Umama oselula kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili

Kudala ixesha elide ukususela kumantombazana esatshatileyo eneminyaka eyi-16-17 ubudala, kwaye abaneminyaka engama-20 bafumana isibini-esithathu esithandanayo. Ngenkulungwane ye-XXI, ukukhula komzimba kunye nokukhula komfazi kuphelile kuphela kwi-29 ubudala. Ngako-ke, iminyaka engama-20 - eli lixesha lomama omncinci kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili kuthathwa njengelutsha kakhulu. Kulo ulutsha zombini i-pluses kunye ne-minus zifihliwe.


Ulwalamano nabanye

Indlela yokuxelela otsha oselula, ukwazisa abazali? Ukuphendula okuqhelekileyo kwipapa elizayo: "Uphononongo alugqityiwe, akukho msebenzi onokuqonda, sincike kubazali bethu. Kwaye ngokubanzi, ndifuna ukuziphilisa - iinkampani, ukuhamba, ii-discos. Ngaba ufuna ukusigxotha konke oku? "Umama omncinci kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili kwimeko enjalo isizathu esona sizathu saloo mpendulo yomntu.


Isisombululo

Musa ukucaphukiswa ngamazwi anjalo. Emva koko, uthetha inyaniso. Amadoda avuthiwe kamva kunabasetyhini kwaye, ukuba umama omncinci engazange azi ukuba ubomi bakhe buza kubakhelwa njani, ngoko ke le ncinane ingakumbi. Ukuqonda le nto kukukhokelela ekusebenzeni okuchanekileyo nokuziphatha. Amava, kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuhlaziywa komama oselula kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili akuyi kunceda.


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Ukungabi nokunyaniseka okubangelwa ukungahlulwanga kwengqondo

Ikuvumela ukuba ukhangele lula kwizinto, ungakhathazeki ngezihlwele, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukukhokelela kwindlela yokuphila yokuphila-isikhungo, ukuphuma emsebenzini, iinkampani ezihlekisayo, ii-discos. Kukho ininzi imikhosi, isisu asiphazamisi, isibalo sihlala sisincinci njengangaphambili, asilimazi nantoni na, kodwa sibuhlungu, ngoko siya kumisa. Kodwa into ephambili akuyikuyidlula ukuze loo ntlungu ingapheli. Ukuvutha komzimba xa uzibona ukhulelwe kungakhokelela ekuziphatheni ngokukrakra kwixesha elizayo.


Isisombululo

Ukuze ugweme iziphumo ezibuhlungu kumama oselula kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili, yenza umyalelo wokutyelela ugqirha rhoqo. Ukuze ungabi mnandi kangaka, thabatha intombi kunye nawe, kwaye ukuba ungenayo, faka umculo wakho owuthandayo kumdlali kwaye ...


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Iingcamango malunga nolwalamano nosana lwakhe

Umntwana ubonakala njengomfanekiso omhle womdlalo othi "Oomama-Ntombi": inamba yelinen ebomvu eneenwele eziphosayo ezinqabileyo zingubo zihamba ngokukhawuleza kwinqwelo ebiza kakhulu, kwaye wonke umntu uyazithanda. Ebomini, inamba ayinakuchukumiseka rhoqo, inokukhala, i-croaks, icela ukuba idle, kwaye ayikwazi ukushiywa, njengedoli, xa umdlalo uphazamisa. Amantombazana, kwiintsuku zokuqala emva kokuzalwa, abhekane nenyaniso enjalo, adideke. Ngokukhawuleza banqume ukuba le yinto yabo yokuphela, ngoko bazama ukudlulisela uxanduva lomntwana kumnye wabadala (umama, umkhwekazi, umntanina), kwaye uvalelwa yecala.


Isisombululo

Ukulahlekelwa ukungahambi, uye endlwini apho kukho umntwana usana. Ungenayo indebe yetiyi, kodwa jonga "iintsuku zokusebenza" zomama omncinci. Buza ukuba mangaphi iiyure ngosuku alawula ukulala, ubukele inkqubo yokutya, ukuguqula i-diapers, ukugula kwesibongo.

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Ubaba omncinci akanakwenzeka ukuba abe ngumncedisi onobudala kwiminyaka yokuqala. Umama omncinci kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili aya ku funeka anqobe baneengxaki ezintsha kunye nezisombululo.

Amadoda ngokuqhelekileyo awathathi abantwana, ayesaba ukubalimaza, okwenzakalisa. Kodwa ukuba uyise omdala unokukwazi ukujamelana noyiko lwakhe, ke uneminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala akunakwenzeka.


