Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kokuba abantu bangaboni nonke, okanye bayabunqabile. Nangona kunjalo, kulo mzekelo, kuvela umbuzo oqikelele ngokucacileyo: Kutheni ungekho ntokazi kunye nomntu onokuhlala behlobo, nangona besithi? Impendulo, njengokulawula, "ayikho," nangona kwindawo ethile eminzini yomphefumlo wonke ukholelwa ngenye indlela.
Ukususela kwimbono yesetyhini:
Isizathu esipheleleyo kuzo, kungekhona kuthi: ukuthetha nentombazana, abakwazi nje ukumphatha njengento yesondo kwaye abanakukunceda bacinge ukuba ngaba uya kukwazi ukumdonsa embhedeni, okanye ukuba kunjalo, ngoko-namhlanje okanye umhla olandelayo?
Ukususela kumbono wesilisa
Isizathu sonke siphezu kwazo, kungekhona kuthi: amantombazana akakwazi ukuqonda iingxaki zethu; bonke bayakwazi ukuthetha kuphela ngezigubhu kunye neentlebo, kodwa abafuni ukwazi malunga nantoni na okanye ngaphantsi.
Bonke abafana bacinga nje ngento enye.
Amantombazana amaninzi ayakholelwa ukuba ukutshata kunye nokudlala ngothando kwabantu kulandela ukujoliswa kwelinye iqela: ngokukhawuleza ukulala kunye nesinye isithandwa. Ngako oko, ngokweentombazana eziqhelekileyo, kukho izigqibo ezimbini: okokuqala, abafana abanako ukunyaniseka kunye nabahlobo abathembekileyo xa bexabisa ubulili ngaphezu kobudlelwane obushushu obufudumele, oko kukuthi, banokwanele ngokwaneleyo ngokwemvelo yabo, ekubeni banelisekile kwiimvelo zendalo (ukutya , ngokwesondo kunye nokunye) kubaluleke kakhulu kubo kunokuba "ukutya kokomoya". Abantu abesilisa bahlala behlulwa kakhulu ngenxa yokungazi kakuhle kwaye baqonde ngokucacileyo yonke into ewajikelezayo baze baqonde ukunyakaza okuqhelekileyo njengesimemo sokulala.
Enye imeko:
Intombazana ifuna ukuya kwindawo ethile yokuphumla. Ewe, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukubiza bonke abahlobo bakhe ukuba bamenze inkampani endleleni. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yobubi, kuphela abantu abafanelekanga, oko kukuthi, abafana, bakhululekile ngeli xesha. Kwaye ukuba intombazana ithatha omnye umhambi ngohambo, kuya kufuneka ukuba achaze ixesha elide ukuba ukuba bahamba kunye, oku akuthethi ukuba baya kuchitha yonke imini balala ngesondo kuphela. Nangona ngaphambili babenothando lobuhlobo.
Kodwa awona madoda kuphela angenakuqondakala. Nangona kunjalo, ngamantombazana ngamanye amaxesha afuna ukuqwalasela ukubonakaliswa kokuthatha inxaxheba elula njengomnye weendlela zokudibana kunye nokudlala ngothando. Ingxaki yamantombazana yinto yokuba abanakukunceda ngothando nomntu abathandayo (emva koko konke, sizama ukuthetha nabantu abanjalo - ngamanye amagama, akunakwenzeka ukuba unako ukuzonwabisa kunye nolu hlobo), nokuba lo mntu mhlobo obalaseleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ukudlala ngothando kuphelela ngokufanayo njengoko abafazi abancinane bekulindele. Ukuqonda phakathi kwendoda nentombazana kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ingaba intombazana ingayiqonda umfana?
Akungabazeki ukuba ininzi yamantombazana inokude isetyenziselwa ukuchitha ixesha, njengokusela ubhiya (kunye nezinye iziyobisi) kunye nokutyelela ibhola ekhatywayo kwinkampani yabathandekayo. Nangona kunjalo, unokuqiniseka ukuba oku akubonakali ukulinganiselwa komfazi kuzo zonke! Kukho amantombazana amaninzi awajonga onke amanqaku kwibhola, kwaye akayi kunqaba ukusela, ukuba kuya kuba "nesiganeko esifanelekileyo".
Amantombazana kwinkampani yamadoda yinto ecacileyo, ngokucacileyo, ngokuthe ngqo. Kwaye akulula ukuziva ukhululekile kuluntu oluququzelelwe kuphela kubafana. Akunjalo, akukhona ukuba omnye wabafana uya kuqiniseka ukuba uphuhliso lwakho lwengqondo. Kuthiwa ukuba akusayi kuba lula ukugcina incoko - kuba uzenza ngathi ungumhlobo, ngoko uya kuthathwa njengabalingani kunye namancinci amancinci, kwaye uhlonipheke kwinkampani yabasetyhini, ngamanye amaxesha awuboni ukuba kuyimfuneko, njengoko besithi, "Hlaziya imarike." Yaye ukuba ufuna ubuhlobo, kufuneka uvume ukungapheleli kwabafana. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nokufunda amagama amaninzi amatsha, kodwa unokumangaliswa kwikhono apho abafana basebenzisa la magama, kunye nokuvama kwexesha eliphezulu lokusetyenziswa kwabo.
Isikhalazo malunga nobomi okanye ubuhlobo?
Abafana bacinga ukuba amantombazana ahlala ecaza kwaye ahlale enganeliseki ngento ethile. Abameleli besondo esomeleleyo abanqweneli ukuva oko kanye intombazana ekutshilo kubo (okwenene, i-their ideal is "imfama eyisithulu esisisithulu"!). Abafuni ukuphulaphula "ukugcoba", ukuba unako ukuhlala kakuhle kwinkampani yabafana!
Kwaye abantu abaqhayisayo "ukugubungela" nantoni na, kwaye emva kohlwaywa kwabo, abantu bayakhohlwa ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo bona ngokwabo babeka ityala ngale nto. Enye yeenkcazelo ezinokwenzeka zezi zinto kukuba ukwesaba abafana, ukuba amantombazana athungatha inkululeko yabo, kwaye amadoda amaninzi ayesaba oku. Inengozi enkulu yokunciphisa inkululeko endibathandayo, njengoko ininzi abaselula bayicinga, iza kuqala kwintombazana. Ngako oko, abafana bayesaba ukuba abazenzela inxaxheba yomngane baya kwenza izibango ezifanayo.
Ipilo (okanye iingcamango ekupheleni)
Ngoko, ngaba kunokuba nobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nentombazana? Ekuboneni kokuqala, kunokubonakala ngathi, sizenza nzima into yethu. Mhlawumbi iingxaki zethu zibangelwa ubukhulu bezinto ezikhethiweyo, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokungabikho kwakhe, njengoko baqhele ukuxela? Sazichazela thina umfanekiso womhlobo ongulifa lobulili obuhlukile, wamvuza ngemimiselo engaphethekanga kwaye akafuni ukuvuma ukuba oku kubhaliweyo akunjalo? Okanye ngaba ubunzima sonke esikuyo sifuna ukufuna loo mhle apho iimpawu zomthandi wabo nomhlobo zidibene? Futhi musa ukuzithemba ukuba sizivumele thina, ngubani na thina esasifunayo, sikholelwa ukuba umhlobo obalaseleyo uya kuba ngumthandi obalaseleyo, kwaye ngokufanayo?