Indlela yokufunda ukuzonwabisa

Kwili hlabathi lanamhlanje, igama elithi "ukuzonwabisa" lisetyenziswe rhoqo kwiimpawu zentengiso kwaye zixhunyaniswa ngokuthe ngqo kunye nokusetyenziswa kwemali. Ibinzana elithi "ukuzonwabisa kufuneka lihlawulwe" litshanje lithathwa ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokwemeko yobudlelwane bemali yempahla. Kwinqaba "yolonwabo" sibongoza nakwezo zihlandlo xa sithetha ngesondo nokutya. Kwaye konke oko. Siyicinga ukuba yinto ephosakeleyo kunye neyakhethiweyo: i-whim, i-nonsense okanye i-whim. Cinga ngokucingisisa ngayo kwaye ungalokothi sizibeke ngokwenjongo yokuyifumana. Kukho ukuvakalelwa kukuba ukuba asizange sidle, asizange senze izibhedlele kwiibhedi kwaye singadlanga zonke iintlobo zeemveliso kunye neenkonzo, ubomi bethu buya kubanjelwa konke ukuzonwabisa. Indoda yefilosofi esidumileyo u-Epicurus, efundile ngale meko yezinto, yayiya kuba buhlungu kangangokuba esikhundleni seglasi yewayini, eyayicela ukuba ayizise ngaphambi kokuhlamba ekufeni kwakhe, wayeya kuyala i-vodka.

Ukuzonwabisa kwakungenye yeengcamango eziphambili kwifilosofi yakhe, kodwa ungabhali phantsi indoda endala kwinqanaba lezinto ezilungileyo. Yaye kunye noDionysus - unkulunkulu we-winemaking kunye nokuzonwabisa - akufanele kudideke. Iimfundiso ze-Epicurus azikwazi ukuncitshiswa ekufowuneni ukuzonwabisa ubomi ngokuzeleyo-kuninzi kakhulu, inomdla kunye nengqondo. Akumangalisi ukuba ininzi yeengcali zeengqondo zenkulungwane ye-20 zathintela kuye.

Theorist of buzz
U-Epicurus akazange akholelwe emva kokufa, nangona akazange aphike ubukho boothixo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokombono wakhe, bahlala ubomi babo, bafumana ukungabandakanyeki kubantu. Ngokwefilosofi, loo ndoda ngokwakhe wayenomphefumlo wakhe kwaye wayenalo intando. Ngombulelo abantu bakhe babefanele bafikelele kummandla we-balance-inaraxia. Endleleni eya kule njongo, u-Epicurus wacetyiswa ukuba agxininise kwiimvakalelo zakhe, ecinga ukuba umthombo othembekileyo wenkcazelo ngaphandle kokuqiqa. Ewe, kwinkqubo - ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zabo, ukuzonwabisa kunye nokunciphisa intlungu kunye nosizi. Ngaloo ndlela, inxalenye yemigaqo eyayikhokela ingqondo yengqondo yanamhlanje, yakhiwa nangaphambi kwexesha lethu.

Sonke sinokuningi ukufunda kwi-Epicurus. Umzekelo, kubiza ngaphantsi ukucinga nokuvakalelwa ngakumbi. Kwakhona-ke, uthathe isithuba ezandleni zakho, uqaphele iimfuno zangempela ezihamba ngokugqithiseleyo kuludwe "lwesini-ukutya-ukuthenga ukutya," kwaye ungasayi kubuyiselwa ukufumana ukuzonwabisa kwangaphambili.

