengoko oogqirha bathi), ukwenzela ukuba ama-antibodies ayeke ukwakha okanye ukusebenzisa i-insemination, apho i-sperm ifakwe ngqo kwi-uterus. Ukuba, emva koko, le ntokazi ayiphumelele ekukhulelweni, ngoko bayayifumana kwi-vitro fertilization, apho iwesifazane ixhunyiwe kwi-sperm kwi-tube test kwaye i-embrayo isele ifakwe kwisibeleko.
Ngelishwa, abaninzi abafazi abakhulelweyo ngale ndlela banokuphazamiseka kokukhulelwa kwizigaba zokuqala. Ukuba oogqirha abafumani ezinye izizathu zokusweleka kwesisu, ngoko ke umfazi ufumaneka ukuba "unokuphuphuma komzimba". Ukulondoloza ukukhulelwa nokungangqinelani kwamaseli omyeni, oogqirha basebenzisa ii-injection ze-leukocytes zomyeni, ngelixa umzimba uqala ukulwa ngamandla kunye ne-immune system iphazamiseka kwi-embryo, esele ikhula. Njengomthetho, kwimeko enjalo, unako ukuzala kwaye ubelethe umntwana.
Yintoni i-psychologist ithi?
Akunakwenzeka ukukrazula i-allergies ngaphandle kokugqiba isizathu esinyani. Ukuba umzimba uphendule ngokukhawuleza, ke ngaphakathi, kukho ukungqungquthela, okusoloko kunokwazi. Umzimba awukwazi ukukhohliswa: ukusabela kokugatywa kunoma yintoni na imeko kubonakala ngaphandle. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba umfazi usabela kwisininzi somntu, yile yindoda enqanaba elingathandekiyo elithandekayo kuye (mhlawumbi ngelinye ilanga wakucaphukisa, lenzakalisa ngengqondo), ukulahlwa kwesondo kunye naye ngokusemthethweni, umthetho kubantu. Ngezizathu eziyinyani, kukho ubudlelwane obubi phakathi kwabazali, icala elibangelwa ngabantu abadala kumntwana okanye ebusheni. Kwiphumo lokugqibela, umfazi akafuni ukulala ngesondo, ngoxa engaboni.
Kwaye umfazi unomnqweno onomdla aze amthande indoda yakhe, kodwa umzimba uya kuthetha ngenye into, ngelixa usebenza ngokukhawuleza kubudlelwane obusondeleyo, uthatha njengenkqubo yokutshatyalaliswa.
Naliphina isenzo esichukumisayo sisisigxina "sokuyeka" kumzimba wesetyhini. Umzimba ubonakala uthi: "Musa ukwenza oku, yima, cinga ngako!". Ngenxa yoko, ukujongana nale ngxaki, kufuneka uhlale uthembekile kunye nawe uphendule le mibuzo ilandelayo: njani ndiyiphathe? Ngaba ndiyathemba umntu wam kunye nolwalamano lwethu? Yintoni endiyenzayo malunga nale qabane? Ukuba uyicinga ngokuqinisekileyo malunga nalo kwaye wafika kwisigqibo sokuba akusiyo yonke into elula njengoko wena - umbuzo omnye uphendule kakubi, mhlawumbi mhlawumbi apho ingxaki yakho ikhona khona, sebenze kuyo.
Ukuze uziqonde kakuhle kwaye uqonde konke, qhagamshelana neengcali. Njengomthetho, xa uthetha ne-psychologist, iimeko ezinjalo ziphakama ukuba ude ulibale, uxolelane nabo, kwaye awuzange ufikelele phambili ukuba yile nto eyabangela ingxaki yokuphendula. Emva kokuba ulahle uloyiko lokusebenzelana nendoda, xolela abantu abakukhathazayo, baqonde iimvakalelo zakho kwiqabane lakho, unako ukulibaleka ukuba unobungozi kumzimba, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuvuyela kwisondo nomhlobo wakho .