Ukutolika kwamaphupha kunye nomthandayo
- Ephupheni, wafunda ukuba indoda ethandekayo ishintshile wena. Awudingi ukukhawuleza ukuzisa ityala ngaye ngokwenene. Enyanisweni, eli phupha alikho kakuhle. Zama ukukhumbula iinkcukacha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iphupha elinjalo lihambelana nomvakalelo owenzela ukukhwabanisa ngenxa yesifiso sokukulimaza wena. Ukuba uphupha ngokukuko ukuphuhliswa kweziganeko, unokugqiba ukuhlala phantsi: ubomi bakho bentsapho kunye nomthandayo wakho uya kudlula ngaphandle kokufuduka.
Yiyiphi iphupha lehlazo lomfana, funda apha
- Uphupha ukuba umthandayo uyafa, kwaye kusasa kusasa uvuka ngosizi okanye ngezinyembezi. Kodwa leli phupha linentsingiselo eyahlukileyo. Enyanisweni, umfana wakho oyithandayo uya kuhlala ubomi obude kwaye engenazo iingxaki zempilo.
- Ubonise iphupha apho uyingxenye nomthandi wakho. Kule imeko kukho iindlela ezimbini. Ukuba ukwahlukana kudlulile ngaphandle kwezinyembezi kunye neenkwenkwezi, kufuneka ucinga kwakhona ngengqondo yakho kumlingane. Mhlawumbi uyamhlonela, kwaye uyabuhlungu. Ukuba ukuhlukana kwakunomsindo, ngoko kwenzeka ukuba intsha yakho sele isigqibo sokungcatsha okanye ukufihla kuwe ulwazi olubalulekileyo.
- Kwezinye ukulala, amantombazana azama ukuphumelela ukufumana intanda yabo ehlathini, isakhiwo esithile okanye phakathi kwesihlwele sabantu. Enyanisweni, akunandaba nokuba ulahlekelwe lakho iqabane. Into ephambili kukuba le phupha likukhumbuza ukuba kufuneka uqaphele ngakumbi umfana wakho kwaye uhlaziye ngokucacileyo ukuziphatha kwakhe. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukukukhohlisa okanye uza kuqala ulwalamano kwicala.
- Ukuxabana nomntu othandekayo ephupheni kunentsingiselo echasene nokoqobo. Awuyi kukhankanya kuphela, kodwa ufumane into emangalisayo. Ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba namandla kwaye bude.
Ezinye izityholo zomntu othandekayo ephupheni
Yintoni enye umntu ondibathandayo angaphuphayo? Xa uvakalelwa ukumkela umthandi wakho, ngoko ebomini ufihlakele kwaye awufuni ukuveza iimvakalelo. Mhlawumbi ngulokho umntu ekhoyo. Kodwa xa uvuma kwaye ungaveki ukufudumala okufudumeleyo, i-subconscious yakho ikuxelele ukuba, ukuba usebini, uziva unesizungu, nangona ungafuni ukuyivuma.
Ukubona umthandi wakho kwelinye, ngokweengcali zengqondo, kuthetha ukuba uloyiko lokuba ulahlekelwe yiyo. Kodwa kunokuthetha nokumangaliswa kwamanxweme.
Ukufa komntu othandekayo, ngaphezu kwexesha elide, kunokunye ukuchazwa. Iphupha elinjalo lithetha ukuba uye wangena kwixesha elithile lobudlelwane kwaye wangena kwisigaba esitsha ngokupheleleyo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye neentanda zakho zithandana zibonisa iziganeko ezimnandi kuphela xa kuvuyisa. Ukuba bekungekho ukwaneliseka, kuya kufuneka usombulule iingxaki eziye zaphonswa zikhunjulwe ebhokisini lememori eluthuli. Kungenzeka ukuba kule nto uza kufuneka unqobe ubunzima abathile.
Igazi lomntu othandekayo, ngokukratshi, luphawu oluhle. Oku kuthetha ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buza kuzisa uvuyo. Yaye ukuba uzama ukumisa igazi, ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo buya kukhula ngokuthe tye kwaye abuyi kuzisa kuphela ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha, kodwa kunye neenzuzo zezemali.
Ukumangala nomntu othandekayo kuthetha ukuba ubuhlobo bakho okwangoku bubonisa indlela omele uyenze ngayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ubanga ebumnyameni, abanye balahla ukuziphatha kwakho. Kungcono ukuba ibanga lenzeke ngokukhanya okanye kwendalo.