Ngoko, wena, kanye, wazibuza indlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela. Wabuya kwakhona evela kubahlobo okanye ummelwane wasela kwaye kwafuneka uqhube naye. Ziqonde ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo ukuba awuyena unina, kodwa umfazi wakhe, kwaye uyibambelela ngesibindi ngenxa yomyeni wakhe.
Okokuqala, ukukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela, kufuneka ulawule kwaye utshele umyeni wakho ukuba unomthetho owomileyo kwintsapho yakho. Naluphi na ukuzithethelela kwakho kunye naye, nangaphandle kweeholide ezinkulu, kuya kusebenza kuphela kumyeni wakho, njengenqatha ebomvu kwinkunzi yenkomo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kukwazi ukukholisa umyeni wakho ukuba ayeke ukusela.
Indlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela, ukuba sele ewa phantsi kwaye akafuni ukukholisa ubomi obucokisekileyo - lo ngumbuzo obalulekileyo wokuba besifazane baseRashiya. Ehlabathini kukho iindlela ezininzi ezilungileyo nezibonakalisiwe zokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela utywala. Kwaye ke, tshela, ufumene impendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela, kwaye kwexesha elithile wagqiba ekubeni anqume ukusela. Kuthatha inyanga okanye ezimbini kwaye ngokukhawuleza umyeni wakho uqala ukusela kwakhona kwaye akayi kudibana nalo mkhuba omubi. Kwaye isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe sinokuba yinto enye kuphela: xa ulawula ukukholisa umyeni wakho ukuba ayeke ukusela, akayi kuyenza into, Akayi kukwazi ukuba enze ntoni ngexesha lokuphila ngokucokisekileyo. Bahlobo, abahlobo bokusela baya kumka kuye, kwaye yena, ongenakukwazi ukumelana nentlalo, uya kuphinda aphuze kwakhona. Kwakhona amadoda, umfazi owakwazi ukunyanzela ukuba ayeke ukusela, unokutshintsha ngokuphawulekayo kumlingane ukuba angcono okanye angabi nakakhulu. Abantu abanesihlobo esinokubakhokelela ekubeni bayeke ukusela utywala, njengoko kubonakaliswa manani, ngokuqhelekileyo babheka indawo yokutshintshwa komsebenzi othile. Ngokomzekelo, lakho iqabane, owamkhwelisa ngokuqinileyo ukuyeka ukusela, unokuzifumana ekuqokeleleni izitampu zeposi, mhlawumbi, uya kuba ngumntu onzima kunye nokukhononda ngokukhawuleza ngako konke. Apha, njengoko besithi, ukuphela akuyikuqikelelwa kwezipho. Ngokukhawuleza xa unokuqiniseka ukuba umyeni wakho ayeke ukusela, ngoko uya kufuneka ufumane olu vavanyo olunzima "umyeni osandul 'ukuzalwa." Ngendlela, uya kuncedwa ngentshukumo engokwengqondo ukuze usombulule ingxaki yakho, indlela yokukholisa umyeni wakho ukuba ayeke ukusela-into entsha yokuzilibazisa okanye iinjongo ongenakuzibonakalisa. Mcebisa ukuba anike ixesha elingakumbi kwi-intando yakhe yebhizinisi okanye into yokuzilibazisa, ngoko umyeni wakhe uya kuba nethuba elingaphantsi lokunxila. Indlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela, ukuba nguwe kuphela, umlingane, uzama ukumphoqa ukuba akwenze. Khumbula, akukho nto iya kuza kuyo ade afune utshintsho ebomini. Zama ukufumana iinjongo kuye eziya kumkhuthaza umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela. Ukugxininisa kwingcinga yomyeni ukuba ukungala utywala akusiyo isiphelo sehlabathi, kodwa ukuqala kokukhanya okutsha kunye nobomi obugcweleyo, apho kungekho ndawo yesikhumba.
Indlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela, ukuba akanalo ithemba kwizicelo zakho. Nazi ezinye izicatshulwa zenqaku lokuqinisekisa ukuba utywala unokuyeka ukusela. 1. Yiba namandla ngaphakathi emoyeni kunye nomlingiswa. Ndikholelwe, unomdla kakhulu ngale ndlela. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, umbuzo wendlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela uya kusombulula ngokwayo. Ukuba uziva into engalunganga, uya kubuya emafini ukuya ezweni elithembisiweyo kwintsapho okanye, nangona kunjalo, cinga ngaye malunga nokuziphatha kwakho. 2. Susa kuye kwaye ubonise ubulili kunye nomtsalane, ungazivumeli. Musa ukuwela emadolweni ukuze uqinisekise umyeni wakho ukuba ayeke ukusela. Musa ukucinga malunga nendlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuyicombulula le ngxaki kwikalini: ukuqonda okutyumbileyo kotywala wasekhaya kunye nomtyholi. Ziyinyamekele okokuqala, kwaye kungabi ngeyo. 3. Kwiimeko zokungathembeki komyeni, jonga kwiimilinganiselo ezinjengoku: - uyeke ukuhlaselwa kwindlu; hlamba, upheke, uxoxe naye xa utshisiwe. kuba nomona. Apha kufuneka uqaphele. - zizenza njengenqanawa efayo kwaye ugxotha abahlobo beqabane lakho endlwini. - Ukuba kukho ithuba lokususa i-antics ezidakayo zomyeni kwikhamera, ke uyisebenzise. Ndikholelwe, phantsi kobungozi bokupapashwa koluntu kwiimfesane uya kuba nako ukukholisa umyeni wakho ukuba ayeke ukusela. - Inqaku lokuba xa engabambanga, ngoko umtshato awukude - ukuba uqala ukungaxolisi, ngoko amapolisa aya kumnciphisa. - ukuba "i-squirrel" (umkhuhlane omhlophe) uyanyuka kuye emphefumlweni, uze uyiphathe esibhedlele sengqondo. Ukususela apho uya kubuya kubenobumnene aze angaphuzi. Ngoko, intanda yam, impumelelo kuwe kwimeko enzima kwaye indlela yokukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela. Ndiyathemba ukuba uya kuphumelela.
