Umfi uhleli: yintoni omele ulindele kule phupha?

Kuthekani ukuba uphupha abafileyo? Ukuchazwa kokulala
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukubona abafileyo ebuthongweni babo kuthetha ukuba iingxaki kunye nobunzima ziya kubonakala kungekudala ebomini. Kodwa eqinisweni, lo mfanekiso awukwesabisi njengoko kubonakala kuqala. Ukuze uqikelele ngokuchanekileyo ukuba umntu ofileyo obenokuzicingela ephupheni, masibuyele kwiincwadi zokuphupha, ezenzelwe amadoda namabhinqa achaze iphupha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale, qiniseka ukuba ukhumbule oko ubonile kwiphupha lakho.

Yintoni enokuyilindela kwikamva elikufutshane, ukuba ngabafileyo abafayo bephupha?

Ukuthetha ngokubanzi, lo mfanekiso unokutolika njengexesha elitsha ebomini wephupha. Kungenzeka ukuba utshintshe umsebenzi omdala, isangqa saziwayo siya kutshintsha, ukufuduka okanye ukutshintsha indawo yokuhlala kungabandakanywa. Ngokutsho kwencwadi yephupha yekhulu lama-20, olu tshintsho luya kuba luncedo. Kodwa, ungazithembi ngokukhawuleza kwiinguqu ezibalulekileyo, ekubeni ukutolika kwesibili kwincwadi yephupha kungabhintsho kwimeko yemozulu.

Ukuba umntu oshonile uphuphayo, owaye wazama ukuphuma okanye ukulahla, oko oku kusenokuthi ukuba udibana nesiganeko okanye umntu owadlulileyo. Zama ukulahla ezi ngcamango, kwaye ubomi bakho buza kuzaliswa ngovuyo kunye nemvakalelo eqaqambileyo.

Ukuze umfazi abone umntu ofileyo ephupheni ephilileyo uthetha umtshato onoyolo kwaye oqinileyo. Kodwa engatshatanga, eli phupha likwazi ukuxela uxolo olude. Kubantu, umfanekiso onjalo unokubonisa ubunzima emsebenzini, kodwa ekugqibeleni, oku kuza kuphucula impumelelo kunye nokuchuma kweshishini lakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba lo mntu uthetha. Kwenzeka ukuba kwiphupha elilula ungayifunda imfundiso eluncedo ekusebenzeni kule nto okanye kuloo meko.

Umtoliki weTshayina uZhou-gong uphinde unikeze inkcazo ecacileyo, ngokubhekiselele kulo li bali libonisa ukufika ngokukhawuleza kwezihlobo ezikude. Nangona kunjalo, ukutolika oku kusebenza kuphela kula maphupha apho umphupha wabona ubungqina bendoda efile ephuma engcwabeni okanye ebhokisini. Ukuba abafileyo abafayo babekho nje ebhokisini, oku kuthetha ukufumana inzuzo (ukufumana i-lottery) okanye ukunika isipho ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa, kule ncwadi yephupha, unokufumana ezinye iinguqulelo. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukubona iinyembezi okanye iimvakalelo ezimbi zomntu oshonile ngumqondiso wokuba ngobomi bokwenene uya kuxabana okanye ungene kwindawo engathandekiyo. Indoda ehlekisayo-iindaba ezilungileyo.

Ukutolika, ukuba bekuyiphupha lokuba umfi wavuka?

Ukujikela kumtoliki we-Gypsy, unokufumana inkcazelo enomdla kakhulu ekuzibona kwakho esecaleni kwabafileyo abavusiweyo kuthetha ubomi obonwabileyo obude. Ukuba abafileyo abafileyo abazange baziwayo kuwe, kwaye ubone uvuko lwakhe, ngoko-ke qiniseka-ubomi bakho buya kuba bude kwaye buzele izinto ezilungileyo.

Kwincwadi yephupha likaMiller, umntu ofile ovuselelayo unokuthetha ngesilumkiso malunga nezicwangciso ezicwangcisiweyo. Ngoko kwixa elizayo, akukho mfuneko yokugqiba nayiphi na intsebenziswano, kwanezo zibonakala zikhuselekile. Kwakhona, ungazami ukutyhala imali yakho naphi na, kuba ubeka ingozi ekulahlekeni kwabo bonke.

Njengoko sele uqondayo, nangona eli bali lingabizwa ngokuthi lihlaziye kwaye lithandeke, ngokubanzi, lithatha iinguqulelo ezintle kwaye zincomekayo. Kungenzeka ukuba kukho ihlabathi elingaphezulu, kwaye umntu oshonile ngokulala uzama ukuphucula ubomi bethu okanye ukusikhusela kwingozi.