Injongo ijonge ubomi
Ukuphila ubomi obuphilileyo, kufuneka ube nenjongo ethile. U-Austrian wengqondo u-Victor Frankl wabhala kakuhle ngale nto kwincwadi ethi "Umntu ekukhangela intsingiselo". Wafika kwisigqibo sokuba kwinkampu yoxinaniso, owayengumbanjwa wakhe, abo babenomqondo wokuphila kunye nezizathu zokulwa ubomi bangaphila.
Ukongezelela, ukusuka kwimithombo emininzi yonyango (nakwamava akho), siyazi ukuba abantu abazama injongo ethile kwaye benza izicwangciso zobomi besikhathi esizayo banokubekezelela izifo ngaphezu kwabo bazinikezele kwaye balahlekelwa umdla kubo. Ngaphandle kweenjongo ebomini, sisakhawuleza sikhulile, silahlekelwe amandla kwaye sinxanelwe ubomi.
Qaphela ukuba impilo yabantu abaye bahlala phantsi ngokukhawuleza ngaphandle kwezicwangciso zobomi obungakumbi. Ukwenza imali kunye nomsebenzi sele sele ungathandeki. Abantwana bakhula kwaye bazimeleyo. Yintoni yokucinga? Kufuneka ufumane oko ukholwa ngayo yonke intliziyo yakho. Faka igama elithi "yintoni" kunye negama elithi "ngubani". Ungazami ukushiya isayinini kwisheke, ngoko akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Sebenzisa ixesha lakho. Makube nesizathu sokuvuka ekuseni.
Indlela yokujongana nemikhwa emibi
UDeborah Mackinnis, usekela unobhala weqhinga nophando kwi-Marshall School of Business, wenza uphando lwezesayensi lulwazi. Ngeqela lakhe, wafunda indlela ezahlukileyo ngayo kunye nezimo zengqondo zikunceda ukulwa nesilingo. Abathathi-nxaxheba kulo mvavanyo bahlulwe ngamaqela amathathu. Ngamnye wabo wayemenywa ngokwahlukileyo egumbini apho kwakukho intlekazi enomdla kunye nemigodi ye-chocolate.
Enye into yayikhunjuzwa ngesimo secala abaya kuba nayo xa badla ikhekhe. Abanye bacetyiswa ukuba bacinge ukuba bayaziqhayisa njani ngokubonisa amandla. Iqela lesithathu lishiywe ngaphandle kwemigaqo. Ngenxa yoko, amalungu eqela lesithathu adla kakhulu, kwaye abo baphoqelelwe ukuba bakhumbule ngokukratshi - ubuncinci.
Kubonakala ukuba umva wecala awunamsebenzi ophantsi kwaye unika amandla angaphantsi okulwa nezilingo kunokuba uzikhusele. Nabani na umntu uhlala ehlangana nesifiso sokwenza into enomtsalane, kodwa kungeyona ingqiqo okanye eyingozi kwimpilo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukunqoba izilingo ezinjalo? Impendulo: ewe. Qhathanisa ukuzonwabisa oya kufumanayo xa ungayichasisi izilingo, ngeqhayiya eliza kuvela kuwe xa uhlala kude nezenzo ezingenangqiqo.
Amandla Ophilisa Othando
Njengoko uphando lubonisa, abantwana abangenalo uthando bayakhula kancinci kunokuba bafanele. Kwaye abo babethandwa kakhulu ebuntwaneni, bafumana ubunzima beemvakalelo xa bekhulile. Ngaphandle kothando, sitshabalalisa. Yonke into eyenziwa ngumntu ebomini, ngaphandle kweyona nto ijoliswe ngqo kwi-physical survival, wenza egameni lothando.
Isidingo sethu sokwamukelwa kunye nentlonelo ayikho nto ngaphandle kwesidingo esilungileyo sothando. Kwaye sikhala, sihlazo okanye sijwili, simbiza ngokukhawuleza. Ukubonakalisa umsindo kuwukubonakalisa ukwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa. Uhlangabezana njani nomntwana okhalayo? Ngaba uya kumjezisa ngokumemeza? Okanye uyamkela ngothando? Kutheni ungenzi okufanayo kunye nomlingane onomsindo okanye umntwana osemtsha?
Yonke into, kunye nokuba mhlawumbi, iingxaki zibangelwa uthando olungathandwayo okanye uphando olungaphumeleliyo. Yintoni eyenziwa rhoqo kwizibhedlele zaseMerika ezigulane ezilala phantsi? Baziswa kwizinja, baqeqeshwe ukukhahlela izandla zabo baze bahlale ecaleni kombhede ukuze bakwazi ukubanjwa. Yintoni le? Ngokunikela nokufumana uthando, siphilisiwe.
Iimbono ezithandekayo kunye neenkcukacha-encwadini ethi "Iingcamango ezintsha malunga nophuhliso lomntu."