Iingcali zengqondo zithetha ngale nto. Abanye bathi akukho nyihlo kayise. Mhlawumbi uthando lukabawo, uthando, kodwa aluveli. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, kwimeko ephilileyo, sibona ukubonakaliswa kwayo! Thatha ubuncinane iipenguins. Amabhinqa abo anamahlwitha amabi: emva kokubeka amaqanda, bahamba ngokukhawuleza baya olwandle ukuze badle iintlanzi, bahlambe, babuye bafumane. Kwaye amaxesha amashishini atshabayo atyhola amadoda. Ukuhlala kweli lizwe iiveki ezimbalwa, abafazi abazincama balahlekelwa ngu-40% wobunzima, kwaye oku, ngendlela, ngu-5-6 kg! Yaye nangona abaninzi abantu kunye nabazali bexesha elizayo abakhawuleziyo ukuphinda ukuphindaphinda iimpawu zeepenguins, ootata, uthando lwabantwana kuzo. Kukho okuqinisekileyo olunye uhlobo lwezengqondo ze-psychologists kwaye, ngokwenzeka, uninzi lwabo.
Kwinqanaba ngalinye lomjikelezo wobomi, indima yophiko lwentsapho kwintsapho iyavelisa imigaqo emitsha yobomi, imilinganiselo nemigaqo yokuziphatha. Ngokomzekelo, umsebenzi oyintloko wesibini esitshatileyo esingaba nabantwana kukuhlakulela indlela yokuphila efanelekayo bobabini bomtshato. Kodwa apha kuza ilungu lesithathu lentsapho - yinkomo efuna unonophelo kunye nokunakekelwa rhoqo. Usencinci kakhulu, kodwa sele sele efuna ukulungelelanisa neziganeko zobuntu bakhe! Ngokuqhelekileyo uxanduva olongezelelweyo kumntwana luba luvavanyo olunzulu kulutsha olutsha, ukuphazamiseka kweemeko ezingqubanayo. Ngeli xesha, imigaqo edlulileyo nemithetho ebomini yabatshatileyo iyawa kwaye abatsha baphuma.
Indoda nomfazi bayasetyenziselwa iimbopheleleko zikayise nomama abangaqhelekanga kubo. Kwaye uotata uhlale engalungele ezi tshintsho. Indima kayise kwintsapho yinkimbinkimbi: emva koko, akadluli uvavanyo olude lokukhulelwa nokubeletha. Kwaye xa umama ehlaselwa kwiinkxalabo ze-crumb, utata onganamntwana unokuziva ulwahlukana, ulwalamano, ukungenakunceda. Ukuzama ukulondoloza impilo yakhe, ufuna iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphepha ukuthwala uxanduva kunye nabaxanduva. Kuthatha ixesha lokuba indoda ibone ngokwenene kwindlaliba yobawo entsapho kwintsana.
Yintoni abayikiyo?
Akunakutsholwa ukuba omama bathanda abantwana babo, kunye noobawo abangaphantsi. Amadoda nabafazi nje bathanda ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo. Uthando lomama luyimfama: ibhinqa liyamkela umntwana kunye nazo zonke iingenelo kunye nokungonakali. Amadoda afanelekileyo kwaye anenjongo. Akunakudla ngokuphulaphula, ngokungaqhelekanga ukujonga ukuziphatha kakubi, kodwa bahlwaywa, njengomthetho, ngokungapheliyo kwaye kwishishini kuphela.
Kukho ezinye iintlukwano . Abasetyhini bavame ukunyamezela abantwana, kodwa indima entsha yobawo kwintsapho yile mntwana: amadoda azimisele ngakumbi ukuthatha inzala yabo ezandleni zabo. Oomama banamathele ukuba baqhube neengxoxo ezithandana kunye nabantwana, obawo bakhetha ukuthetha ngezinto ezinomdla ezifana nebhola ehlathini okanye kwiindawo zokulwa nabantwana.
Kuyabasetyhini, inkqubo yokubeletha iyazalwa, kwaye amadoda kufuneka aqokelele ngaphambi kokuba abe ooyise. Oobawo abaninzi banokuvakalelwa ngokwenene kubantwana, xa kuhamba iminyaka engama-2-3, kungekudala.
Oku kungenxa yokuba oobawo bathande abantwana abancinci be-pink, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ... bayabayika. Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo, indoda yesibini ayinayo ingcamango yokuthetha nomntwana omncinane kwaye ngokoyika ukumlimaza ngezenzo zakhe ezingenayo. Yingakho abaninzi oodade abangaphantsi kokuhlushwa abavumelani nokutshintshisa umntwana, utshintshe i-diaper okanye usike izipikili zakhe.
Kukho nabameli bezesondo ezinamandla abaqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba abantwana abancinci, ngaphezu kwakho konke, badinga unina, kungekhona uyise. Bakulungele ukunceda ngemisebenzi yendlu, bahlambulule indlu, baye kwivenkile yokutya kwasebantwaneni, kodwa ekunxibelelaneni nosana kunye nokumnakekela umama. Indima kayise kwintsapho yentsana ibonakaliswa ngokulindela "iqela" lakhe, xa umntwana ekhula ufikelela kwiminyaka engama-4-7 ubudala kunye nayo kuya kubakho ukuxoxa okanye ukudibanisa indiza evela kumyili.