Ifilosofi ye-Epicurus inobulumko, inobulumko kwaye isilumko kuba akucaci isizathu sokuba sisiphila ngexesha le-epicurean eyinqobe. Kungenokwenzeka ukuba, ukucacisa into enyanyekayo ngenxa yokuba sonke sathonywa yimiqathango yokuziphatha yenkolo, apho zonke iintlobo zokuzonwabisa zazingavunyelwe kwaye zibophelelwe ngetyala. Nangona kunjalo, eqinisweni, bobuKristu kunye no-Epicureanism basibizela ukumodareyitha. Ukuphishekela ukuzonwabisa olutsha kunye ntsha kukhokelela ekungalinganisweni kwangaphakathi. Akukho i-ataraxia ayikwazi ukufezwa ngaloo ndlela.

Izintlu azibonakali
Abazali banamhlanje bafundisa ukufundisa abantwana babo zonke iintlobo zezinto. Bakhuthaza ngokuzikhandla, abathobelayo, abanengqiqo, abantwana abaphumelelayo, abafundisa izakhono zobunkokeli okanye ukukwazi ukuzidela kwabanye. Kodwa ingcamango yokuhlaziya ngokufanelekileyo kwi-spinogryzah yabo ukuzonwabisa ubomi ekhanda ayifiki kumntu. Nangona, ukuba ucinga ngako, lo buchule yiyona iparachute ephambili, ekhutshwe kwiimeko ezinzima. Into elula nje njengolonwabo, iqinisa kwaye iqinisa umnqweno wokuphila, ukukhupha kwiimeko ezixinzezelekileyo, yiyona nto ibangela ukuba ikhuthaze. Kwakhona yinto engokoqobo yokwaphuza utywala kunye nokukhwabanisa, kwaye ngoko ke umlutha.

Xa inkqubo yomsebenzi ngokwawo iyamnandi, umzila uyeka ukufana nokunyuka kwaye uguquke ube ngumendo ovuyo kwiindawo ezibonakalayo. Kakade, endleleni iya kuba nehla kunye nokunyuka. Kuya kuba nokhathala. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokufikelela kwiziphumo ezibalulekileyo, unako ukumisa kwaye ugubhele ukunqoba, kwaye kuya phambili kuya kuba lula. Njengoko Imisebenzi enkulu neyikrakra ibonakalise ngomzekelo wakhe: "Khangela into oyifunayo kwaye awuyi kuphinda usebenze kwakhona."

Intombazana evela kwihagu efanelekileyo
Ukungavumi ukungafuni ukufumana uxolo kunikwa ngabazali abafundisa abantwana rhoqo kunye nayo yonke into yokunika abanye, bacinge kuqala ngabanye, kwaye ke ngoko ngokwabo, ukuba "intombazana ethobekileyo" kunye "nenkwenkwe efundiswe kakuhle". Ngokomgaqo, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngale ngcamango, ngamanye amaxesha kubaluleke kakhulu ukucinga ngokuqala nangakumbi kwixesha elizeleyo, kwaye ungayi kuvula ingxabano. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda komntwana ngolwazi oluthile oluvela kubazali lunolwazi olulodwa: longeza kwisivakalisi "rhoqo". Oku kubangela ukuba, xa ekhulile, umntu uphelelwa ukuba akakwazi ukucinga ngaye, ukuvikela imida yakhe nokuqonda iimfuno zakhe. Uba ngumama uTeresa okanye uBatman, uhlala esindisa wonke umntu kunye nayo yonke into. Ngenxa yoko, bakhathala kwaye bacasulwa, "intombazana ethobekileyo" ijika ibe ngumsindo kunye nebhola yebhola, kwaye "inkwenkwe ekhulelwe" engalokothi isebenze emkhosini iququzelela umhla weparatrooper kwindlu ehlukeneyo.

