Ngoko, yintoni enye indlela efanelekileyo yokuyenza kwaye ungananga nini umfana okokuqala? Eyokuqala, kufuneka ubeke iliso ukuziphatha nokuphendula. Ukuba uthanda umfana, uya kukubanga . Inokwenzeka kakhulu. Mhlawumbi kuyamangalisa, kodwa ngoku ngoku kukho abantu abatsha abanokuba neentloni kwaye musa ukukhawuleza ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala. Ngaloo mntu, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uthabathe inxaxheba ezandleni zakho. Kodwa kha wuleza, ewe, akufanelekile. Okokuqala, machaze: wahamba nawe ngosuku okanye uyazi nje ukuba akazinandaba? Ukuba wakumema, musa ukukhawuleza izinto. Mhlawumbi uya kufuna iintlanganiso ezimbalwa ukuqonda indlela ekuphatha ngayo. Kukho abantu abanolwazi abangenawo nawaphi na amanyathelo baze bathathe isigqibo sokuba baya kuba nolwalamano olunzulu nentombazana. Ngoko musa ukukhawuleza. Ukuba uqonda ukuba ukunyaniseka okunjalo kukucaphukisa kakhulu, cinga ukuba ufanele ukuqala ulwalamano olunjalo. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba, mhlawumbi, intsha iyakucinga ngale ndlela ngendlela efana nayo yonke into ayithathayo. Kwaye ukuba sele uqonde ukuba konke oku akuhambisani nemigaqo kunye nemikhwa yakho, kuyafaneleka ukukhawuleza ukuchazela loo mfana ukuba akukho nto iya kuvela, ukuze ungamniki nethemba elingenanto nelingenanto. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala naye, zama ukunyamezela ngokuziphatha kwakho, ukudlala ngothando naye. Sekunjalo, amadoda, njengokuba uyazi, asisinyithi kwaye ukuba unokuzibonakalisa kakuhle, loo mfana akayi kukwazi ukumelana nokumanga.
Into ephambili kukuba, musa ukwenza i-vulgar kwaye musa ukugoba intonga. Ngokubanzi, ngomhla wokuqala, awukwazi kwaye ungamanga. Konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni unomdla omnye komnye, njani ukhululekile. Imigaqo yokuphila kunye nemigaqo yokuziphatha idlala indima ebalulekileyo. Kubo bonke abantu, bahluke, yintoni eyenza wonke umntu ayenzeka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba le ndoda ibonisa umdla kuphela kuwe, kodwa ngokucacileyo iyaxhala ukuza nokumema ngosuku, ngoko unokuzama ukubonisa isinyathelo ngokwakho. Mhlawumbi akayikholelwa kwintombazana onjengawe. Kule meko, kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba oku akunjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukunyanzela ukuba ufanele ukumanga ngokukhawuleza, okanye unokufumana ngamazwi. Ukuziphatha kwakho kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwaye uhambelane nemeko apho ukhona. Khumbula: ayikho esinye isisombululo esifanelekileyo kumntu wonke. Ngako oko, kungcono ukwenza izinto kwiimeko. Into eyona nto kukuba ukubanga kwakho akubukeka njengento yokutya okanye ukuhleka. Emva koko, kukho amaxesha apho emva kokubanga, bebona ukuba bayamkhangela, intombazana iyanyamalala nje okanye ithi yinto yokuhleka. Olu hlobo luzisa iintlungu kunye nokungaqondi, ngoko akunakwamkeleka. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokumanga umntwana, cingisisa ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuba naye kwaye ungatshintshi isigqibo sakho. Ewe, ukumanga kungenasici, kodwa kuvela kuye ukuba konke kuqala. Ngoko ke, ukuba ukumangazela akuyena nje ukumanga, kodwa ukuqala kobudlelwane, ungayiphathi kakuhle, okokuqala yenza oko, uze uzisole ngesenzo sakho.
Omnye umbuzo onokumnceda intombazana: kukufanelekile kumanga umntu, ukuba awuqinisekanga ngeemvakalelo zakhe? Nantsi yonke into, ngokuqinisekileyo, iyanzima nakakhulu. Inyaniso kukuba abantu abaselula abahlali baqonda kwaye bayamkela iimvakalelo zethu. Kungenxa yoko, kwenzeka ukuba umntu uhleka okanye ahlazise abantu. Ngako oko, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinyathelo esinjalo, kufuneka ube ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kweengcamango ukuvavanya umntu omtsha kwaye ucinge ngendlela azakuphendula ngayo xa engakuthandi. Kwaye kuya kwenzeka nayiphi na imeko. Ngokulula ukuba insizwa iyakubamba ngobubele, uya kuzama ukukuchazela ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba bubele kwaye oku kumana kuya kulubala kwaye kuyenze ukuba akukho nto eyenzekayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kubuhlungu kwaye kungathandeki, kodwa kulo mzekelo, akukho mntu uya kukucaphukisa kwaye angakuhlazisi. Okubi nakakhulu, xa umfana ephikisayo intombazana okanye emhlekisa esidlangalaleni. Kwimeko apho, uya kuba neentloni kungekhona phambi kwakhe nangaphambi kwakho. Ukongezelela, kuya kuba neentloni zobuqu, into enzima kakhulu ukunqoba. Ngoko cinga malunga nokuba ulungele ukuthambisa, xa kwenzeka ukungaphumeleli. Hlalani nikhumbule ukuba kwimeko yokuthandana, sithanda ukucinga abantu abatsha kwaye sibona kuphela okulungileyo kubo.
Enyanisweni, umfanekiso ongokoqobo, ngokuqhelekileyo, awukhangeleki kakhulu. Into yethu yokububula ayinokuba yinto enomusa kwaye enhle njengoko ibonakala ngaphandle. Yingakho, ngaphambi kokuba uthathe amanyathelo amakhulu, kufuneka uzame, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, ukulahla iimvakalelo uze ucinge ngendlela encinci. Ngaba ndifanele ndiphendule ngokunyanisekileyo kumbuzo onjalo: Ngaba ndinalo ithuba lokwenene naye? Ngaba uziva novelwano kum? Ngaba lo mfana kum? Ngamanye amaxesha, sithande isiqhamo esinqatshelwe, sicinga nje kuphela oko kuxabisekileyo kwaye kungavunyelwe, ukulibala ngokupheleleyo izinto ezibonakalayo zobomi. Kungoko, ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba usebenze ngokwakho, ufuna ubuhlobo bokwenene naye, xa le nsizwa ivuma iimvakalelo zakho.
Ubusiso bulula kwaye bunzulu kakhulu. Kwezinye iimeko, ayithethi nto, kwaye kwezinye iimeko ixazulula yonke into. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukubamba kuya kuba yinyathelo elinqabileyo, cingisisa ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ziphulaphule. Akukho mntu uya kuba ngumcebisi olungileyo njengengqondo yakho, intuition, kwaye, ke, intliziyo - kuphela baya kukuxelela xa ungamanga umfana okokuqala.