Abantwana abadala abayikukhawuleza ukuphuma kwidleke lomzali baze balwele ubomi obuzimeleyo, kwaye abazali, bebona ubuthathaka babo kubantwana, baya kubahawukela kwaye zonke iindlela zibakhusele ubomi "obunzima" obuzimeleyo. Imfundo yezemali yabantwana kufuneka iqalise ngobuntwaneni. Iintsana kufuneka zichazwe ukuba imali ifunyenwe ngabasebenzi kwaye ayizami ukukholisa yonke into yakhe. Mqeqesha ukuba alawulwe ngemali, kwaye, xa ekhula, akayi ku "gxotha" imali yakho.
Ulutsha lwangoku "luqhawula" iziseko zeSoviet kunye nokuzama ukuzitholela ngokwazo, zikholelwa ukuba akuzihloniphekiyo ukukhokelela indlela yokuphila. Uncedo lwezezimali kubazali kubafundi abadala abangazange bafumane uqeqesho alukwazi ukuba namahloni. Uqeqesho lithatha ixesha elininzi, kwaye, ngokufumana ngokuzimeleyo, umfundi uqala "ukuphosa" isifundo, esiza kuphazamisa ukusebenza kwithuba elizayo. Abantwana abadala, bezama ukungena ngokukhawuleza babe ngabantu abadala, zama ukushiya abazali babo ukuba baphile ngokwahlukileyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi kulungile, kodwa kwelinye - ukukhula kwangoko, umntwana angenza iimpazamo ezingafaniyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyayazi ngokwenene umntwana wakho omdala, indawo engqongileyo, makhe azame. Uncedo oluvela kubazali kufuneka luhlale lwanele. Akuyimfuneko ukuxelisa amazwe aseNtshona, apho emva kokupheliswa kwekholejini indlela eya kwikhaya lomzali ivaliwe kwaye akuxoxwa ngaso. Siphila kwelinye ilizwe, sineenkcubeko ezahluke ngokupheleleyo, enye yokukhuliswa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ngaphandle kwamanye amazwe imfundo eyahlukileyo. Kufundiswa ngendlela enokuthi umfundi ogqityileyo izifundo kwaye akanalo amava angakwazi ukufumana umsebenzi, ngenxa yokuba afundiswa kakhulu, kodwa kwilizwe lethu, ngelanga le nto ayikho.
Akuyimfuneko ukubonelela ngenkxaso-mali kubantwana abadala, ukuba sele befumana imali, nokuba ncinane. Kodwa baya kuba nefuthe lokufumana ngaphezulu kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, bafunde ukugcina. Ngokwenza okunye, abazali bayalimaza kakhulu abantwana babo, bahlakulele kwi-infantilism. Kwaye kufuneka bazame, ukuba uyise nomama basalinika imali.
Abantwana abadala, ngaphezu kwazo zonke, badinga icebiso lomzali. Ngaba ngabazali kufuneka bachaze indlela le "iphila ngayo umntu omdala." "Abantwana" baya kunkwantya yonke into kwaye abayi kuphuma ezintanyeni zabazali ixesha elide, kwaye abazali bahlala bebeka ityala ngale nto. Abantwana abanjalo abadala ngeke bazikhathaze ngokhathalela abazali asebekhulile, abayi kucinga ngento yokuba kunzima ukuhlala kwimpesheni encinci. I-inertia yabo iya kuthintela umlingisi. Kungekudala abantwana abanjalo abafuni ukwenza nantoni na, kodwa ngaba wenze ukuba kube njalo?
Ngokude abantwana bephantsi "kwamaphiko omzali", kamva baya kukhula. Banike inkululeko enkulu yokuthatha isenzo. Ukuba umfundi ufuna ukufumana imali, makabe esebenza eholide. Kuza kuphuhlisa ngokukhawuleza uxanduva. Abantwana bakhula kwaye iimfuno zabo zikhula, kwaye ukuba uyaqhubeka nokukhusela ngaphezulu, ubuchule bakho bezemali abuyi kubalwa ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana ophangiweyo uya kubakho konke okufunekayo, kodwa ngegama elithi "hayi" ongaziqhelanga. Akukho nto ngaphandle kwama scandals, ukuhlambalaza kwidilesi yakho, awuyi kuva, kuba bona ngokwabo baxanduva lwemeko yangoku.
Yiba ngabantwana bakho abadala, ngakumbi abacebisi, baziqhelise ukuzimela, ngokukhawuleza, bhetele. Bazukise nangenxa yokufezekiswa okuncinci, kuba ukuzithemba okulungileyo kukuchaphazela kakhulu ukubunjwa kobuntu, kwaye umntu othembekileyo uya kufinyelela kwiinjongo ezibekwe ngokukhawuleza.