Kutheni i-boyfriend isoloko ithi ndiphosakele?

Kukho izibini apho indoda isoloko ivakalelwa yintlonelo, kodwa umfazi wayo ucinga ukuba uyisicwenge. Uhlala ekhumbuza njalo oku kwaye uphendule ngokulandelelana kuwo nawaphi na amagama akhe kunye neziphakamiso: awukho. Kutheni abafana benza oku, kwaye yintoni isizathu sokuba nesimo sengqondo esibi sengqondo lomfazi?


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Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda awakwazi ukuqonda njengoko afuna ukubonakala. Kwaye emphefumulweni bayazi ngokwale nto, kodwa evebeni abavumanga. Ukuba eceleni komntu onjalo ngumfazi onobuqili kwaye onobuqili, kuba umfana lo uphenduka kuba ngumsindo. Uyayiqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba intombazana inokubangela abanye ukuba bangaboni kakuhle. Kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba uya kulahlekelwa igunya lakhe phambi kwabahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Ngokwemvelo, le ntombazana ayiyithandi le ngxelo. Akafuni ukuwa kwi-footestal yakhe kwaye uqala ukuthoba ubunzima bentliziyo yakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo aba bantu abaphulaphuli nhlobo. Ngokukhawuleza xa intombazana iqala ukuthetha, ngokukhawuleza imemeza ukuba ayilunganga kwaye ayiyazi nto. Yaye indoda ayikwazi ukuchasana nale ingentla, ngoko imeko ikhetha ngokumemeza, amahlaya angamnandi okanye uxinzelelo lokuziphatha. Kwimeko enjalo nomfana akunakwenzeka ukuphikisana okanye ukuphikisana, kuba akafuni ukwazi inyaniso. Ufuna nje ukufihla amandla akhe engqondweni.

Ukubonakaliswa kobuxoki

Ngelishwa, kukho iimeko ezinzima kwaye ezingamnandi apho umfana ezama ukubonisa ukuba intombi yakhe ayilungile. Ngokungafani nabantu abadumileyo, abadeleli bahlakaniphile kwaye banengqondo. Bayazi kakuhle kakuhle into yokuthetha nokuba kuphi. Kwaye kwiingqondo zengqondo, amantombazana ayathandabuzeki esidlangalaleni kuphela kuba ayazi ukuba umntu ucinga ngakumbi, kunzima kakhulu ukuyilawula. Kubudlelwane be-despot kunye nexhoba, ulawulo luyisiseko. Amacebo awazange avumele abafazi babo ukuba bacinge kwaye benze izigqibo ngokwabo. Xa i-despot iqala ukuthetha nomntu, ibeka "i-pseudocontact".

Yintoni esiyithethayo? Ukuqhagamshelana nabantu, sihlala sibuza into ethile, sinomdla kunye njalo njalo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abantu abafuni ukudibana nathi. Izidumbu ziyazi indlela yokusebenzisa ingqondo yethu ngendlela ebonakala ngathi kuthi le ncoko iyimfuneko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, okokuqala, intombazana ayiboni ukuba inkwenkwe yakhe ingumntu ongekho. Uqinisekile ukuba le nkwenkwana iyakhathalela kwaye izama ukukunceda kuyo yonke into, ichane apho engalunganga khona. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, ixhoba le-despot liya kuphutha kuyo yonke into. Uhlala emele alalele i-tirades epheleleyo kuba engayazi nto kwaye akanako. Yintoni le? Kulula kakhulu, ngale ndlela i-despot "ibophelela" ixhoba kuye kwaye ifuna ukugxininisa engqondweni yakhe ukuba ayikwazi ukwenza nantoni na kwaye iya kuphelelwa ngumhlaba ngaphandle kwomebe yakhe eqinile kunye nentloko ehlakaniphile.

Enyanisweni, wonke umntu u-despotrevalno uqikelela ubunzima beengqondo zeqabane lakhe kunye nobulumko, ngakumbi uyaqinisekisa ukuba umfazi ochasene naye. Ngaphandle kokuziqonda, kwizenzo zakhe ezichaziweyo zikhokelwa nguloyiko lokulahleka. Akafuni ukuhlala ngaphandle komfazi othandekayo, kodwa ucinga ukuba kungenakwenzeka ukuba umgcine. Ukongezelela, iindwendwe zizama ukwenza kwimizuzu yazo abantu abafanelekileyo ababezicingela zona. Ngoko kuvela ekubeni ugxeke umfazi wakhe, umntu okhohlisayo uzama ukulungelelanisa kwimigangatho. Ukuba oku kungenzeki, le ntombazana iphosakeleyo. Ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo kukuphulwa kwengqondo. Ukuba isibini asikwazi ukuwamkela imbono eyahlukileyo yedwa, ngoko ngokucacileyo akayena mntu owaneleyo. Labo abanesimo esicacileyo sengqondo abazange bahlupheke ngolo hlobo. Amadoda anjalo anika abafazi babo inkululeko yokuzikhethela kwaye bafuna ukuba bazinye, bafunde into entsha kunye njalo. Ngokukodwa akukho bungoyiko obukhulu bokushiywa. Ukuba umntu nanini na umva umva umlomo wakhe kumfazi kwaye uyamqinisekisa ukuba akalungile, kwaye ke isigqibo sikulungele - oko kuthetha ukuba, phambi kwethu ngumntu ophazamisekileyo ongenakukwazi ukuvavanya ngokoqobo.

Kule meko, loo mfazi uyeka ukuba nelungelo lokuvota. Indoda nje ayiyiva kwaye ayifuni ukuva uluvo lwakhe. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuxhomekeka kungabonakala ngakumbi okanye kungacaci. Ukuba umntu uyazi kakuhle oko akwenzayo, uxela lo mfazi ngenxa yokuba akanalo ilungelo lokwesabisa kuye aze amqinisekise ukuba akanakuphila ngaphandle kwakhe, kuba akukho mkhuhlane onobuqili kwaye uyisidenge. Abo baqapheli ihambo yabo bacinga nje ukuba ibhinqa liphosakele, kuba akaziphathe ngendlela enokucinga ngayo. Xa uthetha ukuba uyaphilile, umfana uyayichitha intombazana, imenza afuneke. Akakwazi ukuqonda ukuba ngubani olungile kwaye ngubani ongalunganga. Kwaye ukuba umntu unengqondo ebukhali, unokudibanisa lo mfazi ukuze ekugqibeleni, uya kukholelwa ekusiphatheni kwakhe budenge, ukujonga okufutshane kunye nokungahlambuluki. Ngaloo ndlela, i-despot iya kufumana ngokupheleleyo ukulawula kwayo kwaye iyayilawula yonke impilo yakhe. Ibhinqa, ngokukhawuleza, liza kufikelela kwisigqibo sokuba akunakwenzeka nantoni na, ngoko uya kuhlala ehlala engqondweni yendoda yakhe kwaye kumzuzu othile uya kuqala ukuthetha ukuba uhlala ephosakeleyo kwaye kufuneka athule, kuba iqabane lakhe liyazi , indlela yokungena ngokufanelekileyo.