Indoda ebudlelwaneni ihamba phambili. Ibhinqa liyaziwa. Uncike kwiinto zonke kumntu wakhe, uthembele kuye, amvumela ukuba enze izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kwaye achukumise ubomi bakhe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, le ntembelo ikhula ngakumbi, iyanceda ulwalamano nothando nobulumko, okanye ixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwi-manipulator yindoda eyisebenzisayo ukuzithethelela, ubundlobongela ngengqondo kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba umntu uhlelelekile kuluntu - unxilisayo, umlutha weziyobisi, umdlwenguli. Ukuziphatha, ukutshabalalisa nokutshabalalisa kunokuba ngumntu ohloniphekileyo, onokuthenjwa kunye nolwaneleyo kunye nohlobo lomlingane. Ziziphi iimpawu kwindlela yokuziphatha komntu kubonisa indlela eyonakalisa ngayo umfazi?
- The lekiswa. Ukuthelekisa, nangona kuninzi okungahlambulukiyo kwaye okufihlakeleyo ngokuhlekisayo, kuthetha ukuthotywa nokuhlaselwa. Umntu unokukuthelekisa nonina (unina unomdla ngakumbi, unina unonophelo, unina uhlala ephantsi kopapa), kunye nabafazi basekuqaleni (omnye wayeyinkosikazi ehlakaniphileyo, omnye uhlala ehamba kunye nabahlobo) okanye kunye nabanye abafazi (umfazi we-chef ngumdala wakho, kunye nommelwane ungcinci). Uya ku soloko efumanisa kwaye abeke njengomzekelo ukuba umfazi onobuchule, umlinganisi okanye ubuhle, bubonisa ukuba ungapheleli. Uza kufuneka ufunde phakathi kwemigca: "Andikuthandi! Awubonakali nantoni na kuwe, kwaye kufuneka uhlale uziva kwaye wazi indawo yakho, ephantsi kwebhodi ebhodini! "
- Inqamaniso yokuthetha nabahlobo. Oku akukho nto ngaphandle kobundlobongela kunye nokuthintela kwamalungelo kwinkululeko yokuzikhethela. Indoda, ewe, inokuthi yilo thando, apho kukho indawo yokubini, okanye ikulondoloze kwiintombi zamantombazana eziseduze ("Ziyizidenge zonke kwaye ziya kukufundisa kakubi!") Kwaye nabaxhamli bahlobo ("Bakudinga kuphela into eyodwa kuwe! "). Kodwa apha kuyafaneleka ukucinga. Ukungafuni ukuhlukanisa umfazi wakhe nabanye abantu (kwaye ngokukodwa xa kuziwa kubahlobo, izalamane okanye osebenza nabo) banikezela kumntu womnini othabatha ilungelo lokulahla ubomi bomnye umntu. Bakhokelwa kungekhona ngothando, kodwa ngomnqweno wokulawula, ukulawula nokuphatha ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kubantu abasondeleyo abangakwazi ukukhanyisa ibhinqa malunga nobugqila bakhe ngokuzithandela.
- Ukuhla kwexabiso. Indoda iya kwanda nge-zero zonke iimpumelelo zakho kunye nokufaneleka. Umsebenzi wakho ubonakala kuye ukuzizonwabisa kwabafundi besikolo, kwaye ukukhushulwa okukhawulezayo kwabakho kuphela ngenxa yokuba izinga lakho lomsebenzi laliyi-escalator for the lazy. Uyanciphisa ubuchule bakho bezoqoqosho, uxhaphaza into encinci kwaye ubeka isohlwayo: "Yintoni enye onokuyilindela kumfazi onobuncwane omile!" Yaye kunye nokuzilibazisa kwakho kubonakala ngathi yinkcitho yexesha, imali kunye nenkqubo yakhe yomnyu. Akasoze avume ukuba uyona nto ibhetele kwi shishini lakho, kuba kuloo meko uza kufuneka akuvumele ukuba ube ngumntu okanye uzibonele ukungenasiphelo kwimvelaphi yakho. Umntu owaziyo ukubaluleka kwakhe kunzima ukulawula.
- Ukukhweleka. Inkohlakalo evezwe luluntu "umntu unomona, ngoko, uyakuthanda okanye uyesaba ukulahlekelwa" yihlazo elibi. Nabani na oye waba noloyiko lomntu okhweleyo akayi kubeka uthando kunye nomona phakathi kwakhe. Indoda ayinomona xa ethanda, kodwa xa eyika ukuba akayi kuthandwa. Yaye le nto ayiqinisekanga okanye ayiyi kuthula. Ngoko ke, ukuba ukulibaziseka kancinci emsebenzini kulandelelaniswa nokuhlaselwa, kunye nentlanganiso engaqhelekanga kunye nomhlobo esitrato-isizathu sokuba umyeni akuthumele kumtshina wamanga, uyazi, akuyena uthando. Zi thiyile. Umyeni uyakuzonda ngokungathandabuzi, ngenxa yokwesaba ukhuphiswano kunye nento onokuyifunda ngokukholwa kwamadoda athile ngokwenene.
- Ukufaka umva wecala. Umona wecala yinto ewonakalisayo neyonakalisayo ehlabathini. Ukuba soloko unetyala, ngoko, ukuba uhlale usongelwa, ungaqinisekanga kwaye unyanzelekile. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula kakhulu ukuba umntu olawulayo alawulwe "ixhoba elingunaphakade" kwaye uzive ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye kubalulekile. Iwayini elimiselweyo liphula umnqweno kwaye lijika umfazi kwi-imvana, eya kuhlala ifuna ijelo ezandleni zomalusi wayo, kuba yile ndlela i-psyche yethu ihlelwe ngayo-nokuba nayiphi na ityala kufuneka kubekho intlawulo. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unetyala okanye awukho, ufundela ukuzithethelela zonke iinyawo ozithathayo, ucela imvume kwaye ukhangela emehlweni enkosi yakho, ekukhangekeni kwemvume yezenzo ezigqibeleleyo kunye neengcamango. Ukuba awuyekanga ukwenza izizathu kwaye ungathathi ilungelo lokuba ulungele, isengqondo sengqondo kunye nokuthobela okungenamthetho kuya kuba yinto yakho.
- Uhlala echanekile. Loo mntu unemibono emibili kuphela: yakhe kunye nokungalunganga. Ngako oko, incoko eyakhayo (nangakumbi ingxabano efanelekileyo ngenxa ye nyaniso) ayiyi kusebenza kunye naye. Nantoni na eyenzekayo, yedwa ulungile. Nangona iimpazamo zakhe zibonakala, ukuqonda ukuba ziphantsi kwesidima sakhe. Kodwa ngaba umntu ohlazisa ababuthathaka kwaye uyisebenzise ukuze abonakale enamandla, onentsingiselo, engcono? Indoda enzima ukukholisa. Yonke into ayenzayo iya kunika ukugxeka, kwaye iyakumphoqa ukuba ahlaziywe: iinwele zokubuyisela, iphepha lodonga ukuphinda unamathele, umntwana ukuba afundise kwakhona, njl. Kufezekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuhlala ufanele utshintshe, ulungise kwakhona, uvuselele, uphinde wakha ukuze ufanise.