Ungayiyeka njani ukukhathazeka ngexesha lokukhulelwa?

Umama ozayo unokuzisela iinyembezi into encinci: umlomo womyeni wakhe, ukuhlekwa ngumhlobo. Makhe sifunde ukuba singabacaphukisi ngenxa yezihlwele. Isikhalazo somyeni wakhe, oza kuba nguyise ngokukhawuleza: "Njengokuba umfazi wam utshintshwa. Ngenxa yokuba akukho sizathu esicacileyo, ngokukhawuleza uyazikhukhumeza, uqala ukugxeka zonke izono ezifa, ngoko uya kuhamba ukukhala. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndiyenza yonke into ukumkholisa. "Ewe, lo mfanekiso ufana neentsapho ezininzi apho zilindele umntwana." Umzimba womama wesikhathi esizayo uguquka imihla ngemihla, ama-hormone avukela, kungekhona nje kuphela into engathandekiyo, kodwa iphinde ivule Yintoni enyantlukwano ngokuqhelekileyo kubasetyhini abakhulelweyo kwaye bangafunda njani ukuzithoba kunye nezihlobo ezibekezelayo? Ukuyeka ukuthinteka njani ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye uhlale unethemba?

Nika indlela!

Ngomoto ongasemdeni ongena kwintombazana enesisu esikhulu, singakhange sibheke ngapha nangapha, kodwa abagibeli bonke baphupha ngokukhawuleza, okanye baphazamise amehlo abo. Unomama abaninzi bokamva bathi akunzima ukuma, kuthukisa ukuba abanye abantu bakuphatha ngokungakhathaleli. Yonke into engathandekiyo, xa emnyango wemoto "owesifazane okhulelweyo" oqinileyo ufunyanwa ngabantu abanobuqili kwaye ehla ngokukhawuleza esihlalweni kunye nohlobo lweengqungquthela. Ngelishwa, ihlabathi lethu alifezekanga, kwaye xa sidinga uncedo, akuyiyo yonke into eya kuphendula. Kule meko, kufuneka uthathe isinyathelo kwaye ubuze umgibeli ukuba akunike isihlalo - kungcono kunokuma nokuthukuthela kwihlabathi elimhlophe lonke, funda indlela yokucela uncedo kuwe.Abamama abaninzi bexesha elizayo abanqatshelwe. umfanekiso Ukuba awuqinisekisi ukukhulelwa kwakho, qiniseka ukubulela ngokulungileyo.

Umyeni onobungozi

Kukho amadoda afanelekileyo! Baya kwiivenkile, bapheke, kwaye bahlamba izitya. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi kungenxa yezizathu ezinjalo ukuba ezinye zivela kubafazi babo. Umfazi okhulelweyo ubheka kuphela ukungaphumeleli kubuhlobo. Ugugu ngokwalo, ekuziphatheni komyeni wakhe, uhlela amakhonsathi ukususela ekuqaleni. Ukulawula ukuziphatha komfazi akuyena umntu onobundlobongela, kodwa amahomoni. Yena ngokwakhe akayivuyo kunye naye. Ngenxa yokuzola unako ukunyathela kwiqhayiya lendoda. Khumbula: yonke into umfazi athi ngayo ngokukrakra kunye neinyembezi kuthethwa yi-hormone bursts, kungekhona ngokuqonda kwakhe. Ngokwamaxesha ngeyure, xa umama ozayo uya kuzincama kwaye ihlabathi liza kumdlala eminye imibala, uya kuba neentloni ngamazwi ahlaselayo. Utata ozayo ulungele ukumbamba umfazi onzima kwaye uthi: "Ndiya kukuthanda." Kwaye amafa aya kutshabalalisa. Oomama ozayo baya kufuna ukunyamekela kunye nokukhathazeka, kwaye xa bengacingi ukuba bayayifumana, kukho izikhalazo eziza ukuxabana kunye neengxabano, kodwa awukwazi ukubhala yonke into kwi-hormones.Ukuziqonda ngokwakho, uye kwi-psychologist. Mhlawumbi awunayo ukunakekelwa kwabazali okwaneleyo, kwaye ufuna ukuwufumana kumyeni wakhe, ukhangela umdla wakhe "ngamakhonsathi" kwaye engafuni ukukhula. Kuthekani ukuba indoda ingenzi umsebenzi owona mhle? Umzekelo, ungakhathazeki ukuba uzive njani, ungancedi ukuthwala iimbogi ezinzima, ungakhathazeki ngokuzalwa komntwana? Iingcali zicebisa ukuvuselela uxanduva lomlingane, ukuxelela uyise ozayo malunga neemeko ezinxulumene nokukhulelwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukumvumela ukuba aye e-puzik. Myeke isifuba sakhe, sithethe nomntwana, kwaye iimvakalelo zikayise ziya kuvuka. Unxibelelwano olunjalo lubaluleke kakhulu - ngovelwano uthando luzalwa. Ukuba umyeni wakho uthanda ukulala embhedeni, uzama ukumqhubela kwisitoreli nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ekugqibeleni, bhala uluhlu lokuthenga. Amadoda amaninzi kulula ukwenza "ngokwemiyalelo."