Amanyathelo okuvusa
Nangona kunjalo, umntwana udinga indima kayise kwintsapho umntwana engaphantsi kwothando lomama kunye nesisa. Ukongezelela, ukususela ekuzalweni - ngendlela engokoqobo ye-diaper. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba nabantwana abasanda kuzalwa bahlula ooyise phakathi kwabantu, bezama ukumomotheka. Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngabantwana abadala? Ngako oko, ngaphambili okhethiweyo wakho uvakalelwa ngumntwana kayise, bhetele. Ukuba umlenze womzali akangxamanga ukuvusa, zama oku kulandelayo.
Inyathelo # 1
Tshela umyeni wakho malunga nento enokuziva ngayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Indoda ayikho i-clairvoyant: engenayo ingcamango malunga neengqondo ezibonakalayo ozifumanayo, akayazi ukuba umntwana uziphatha njani kwisibeleko. Ngoko ke, ukuba kunokwenzeka, hamba kunye nomyeni wakhe nge-ultrasound - oku, okuqinisekileyo, kuya kuyenza ingqiqo kuye. Biza umnina wakho kunye nawe kwiikhosi zabamama abalindele. Ukwahlula ngokwenene? Ewe, kuya kufuneka uphendule ubuqhetseba: uthi awuva kakuhle, kwaye ucele ukuhamba nawe. Uya kubona kungekhona kuphela oomama bokamva, kodwa nobawo ozayo kwaye bayayeka ukuhlazeka. Khuthaza umnqweno womfazi ukuba "uthethe" ngesisu ngokusemandleni onke, ukuvumela umntwana ukuba azive unyawo ngaphakathi emlenzeni - konke oku kubangela abazali kunye kunye nokuvelisa iimvakalelo zikayise kumntu.
Ukuzalwa ngokubodwa kuyisifundo esikhethekileyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amadoda amaninzi ayenakho ekuzalweni athi isidalwa sikayise savuswa kuwo ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana wazalwa. Emva koko, ngelixa uthandekayo efikile, nguyise owaqala ukuthatha umntwana ezandleni zakhe waza waqhekeza intambo yakhe (le nyaniso yinto ekhethekileyo yokuzikhukhumeza kwamadoda). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abameli abathile abakhathazekayo ngokwesondo emva kokuvavanywa ngokuzalwa baziva behlaselwa ngumfazi, okuchaphazela isondo kunye nolwalamano lwentsapho ngokubanzi. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuba ungagxininisi ukuba umyeni uhamba nawe kwiwadi yesibhedlele, ukuba ulwahlula ngokuthe ngqo.
Inyathelo # 2
Ungesabi ukunika indoda inendima ebantwini kwintsapho kunye nenxalenye yokukhathalela umntwana. Oomama abaninzi bayazibeka zonke izinto, baze bazibuze ukuba kutheni umyeni ophathelene nendodana okanye intombi yakhe ethatha isikhundla somntu ongenamdla. Kodwa uhlobo lwothando luye lwaziwa ngokude: uthando luxhalaba. Iingcali zengqondo zithi into ebaluleke kakhulu esiyixabisa ngayo ubudlelwane abaye batyala ngayo amandla amaninzi engqondo nangokwenyama. Oku kusebenza nakuphi na ubudlelwane-umzali womntwana, onobungane, onothando kunye nobugcisa. Nika umyeni wakho ithuba "lokutshala" kumntwana: makamncedise ukuhlamba umntwana, hambani kunye nomqhubi, yenza umququzelelo omncinci umntwana. Kwaye ukunyusa i-blu bhotile kwi-bhotile ayinayo inzululwazi enkulu, iya kuhlangabezana nayo! Kubalulekile kuphela ukuba le mi sebenzi ayinyanzelekanga kwaye iphendule "upapa".
Nangona yena, ukusuka kumbono wakho, wenza konke okungahambiyo: faka ijezi ebomvu kwiindawo eziluhlaza okomhlaza okanye utyeshe umntwana xa esondla isiqhamo se-puree ukusuka entloko ukuya enyaweni-ungamgxeka umyeni. Ukuba ubaba kunye nebhokhwe bavuyisana omnye nomnye, mhlawumbi akufanele ubeke ingqalelo kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo?
Inyathelo # 3
Tshela umyeni wakho malunga nantoni na eyenzeka kumntwana ngosuku, ngoxa uTata wayesebenza. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akudingeki ukuba uzalise kwaye uchaze ngokucacileyo ukuba kaninzi kangakanani ufanele utshintshe i-diaper, kodwa nanku ulwazi malunga nendlela umntwana adle ngayo, yintoni igama elitsha awayelifundileyo, into ayidlalayo, ubaba uya kuphulaphula ngenene umdla. Kwaye akukho namnye ongayi kuphinda athi: "Namhlanje ndiphinde ndiqiniseke ukuba unyana uyikopi yakho" okanye "Uyazi, intombi ilele ngokufanayo kwindawo efanayo."
Inyathelo # 4
Nika umyeni wakho ithuba lokudlala indima ebantwaneni kwintsapho kwaye ulungiselele ukunxibelelana nentombi yakho okanye unyana wakho ngendlela yakho, nangona ungathandi ukuba baphonsa amathoyizi apha kwigumbi okanye babuye kwibala lebhola "ngeengulube zeenkukhu".