Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uphendule umbuzo, emva koko, ukuba ube ngumntu othethekileyo kwabanye-kubalulekile ukuba uqonde umthetho owodwa wegolide: ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumntu, apho imilayezo enokuthi iqhubekele phambili, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuthetha ngokuchanekileyo, kuba le nto icandelo elinalo. Khumbula ukuba zonke iimpendulo zakho kufuneka ziqwalaselwe kwaye zizilumko, kunye namahlaya - afanelekileyo kwaye akanakonakalisa. Oku kuya kukunceda udibanise umfanekiso omhle ixesha elide, abahlobo bakho baya kukukhumbula njengomntu onomdla ukuthetha naye.
Uya kuhanjiswa ngamandla enkonzo efanelekileyo kakhulu ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo nangempumelelo. Emva koko, ngamnye wethu ufuna ukuvakalelwa ukubaluleka kwayo. Umsebenzi wakho ukuqaphela umntu ngamnye into ekhethekileyo ukuba unokuziqhayisa, kwaye umxelele ngenyaniso. Emva kwakho konke, injongo yonkomazo nayiphi na inkxaso kukugxininisa into ethile ekhethekileyo kwaye ekhangayo kumntu-oko, kuvuma, kukuhle-ukufumana ukuncoma!
Ukunconywa unako ukugxininisa kakhulu - ukusuka kwisimo somntu okanye ukubonakala kwayo nakanjani nayiphi na inkcukacha yobomi. Into ephambili akuyikuyidlula, khumbula - yonke indawo kufuneka ibe nemilinganiselo. Ngamanye amancomo akho kufuneka asekelwe kwinyani yokwenene, ngaphandle koko iya kuba yi-sycophancy yesiqhelo. Thelekisa amagama amabini: "Oo! Yintoni enhle wena "kwaye" Umbala wale ngubo uhamba kakhulu kuwe. " Ngaba uziva umehluko? Ngoko ke, kunye nokuncoma okunyanisekileyo kuya kukunceda ukuba uzuze isihloko somntu ontle kwaye onomdla.
Ngendlela, ubude budade be talente, kwaye ezi nkomfa nazo. Ukuncoma kwakho makungabikho rhoqo ngaphezu kwesinye okanye izivakalisi ezimbini ngamagama akhethwe kakuhle, kwaye ingcamango ifanele ibe lula kwaye iyaqondakala.
Ungalokothi uxele uncedo xa ufuna enye into evela kumntu. Kule meko, kukulungele ukuhlala ucebile, kuba le mpawu ibonakala iyinto enyanyekayo. Ngendlela, abantu abanomdla bayazi ukuba bangathethi nje kuphela, kodwa nabo bathathe kwidilesi yabo. Njalo mbulela ukuncoma kwaye ungalibali ngokumamatheka.
Enye inkomfa endleleni eya emfanekisweni weqhawe elihle kukuziphatha kwakho kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Unomonde obuninzi kunye nohambo olufanelekileyo ludinga imeko xa, ngokuphendula kwisiphakamiso sakho okanye isicelo sakho, u-"class" "u-" "wahlulwa," okanye inkolelo engcolileyo yathengiswa kwidilesi yakho. Iingcebiso eziphambili kukuqonda imbono yombhikishi. Ewe, ukuba ungenalo uluvo lwakho kwaye ngenxa yoko, ukungena phantsi kwempembelelo yomntu kubi kakhulu, kuyamthintela umntu ngamnye. Soloko uphulaphule ngokucokisekileyo iingcamango zabanye, nangona ungavumi nxamnye nale nto. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokujonga izimvo zakhe, kwaye xa uva u-"cha" kwisigaba sakho, zama ukubonisa umdibanisi ukuba uyaziqonda ukukholelwa kwakhe, uze uxubushe ingongoma yakho. Into ephambili apha akuyikucaphukisa umnxibelelwano, kodwa ukuzibonakalisa njengomntu onomntu onobubele. Ukunyanzela akusayi kukwenza ulungile, kwaye kuyinyaniso. Nangona ikakhulu kuxhomekeke kwinkampani yakho, kuba ngamanye amaxesha ayithandi amathebhula kunye nezikhwebu. Umntu othe tye uya kuhlala ekwazi ukufumana indlela efanelekileyo neyovuyo ngaphandle kwimeko enzima kakhulu.
Ngendlela, ngomfanekiso womntu othe tye, into ephambili ayigcini nje ngamazwi, kodwa kunye nokubonakalisa ubuso, intonation. Emva koko, ezininzi iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo esizibona kuthi zibonakaliswe ngokubonakala kweso saso kunye nezwi lokubhaliweyo. Ngako oko, thuzela, khuluma ngokuzithoba uze uvule abantu. Kuzo zonke iingxabano kunye neengxelo zabanye bahlala bephendula ngobubele. Siyabulela kwesi sicwangciso sobomi onokufumana ukuhlonipha wena njengomntu ngamnye. Kufuneka ufunde 'ukukhanya' kunye nemihlali yolonwabo, ulonwabo, uvakalelo oluhle. Ndikholelwe, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kudluliselwa kwabanye abantu-kwaye unokuzihlawula kuphela ngamandla anamandla.
Ukuze uguqule konke oku ngasentla ebomini kwaye ube ngumntu othe tye, udinga uqeqesho olukhethekileyo. Nazi ezinye izifundo eziza kunceda ufumane kwaye udibanise le meko. Emva koko, ukufumana umfanekiso onjalo akuyona into elula.
Umsebenzi wokuqala endleleni yokufumana umfanekiso womntu onwabileyo novuyayo uya kuba yinto enjalo: ukususela ngomso, zama ukuvusa kwimeko enhle. Yiya esibukweni uze uzityumise - kholwa yinto, inceda kakhulu ukuziva ukuvisisana, okokuqala, kunye nam. Qala ngalokhu njalo kusasa, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphawula utshintsho olukhulu kwimeko yakho kunye nesimo sengqondo kwabanye.
Okwesibini umsebenzi wakho ungumbono ongenakuqondwa ngabantu. Ukuthetha nabanye, soloko ulungelelanisa okulungileyo. Yikholelwa ukuba phakathi kwakho kukho abantu abalungileyo nabanobubele onobubele bomphefumlo wakho. Kwaye ke wonke umntu, eziva amanqaku achukumisayo, uya kukubona njengomntu onomdla, endifuna ukumnxibelelana naye kwaye, mhlawumbi, abe nobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Umsebenzi wesithathu. Yiba nomonde kakhulu xa uthetha nabantu. Nangona zixhamla kwaye zingathandeki. Oku makube yinyani kuwe: wonke umntu ngumntu onemimiselo emibi nefanelekileyo. Ukuqhagamshelana nabantu abanesityebi, soloko ucinga ngento yokuba kukho nayiphi na ingcaciso kukho into ebalulekileyo kwaye ibalulekile. Oku kuya kunceda ubonise umntu onomgangatho obalaseleyo - awukwazi ukuphulaphula kuphela ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ukucebisa into efanelekileyo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni: faka le mi sebenzi ngokubhekiselele kwimibono yakho yobomi, kwaye ngoko uza kubona indlela yonke into eya kutshintsha ngayo. Khumbula ukuba umntu othe tye ngumntu othi, nangaliphi na imeko, unokuxhasa kwaye unike iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuphakamisa isimo sengqondo esibi, kungekhona nje ngelizwi okanye ihlaya, kodwa ngenxa yobukho balo. Inhlanhla kuwe!