Ukufumana nokufumana iziyolo ngenye yeendlela zokwazi. Umntu ongazi ukuba uyayinyamekela njani, enyanisweni, akanakunyamekela abo bathandekayo, kuba siphatha abanye ngendlela efanayo neyintanda yethu. Impembelelo emangalisayo, uncedo, usindiso kunye nothando lulungile kuphela xa bezisa umnxeba, kwaye ngoku koko akubanga imbandezelo engathandeki ngendlela yokucaphukisa. Ngaphandle koko bafuna ukutshintshiselwa iinkonzo ngezinye iintlobo zembuyekezo ngendlela yokuqwalasela okanye ukuvavanya okulungileyo. I-Pleasure iba uhlobo lwenqabileyo evumela ukuba uhambe kwiindawo zobomi bakho. Umbuzo "ukuba into endiyithandiyo, ngoko kutheni ndiyenza?" ingaba yintloko ekuziqondeni wena apha nangoku.

Iwayini azifizi zodwa
Kwezinye iintsapho, iimpawu zigqithiselwa kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana: "Musa ukuhleka kakhulu, ngoko uya kukhwaza." Ngaloo ndlela, kungekuphela ukuhleka, kodwa kunye nanoma yimiphi imvakalelo emihle, kuquka ukuzonwabisa, ubuncinane, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ivalwe ngokupheleleyo. Ngethuba esandipha into ethile, umntu uqala ukuziva enetyala kwinkqubo, njengokungathi uthukuthelele oothixo okanye, kunoko, imimoya emibi yokhokho eye yagqiba isono ngokungahlali ujabule kwaye iyonwabile kakhulu. Kutheni? Mhlawumbi, ngokuqinisekileyo, ixesha elidlulileyo edlulileyo emva kwesiganeko esikhulu, kukho enye into elandelwayo - inzima kakhulu. Kwaye ke ngoko izazi zeengqondo zibiza ukucinga ngomlingo, okuqhelekileyo kubo bonke abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithandathu ubudala, kunye nabanye abantu abaphazamisayo kunye nabadala abasweleyo, baqhubeka.

Phantse wonke umntwana usemncinci ukholelwa ukuba: ukuba ukhangeleka kakhulu emafini, xa ufuna ukuhamba, baya kuchithachitha kwaye ilanga liya kuphuma. Kancinane kamva, esikolweni esiprayimari, sithola ulwazi malunga namaqhwithi kunye ne-anticyclones, kwaye sikhohlwe ukuba xa sithembele kumakhono ethu omlingo. Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iinkalo zobomi olunjalo ukholo luhlala nathi ebomini. Kwaye ekupheleni kweminyaka engamatshumi amathathu anamashumi mane, sinokusihlawula ngamagxa ethu kwaye sibhinqise phezu kweenkuni ukuze singayi ku-jinx. Ngoko sisekela ingcamango yokulawula iinkqubo zehlabathi, ukukwazi ukulawula ikamva elikrakra nelingalindelekanga.

Ukuba sishiya ingcamango yobubungqina bethu, siyazivuma ukuba asikwazi ukulawula ukungaqiniseki nangayiphi indlela, ngoko siyakwazi ukuphumla nokuzonwabisa. Kwaye kwimeko apho, ekuqalekeni komzuzwana omnandi omdala ebomini, iingcinga zivela entloko yakho malunga nendlela esondeleyo yeqela elimnyama, cingca imeko efana nale: jikela ngakwesobunxele okanye ekunene, uze uhambe kunye nomgca omhlophe, kunye kunye ...

Ekubeni bethu ubomi, izinto ezinonwabo ziindawo zengxubevange yezinto eziphathekayo, ezengqondo kunye nemvelo. Le ngongoma ebaluleke kakhulu yenkxaso, ekufumaneni ukuba unokukwazi ukuguqula ihlabathi ngokubanzi. Ukufumana kunye nokufumana imithombo yemvakalelo emihle yinto yokuzama ukufumana iimpendulo zemibuzo "Ndingubani na?", "Ndingubani namhlanje?", "Ndiyifunayo ntoni na?". Kwaye ukukhangela akuyona ingqiqo kwaye iyancipha, apho kulula ukudideka kunokuba ufikelele ekuqhelweni okubalulekileyo, kwaye uphile, kwaye ujonge kakhulu.