Ukungqinelana nabazali abafayo
- Ngokutsho kwencwadi yephupha kaFreud, abazali abafayo babonakala kwiiphupha zethu kwiimeko ezinzima nakakhulu, ukuba sifuna icebiso labo elinobuchule nokuthatha inxaxheba.
- Ukulala ngomama ofileyo kutyhilwa njengesilumkiso senhlekelele ezayo. Oku kuya kusebenza nakweyiphi na yobomi bendawo - bobabini intsapho kunye nomsebenzi. Iphupha lifuna ukuba lilumke ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo, kuba iziganeko ezimbi zingabangela izizathu ezahlukileyo.
- Incwadi yephupha kaMiller ithi ukubona umama osemva ephusheni eliphuphayo kunye nezithembiso ezivuyisayo kumntu olalayo inkunkuma enemali yokuzonwabisa kwakhe - mhlawumbi unako ukufumana into yamaphupha akho.
- Umama ofile unokuphinde aphuphe ukukuxwayisa malunga noshintsho olusondelayo - ukuba ulawula ukuthetha naye, hlawula ingqalelo amagama akhe kunye neembono, kuba iya kubonisa uhlobo lweenguqu ezizayo.
Ukubonakala komzali ofileyo ephupheni, njengentlungu yokulahleka kwangoku
Ewe, ukuhlukana ngonaphakade nomntu osondeleyo kuzisa intlungu engenakubekezeleka, kungenxa yoko, emva kwexesha lokufa, unokuza kuthi ephupheni, ngenxa yesigxina sokungafuni ukuthetha naye. Ezinye iincwadi zephupha zithi umama ofileyo uphupha ngokuphila kwiindaba ezilungileyo. Ubuthongo akafanele akhohlwe ukuba, nangona ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa ngumoya wobubele, ubomi buyaqhubeka.
Ukuba ephupheni umama ohambayo uyakumanga, kuthetha ukuxolelwa. Nangona kukho ukungavumelani kunye neengxabano phakathi kwakho, ngelixa esaphila, ukumanga kukaMama ephupheni kubonisa ukuxolelwa kwakhe ngokupheleleyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amaphupha apho uphinde ubone khona ubaba nomama ophilayo unokuhlala ubonakalisa ubuhlungu bakho kunye nesidingo sokuthandwa. Ukuze kunciphise umthwalo osindayo wokulahleka, kubalulekile ukukhumbula abazali kwicawa nokubeka ikhandlela emva koxolo lwabo.
Ukuba umama ogqithiseleyo ugxobha ephupheni, ngoko ngobomi bokwenene ukwesaba okude kutyhuzuliswe kade uza kungena ekugqibeleni. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba baya kutshabalala ngokwabo - kuya kufuneka wenze imizamo yokulahlekelwa.
Ukungavumelani kunye nokungavumelani nomama oshonile
Iphupha oye waxabana ngayo nomama osekupheleni, ubhekisela kwisazela sakho esingcolileyo - mhlawumbi wenze iphutha ongafuni ukuyivuma, okanye awuhlali ujabule nomlingane wakho, kodwa ubeka amehlo ekubambeni obubandayo. Kufuneka ucinge ngokuziphatha kwakho kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, lungisa loo meko.
I-Dream Manager uMeneghetti ikholelwa ukuba ukufunga ephupheni nomama ofileyo uthembisa iingxaki, kwaye xa uthe waxabana kwelinye igumbi, kukukuye kwaye ingxaki iya kugubha.
Ngokutsho kwencwadi yephupha kaVanga, ukufunga ephupheni nomama ofileyo kuthetha izinto ezingenakucatshangelwayo okanye iimpazamo ezingenakulinganiswa, umvuzo ongenayo ukulala ebusweni elizayo. Kwakhona, iphupha elinjalo lingaba ngumbhalo wokungavumelani kwintsapho, ukuya kutshatyalaliswa, ukuba utshatile. Cinga ngesimo sakho sengqondo kubathandekayo bakho, isazela sakho siya kubonisa ukuba kufuneka yitshintshwe ukwenzela ukubuyisela uxolo nokuvisisana.
Nangona ukufa komama kungumngcipheko omkhulu kunoma yimuphi umntu, akufanele nje ubhale iimvakalelo zamaphupha apho kukho isihlobo esifa. Mhlawumbi ufuna ukukuxelela into ethile.