Umama wam wesibini

Ewe, kunokwenzeka ukuba uvumelane nomyeni kwaye uxolelane ngokulula. Ngomamazala, imeko iyanzima. Nantsi into ephazamisayo: abaninzi abafazi baphupha abazukulwana babo, kodwa ngelo xesha bazondayo abazondayo abo banikela olu lonwabo kwientombi-zabo. Okanye abafuni ukungena kwindawo yabo, bancede, bakhuthaze baze baxhase. Xa umama-mkhwenkwe kwaye, ngokwenene, i-monster, kungcono, kunjalo, ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo. Kwaye ukuba akukho nto inokwenzeka, ngoko-ke into engabonakaliyo kwimeko, jonga i-rancor, njengokungathi ivela ngaphandle, idlale indima yombonisi. Kwaye kungcono ukwabelana ngokuxhalabisa phakathi kwabo kunye nomntu ongathathi hlangothi-isazi sengqondo.

Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ulwalamano lomalokazana luba lukhulu kangaka. Uxanduva lokuseka oonxibelelwano alugcini nje ngokuba "ngumama wesibini", kodwa kunye nomalokazana. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba xa ufika kwindlu yomnye umntu, awukwazi ukubeka imithetho yakho, kufuneka ulungelelanise nemithetho eqhubayo. umdlalo wokusinda, ukuxhatshazwa komntu oyedwa. Kwiimeko ezinje, nathi kufuneka sithethe.Kufanelekile ukuxelela uninazala ukuba akalahlekelwa yindodana yakhe.Dlala: Andiyikukhuphisana nawe, usengunyana wakho. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuba ihlabathi lijikeleze. Izicelo ezivela kumama wendoda zithathwa ngobutshaba, kodwa ngokudala intsapho yakho, ugcina iintsapho zokuqala, ngoko kufuneka uhloniphe izithethe ezisisiseko. Melana namazwi omkhwekazi (nangona kunjalo), khumbula ukuzithoba .Khumbula, Ngamanye amaxesha, endaweni yokumelana ngokunyanisekileyo kwesimo somntu, kungcono ukuhleka: "Nonke, Marya Ivanovna, uyazi, kodwa ndixelele, iphi ibhanki ye-raspberry jam? Masiphuze itiye ndawonye. "Umdlali owaziwayo wanikela umzekelo omhle wendlela yokufumana ubudlelwane obuhle kunye noninazala:" Xa ndiqala ukuya kwindoda yam, ndabona indlela imithwalo ehlambulukileyo ngayo kwaye Uninazala wayibona oku kwaye wathi: "Ndiyakuthanda." Ngoko ndafumana indlela kumama wamyeni wam, saza saba ngabahlobo. "

Iimeko zisola

Ukuba zombini umyeni ugcina, kunye noninazala igolide, umntu okhulelweyo uya kufumana ithuba lokuhlambalaza kwiimeko ezizungezile okanye ukuziphatha kwabanye abantu. Isizathu sezinyembezi siya kunceda nayiphi na into: ungabizi kumsebenzi ongenamdla osebenza nabo, indlu igxininisekile, imozulu iyingozi ... Umamakazi nomama wabantwana abathandathu uAlena Lebedeva icebisa abafazi abakhulelweyo ... ukuba bacinge nje ngabo, kodwa ngabanye. Okuthiwa yi-blues yabasetyhini abakhulelweyo (eli gama elihle-mhlawumbi lisuka kwi-American idiom ukuba live eluhlaza okomvu - libizwa ngokuba ngumhlaba ongaqinisekanga oomama besikhathi esizayo) akusiyo isizathu sokuba ngumfazi oziqhenyceleyo .-- Ukukhulelwa ngethuba elihle kunazo zonke ebomini babafazi abaninzi. Umama ozayo uhlala efana nomntwana, kwaye ufuna ukunyamekela, njengomncinci, kodwa abantu abajikelezayo bayamqonda njengomntu omdala kwaye banxibelelana ngesantya esifanayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, owesifazane okhulelweyo kufuneka akhangele kuye, enze izigqibo - nokuba ngaba isikhalazo sakhe sichanekile.

Zizinyame wena kunye nabathandekayo bakho

Ngokuqhelekileyo, musa ukwenza iimpazamo ukwenzela ukuba izikhumbuzo zokukhulelwa kwakho zazingcono kuphela! Zizinyame wena kunye nabathandekayo bakho. Ukukhulelwa kukuqala kohambo olude kakhulu omele uhambe nalo nomntwana wakho. Ngenxa yoko, kungcono ukuhlangana kunye nokuhamba. Ngaba umama wakhe unika kwakhona isiluleko esinobungozi kwaye uphazamise kwishishini lakhe? Funda ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo kule ndlela enzima emoyeni. Oko kubizwa, ukuchasa intshaba, ukuvuyela umama. Ukutshintsha imvelaphi ye-hormonal ngexesha lokukhulelwa kubangela ukukhuselwa kwamanani angaphandle. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ucaphukile kangakanani, gcina ucinga malunga neentlungu zokukhathazeka kwengqondo, okokuqala kwakho kunye nomntwana wakho. Zama ukunganaki yonke into engabangela iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, kwaye uxoxe ngakumbi kunye nosana.