Ekubeni umfana oye waqhayisa ukuba "ukhangele", ngoko ulwalamano lwakho lubiza ngokuba "lukhulu". Kubantu, eli linyathelo elixanduva kakhulu kwaye ndikholelwe, akuyiyo yonke intombazana ezukileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, usoloko uxoxe ngeentsapho zakho, indlela okhuliswe ngayo ngabazali, abalinganiswa nomama nobaba. Ngoko yonke le ngcaciso mayiyikhunjulwe kwaye isebenzise ngobuchule. Yonke into izakufika ngokufanelekileyo, ngokusukela kwinto abayifumene kuyo nalapho bafuna ukuphumla khona, ekugqibeleni uluhlu olupheleleyo lweentsapho.
Yenza ngokwakho ukuba ulwaziyo nawuphi na umcimbi ungenakugwema, ukuba uceba ukudibanisa isigqibo sakho nalo mntu. Ekuqaleni, unike ithuba lokukhetha usuku kunye nexesha lokudibana nabazali balo mfana. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonisa intlonelo ngombono wabo nangaphambi kokuba uqhelane nabantu.
Zixakeke phambili malunga neentetho ezincinci. Kwintlanganiso yokuqala akufuneki ukuba unike into engabalulekanga. Ikhekhe lomdabu okanye i-pastries ifanelekile. Ukuba upheka kakuhle, lixesha lokubonisa ubuchule bakho. Musa ukulibala ukucacisa ukukhethwa kweenkcubeko zokuba abazali bakho isiqingatha. Emva koko, amaqebelengwane anokuzaliswa okuthandayo ngumama-mkhwenkwe uya kuba nokuthanda okuninzi ngaphezu komqulu owenziwe ngobisi, onokuthi unobungozi.
Kwakhona, njengesipho kuya kuba kufanelekile ukubonisa into enxulumene nezinto zokuzilibazisa zabazali. Kodwa qaphela xa ukhetha kwaye uqiniseke ukuba udibana nomntu obathandayo ngaphambi kokuthenga - uyayazi into ebalulekileyo yintsapho yakhe.
Ngaphambi kokuba ulungele intlanganiso, cinga ngokubonakala kwakho. Ukuba intando yakho ayiyena i-rocker eneenwele ezinde, kwindlela abaqhele ngayo ukuba intsapho ikwazi ukuba yinto efanelekileyo, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukugqoka kungekhona ngokugqithiseleyo nangokwemvelo. Gcina ukulinganisela, ukuba ebomini ukhetha izambatho eziqaqambileyo kunye nezinye izinto eziphathekayo, kwaye uyazi ukuba kuza ku "ugqoke" ugqoke, kuya kuba luhlobo lobuqhetseba. Mane uthabathe ubuncwane obunqabileyo obuninzi uze ufake indawo yengubo ye-mini kunye neebhulukhwe. Ngoko uya kuhlala uhlala wena, kodwa awuyi kutyhwankqisa abazali bakho abakhathazekile.
Ngokuqhelekileyo intlanganiso iqhutyelwa kwindlu yabazali bomntu, ngokungaphantsi kancinane kwintsimi engathathi hlangothi, umzekelo, kwi-cafe. Nanku sele usesemngceleni, uthandekayo wakho wakuzisa kwaye uya etafileni. Ayaziwa ukuba uza kwamkelwa njani, ngoko ulungiselele nantoni na. Impembelelo yokuqala ayikho into ebalulekileyo ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye ilungile, zama ukungayonakalisi.
Qinisekisa ukuba unikezela ngoncedo lwakho ekusebenzeni itafile, kodwa ungabikho nto. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhetha okuthandayo, jonga ukutya okuphekiweyo. Akuyimfuneko ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala. Ewe, oko abazali abanokukuthanda kukuba umntu okhethiweyo wonyana wabo uyaphuza ngokukhawuleza ibhotile yewayini kwaye akanakunxila. Yishiye iirekodi zakho zokunxila kumaqela kunye nabahlobo. Kungcono ukuba ungaphuzi okanye uphuze i-champagne nonke.