Isisombululo

Zama ukuvuma kwangaphambili ekusasazeni iimbopheleleko kunye nopapa omncinane. Kodwa musa ukuzama "ukukhuphela ngokupheleleyo." Makuqonde ngokucacileyo indawo yakhe yokuxanduva. Yaye ungathathi isizathu sokuba umsebenzi wakhe ungumsebenzi, kwaye yakho ingumntwana kunye nendlu. Emva kwexesha elithile, uyise uya kudlala umdlalo webhola kwaye ufune ukufihla kunye nomntwana (ubulili bomntwana abukhathazeki), hlalani ngamadolo phambi kwekhompyutheni yekhompyutheni, niphathe umsila ocosiweyo kunye neCoca-Cola, ngamanye amaxesha mlibale ukumkhupha ngaphandle kwirejista kwaye nimenzele ukuhlanganisana ebusuku .


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Ukhokelo oluqinileyo kuluntu

Kule minyaka kubalulekile ukuba umama omncinane athathe indawo yakhe kuluntu, ukwenza umsebenzi. Kwaye kunqabile ukuba ngubani ngokuzithandela avuma ukutshintshana le nto ngeembiza kunye neentambo.


Isisombululo

Kwaye akudingeki ukuba utshintshe! Umama omncinci omncinci akayiyo yonke into yokuqala yokubingelela yonke into ebomini ngenxa yomntwana, aze ammangalele ngokungaphumeleli kwakhe. Iiyure ezimbini zokunxibelelana ngokusemgangathweni, ngexesha ohlala kuzo zonke izinto zokudlala, ukwenza, ukuhamba, ukulibala yonke into ehlabathini, uhlawule usuku lonke, usebenzise yonke indawo. Ungayeki ukusetyenziswa kwakho kobugcisa. Cacisa kwintsapho yakho ukuba umntwana uya kuphucula kuphela kamva. Ungesabi ukucela uncedo kumama wakho, uninazala okanye unina. Ukuhambisa imisebenzi: makabancedise ukupheka, ukusetyana, ukulala emini, kunye neyakho iya kuhlala iyonwabile kakhulu kumama osemncinci kunye nomntwana: iindaba ezinyanzelekileyo zobusuku, iiklasi, imidlalo.


Oku kunomdla:

Kwi-intanethi yeevenkile ezithengisa iimpahla zabantwana, abathengisi babuzwa ukuba babone okuthandwa ngababhinqa "abakhulelweyo". Ngoko, oomama abaselula bachonga ngokukhethekileyo i-diaper-loafers, kwaye oodade bajonga iingubo zabafana abaneminyaka engama-4-5! Kusuka kule miba kucacile ukuba yintoni uyise osemntwaneni ozalwa naye.


Nyaniso

Ngamanye amaxesha abazali abancinane banika abantwana ukuba bawaphathe ngamagama. Le nto ayikwazi ukuyenza, ngenxa yokuba sele ifumene amaqabane akhulileyo kumntu we-Masha noPetit okanye uKatyya noVova, umntwana wengqondo uyinkwenkwe. Utata nomama osemncinci kunye nokunye baya kuba ngabahlobo abalungileyo, abangenakuze bethande. Kwiminyaka engama-20 usenokuba uqonde ukuba abantwana abonwabileyo ngabazali abanolwazi kuphela.


I-Psychological Workshop

Kuninzi kwixesha elizayo lomama omncinci kunye nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili kuya kuxhomekeka kukuhlobo luni lwemodeli yentsapho oyithathayo njengomzekelo. Ukuba kwakukhona ukuqonda okufanayo kwintsapho yabazali, intombazana iveza njengomama, ikhuphe ngokwengqondo indlela yakhe yemfundo. Kwimeko engentle yentsapho, ngokuchaseneyo, ukwesaba ukukhulelwa komntwana, ukulahleka kobudlelwane obuyimfihlo. Kodwa nawaphi na amava, unokuthabatha amaphuzu ahle. Ingxenye nje yamantombazana nangaphambi kokuba kuzalwa kukwazi ukukhulisa umntwana, kwaye omnye uyazi ukuba AKAZI. Thatha iphepha. Yahlula kwiikholamu ezi-2 kwaye ubhale ngokunyanisekileyo into oyithandayo malunga nosapho lwakho kwaye ungenzani. Cela ukuba wenze okufanayo kumyeni wakho. Ngoku yenza uludwe lwemigaqo yentsapho. Ngobhaliso obunxele "iindlela ezingavunyelwe", kwaye ekunene uya kuhokelwa ekukhuliseni umntwana.