Intsingiselo jikelele: yintoni enye ingatshintshwa ngumfana othandekayo?
- Xa le nto yayingumlingani wakho, kwaye kungekhona wena, ufanele ulindele ukuseka ubudlelwane obufudumele kunye nobungqina phakathi kobabini ngokwenene.
- Ukuba ephupheni ubonile okanye ufumanise ukuba umntu utshintshile kunye nomhlobo, kufuneka ubeke ingqalelo kuyo, kungekhona kukhethiweyo wakho. Uphatha umhlobo wakho njengomfundisi, kwaye ucinge ukuba unamava amaninzi okuphila. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubona umhlobo kwiintombi, kwaye kungekhona kwimicimbi yentliziyo. Yingakho ubona amaphupha anjalo.
- UMiller ukholelwa ukuba umntu othe wagqiba ukukhashelwa ephupheni, uthetha ixesha lokungaqondi kunye nokungavumelani phakathi kwamaqabane eqinisweni. Kufuneka uqaphele ngakumbi iimfuno kunye neemfuno zomnye nomnye ukwenzela ukuseka ubudlelwane obuhambelanayo.
- Incwadi efanayo yephupha ibhaliwe ukuba ukuba ngephupha ngandlela-thile wafunda ngokungathembeki komntu othandekayo, kuthetha ukuba ezinye iinkcukacha ezivela ebomini bakho bokwenene zifuna ukunyuselwa kwakho. Kufuneka unake ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezininzi ezidibene nawe ngombono: abantu, iidilesi okanye indawo. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kudibana neemeko ezifanayo kunye nenyaniso.
Yintoni othandekayo ephuphayo, funda apha
Isithandwa sam sitshintshe: ukuchazwa kwincwadi yephupha
- Kwincwadi yephupha kaVanga kuthiwa emva kokuphupha, apho umntu esitshintshile khona, kufuneka uqaphele kwaye ukhangele kakuhle kwindawo oyijikelezile: kunokukho abantu abanomdla apho.
- Umlobi wephupha likaFrud ukholelwa ukuba umbono onjalo uthetha ukuba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumthandane wakho, nangona kungekho sizathu saloo nto. Qiniseka ukuba ubuhlobo bakho abuyisongelo nayiphi na ingozi kwaye ziya kuhlala zifudumele kwaye zihambelana ixesha elide.
- Ngokwezinye iinguqulelo, ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda kuthi le ntombazana inelindeleke kakhulu kwizinto zesini, kwaye umlingani akayizizathu ezifanelekileyo. Olu luhlobo lwesilumkiso kwintombi ukuba kufuneka ihlolisise iimfuno zakhe kunye namathuba omlingane wakhe.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo unokufumana intsingiselo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ngokomzekelo, ubonile kwiphupha ukungcatsha kwekwenkwenkwe yakho. Musa ukukhawuleza ukumvuselela kuye ngemibuzo. Kunoko, kufuneka uhlolisise indlela oziphatha ngayo kwaye ulungise kakuhle umlingiswa, ube ngumgcini kwaye uhlale uthembekile, ukuze umntu obathandayo aziva ekhululekile kwinkampani yakho.
Ubuqhetseba obushushu
Ukunyamekela la maphupha kunzima, kuba kufuneka uqwalasele imvelaphi yemvakalelo yombono.
- Kwincwadi yephupha likaMiller ibhaliwe ukuba ukuba uye wafumana amaxesha amaninzi emva kokubona ukungcatshwa kweqabane lakho langaphambili, ngoko akufanele ukhathazeke. Enyanisweni, ishishini lakho liza kuhamba kakhulu, kwaye ubudlelwane kunye neentanda zamanje ziza kuphucula imihla ngemihla.
- UVanga ukholelwa ukuba nangona ubona ukungathembeki kwintombi yakho yangaphambili, kusenokuthi ukuba awuzange uqonde ngokupheleleyo ukuphela kobudlelwane bakho. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho ezinye iimeko ezingatshintshiyo okanye unomona onobubele bakho kwintombazana entsha.
Ekubeni ukutyhilwa kwamaphupha anjalo kubanzi kwaye kungabonakali, kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela ubudlelwane balo mbhangqwana ngokwenene. Kuphela kwiimeko ezinjalo unokuyichaza ngokuchanekileyo iimpawu zokuthi i-subconscious ithumela kuwe ngendlela yemibono yasebusuku.