Abazali besiqingatha bakho bafuna ukwazi apho ufunda khona okanye usebenza. Kuya kuba kukufanele ukukuxelela indlela odibene ngayo nendodana. Kulungile xa iqabane lakho lixhasa incoko, kodwa ayithethi ngasemva. Kukhona imibuzo abanokuyifuna ukwazi ngombono wakho - ngokubonisa ubomi bakho besikhathi esizayo, kwaye kungekhona nje kuphela, kodwa ngokubanzi. Unokuthanda kangakanani ukuba nezingane, ungathanda ukuhlala phi, kwindlu okanye kwindlu.
Zama ukungayithobeli ingqalelo kwimibono yokuvavanya, kwaye kuya kwenzeka nayiphi na imeko, kuba abazali bahlala behamba ngokunyamekela, kwaye oku kusemvelo. Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko awukho indlela yokukholisa abazali besiqingatha (owaziwayo kuqala), kodwa ukuba ubazi ngakumbi kwaye uzama ukubopha ubudlelwane obuhle, kwaye uvelwano luya kubonakala kamva.
Abazali abaninzi baya kuvuyiswa ngoluvo lwakho malunga nabo. Oku kudlalwa ngamava okhethiweyo, kwaye iipapa zihlala zizinzileyo okanye ngokuchaseneyo zikhupha intetho okanye zikhuphe imeko, kwimeko apho.
Imixholo engathathi hlangothi malunga ne-cinema, i-theater, imozulu ekupheleni iya kulungelelaniswa. Buza ukukubonisa ii-albhamu zentsapho - mhlawumbi abazali bafuna ukubonisa iifoto zabo zentsana zisencinane. Fumana kwangaphambili oko kuza kusasazwa kwiTV ngexesha le ntla nganiso, mhlawumbi ukubukela ikhonsathi yomama-mkhwenkwe ozayo ngokuza kukuphakamisa emehlweni akhe.
Ukulahla iingxelo kunye nezihloko ezibukhali. Shiya ingxoxo kwiingxaki zomgaqo-nkqubo kuphela xa abadibaniselwano bakho bengenalo uxanduva ngqo kunye neembono zakho kubalulekile kubo.
Thetha malunga nentsapho yakho kuphela, mhlawumbi unobungozi ekuqaleni ukubeka abantu. Zonke iingxaki zeentsapho akufanele zibe zikarhulumente.
Ukuqwalasela ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali abathandekayo, indlela abathethana ngayo, ngubani owona mntu oyintloko kwintsapho, ngenxa yokuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kwakha intsapho efana nayo.
Khumbula ukuba ukhangele emehlweni abo intombazana engaziwayo ofuna ukutshata nomntombazana wabo othandekayo kwaye ulindele ukuba abo bathethekileyo bayamkele ngobuqhetseba. Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba uzakufumana ngokukhawuleza ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba unentlonelo kwintsapho yendoda, kwaye unayo.
Ngaba kufanelekile ukukhumbuza imilinganiselo emihle? Amazwi okubulela ngesidlo sasemnandi okanye isidlo sakusihlwa, nceda ufumane iresiphi (kuphela ukuba uthanda ukupheka, ngaphandle koko kuya kufuneka ulungele ukulindela umama-mkhwenkwe-mzayo). Musa ukuhlala ixesha elide, nokuba ngaba awufuni ukuhamba. Ekugqibeleni, khombisa ukutyelela ukubuyela.
Khumbula ukuba sonke sakhuliswe kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo, sinabantu abalifani kunye neembono kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi, kodwa ukuba zifunwa, ulwimi oluqhelekileyo lunokufunyanwa kuwo wonke umntu, ngakumbi nabazali bomntu othandekayo, esikufunayo.