Zizilungiselele ngenxa yokuba uya kuba nomsebenzi onzima kunye nobunzima, ulula "uthando" kunye "neengqondo ezilula" awuyi kubaleka. Cinga ngemithetho embalwa eya kukunceda uhlale ulwalamano oluhle nomntu wakho.
Indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini sayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abasetyhini banamhlanje bayakulibala malunga nalo mgaqo odumileyo kwaye endaweni yendlu, ephekwe ngothando, umntu odla isidlo esilindele etafuleni kwizinja ezishushu okanye ukutya okulungele ukufudumala. Nangona uninzi ixesha kunye nomgudu owenza umsebenzi, kwaye ngokuhlwa ude ude, uthathe ixesha lokulungiselela umntu oyithandayo isidlo okanye ubhaka i-pie edibisayo. Makhe aqonde kwaye axabise ubuchule bakho nokunyamekela.
Ukuba awukwazi ukupheka, ke ixesha lokuqalisa ukufunda. Ngenhlanhla, kukho ininzi yeencwadi kunye newebhusayithi ezinikezelwe ukuzonwabisa. Ukuba unyoko okanye intombi yakho uyakwazi ukupheka ngokumnandi, babuze. Baza kukuncedisa ngokukunceda ube ngumfazi womninindlu, wabelane "ngeemfihlelo ezincinci".
Yimangalisa indoda yakho!
Ulibale umfanekiso wendlukazi "yaseSoviet" kwisigulo esidala esambethe iingubo kunye neentsimbi zekhanda ekhanda lakhe kwaye uzinye emazinyo akhe. Abaqulunqwa abaninzi bezambatho zowesifazane bahlakulela uluhlu olubhekiselele kwiisokisi zasekhaya. Ingaba zizinto ezicocekileyo, amaqabunga amnandi, iingubo kunye nezifutshane. Ungakhetha isitayela esikufanayo, kwaye uphonsa isikhuphelo esidala esasidluliselwe kuyo iminyaka emithathu edlulileyo!
Ukuba awusebenzi kwaye wenze umsebenzi wasekhaya, akusiyo isizathu sokuba uguqulele "kwisiqwenga", esinomdla kuphela ekulungiseleleni isidlo sakusihlwa kunye nabamelwane. Yiba nesithakazelo kwiindaba, fumana umdlalo wakho, umdlalo, ubhalisele "ukusika nokuthunga" izifundo (nayiphi na into enomdla kuyo).
Yiba nomdla umdla wakho. Shintsha umfanekiso wakho, wenze ukuqeshwa okungaqhelekanga. Kwaye indoda yakho ayiyi kubukeka enye indlela.
Yiba ngumhlobo wakhe, inkosikazi nonina.
Nangona kunjalo kungabonakali ukuhlanganiswa kwezi ndima kunokubonakala ngathi, oku kuyintloko kwimpumelelo. Indoda idinga umhlobo othembekileyo onokuxoxa ngebhola kunye nokuhleba naye emsebenzini. Indoda idinga umama oya kumxhasa, ngamanye amaxesha uya kuphulaphula, uya kumnakekela, ukutya okuhlwayileyo kwaye alandele indlu, mama, oya kuzisola kwaye akuxelele indlela engcono yokuyenza. Indoda idinga ikosikazi enomdla kwaye inqabileyo. Apha, ndicinga ukuba, izimvo zingaphezulu.
Makhe azive njengomzingeli.
Ukususela ookhokho basemoyeni asekude basala umoya ongenamntu "womzingeli". Unzima kakhulu ukuvavanya, ukuthabatha ixhoba. Makuve ukuba akayi kukufumana lula, ukuba uya kufuneka azame ngaphambi kokuba athole "i-strawberry". Amadoda ayawaxabisa abafazi abafuna ukufunwa.
Makhe achithe ixesha kunye nabahlobo bakhe.
Abaninzi abasetyhini emva komntu osondelene nabo bathatha isikhundla: "Kufuneka uchithe ixesha lakho lokukhulula kunye nam, kwaye akukho nto uyenzayo nabahlobo." Le yimpazamo enkulu. Vumela umntu wakho ukuba acwangcise ixesha lakhe. Ngaphambi kokuba uvume ukumema abazali ukuba bachithe iveki kwi-dacha, thintana nomthandayo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kumxelela ukuba uhlonela uluvo lwakhe kwaye uyayixabisa ixesha lakhe.
Akuyimfuneko ukuthatha uxanduva lonke kwizigqibo ezibalulekileyo, amadoda ngokwawo anokuthanda ukugqiba nokucwangcisa. Ngaphandle koko, unako ukuthuthela kumntu onokuhlala kwaye ongaphantsi.
Unelungelo lokumbiza!
Uyazi ukuba ngoku usebenza, kwaye, mhlawumbi, uxakeke ngeengxoxo ezinzulu, ngoko ubeke ifowuni emgceni kwaye ungabizi ngoko ukuba ufune ukupheka ukudla, okanye ucele ikhulu lamawaka: "Uyandithanda?". Musa ukubeka iliso iifowuni yonke imizuzu emihlanu xa ehlala emsebenzini okanye nabahlobo. Imibuzo ecacileyo iyacaphuka abantu.
Shayela kuphela umcimbi obalulekileyo. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, makabe naye, uphi na, kwaye unjani wena! Ndikholelwe, kungekudala indoda leyo iya kuqala ukukubiza.
Ikhwele ayikho indawo.
Wonke umntu ungumnikazi, ukuba umfazi uhamba naye, uthetha ukuba yena unguye ngokupheleleyo, kwaye akayi kukunyamezela ukuthandana nabanye abameli bezesini. Nangona kunjalo, bona bayashiya loo lungelo. Thatha lula kuye ukuba acinge ngokugqithisa abafazi. Khumbula, abantu bathanda amehlo!
Musa ukumenza umona, kwaye ungabi nomona ngabo bonke abalingane. Into ephambili ebuhlotsheni yithemba, elingahle lilahleke ngokukhawuleza kwikhwele lakho elingenangqiqo. Ukongeza, ngobushushu bomsindo, ungatshela umntu izinto ezininzi ezingathandekiyo, apho uya kucela uxolo. Ngaba uyayidinga?
Amanga okusindiswa.
Kwakhona ndifuna ukuphinda ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu ubudlelwane ithemba. Nokuba amanga amancinci angakwazi ukutshabalalisa oko uwakhileyo ixesha elide. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuvezwa njani, kodwa inyaniso enenzondelelo ingcono kunamanga amnandi. Tshela loo mntu malunga nazo zonke iimfihlo zakho. Makungabikho izinto okanye iziganeko omele uzifihle. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ufuna into efanayo kumntu othandayo. Umdlalo akufanele ube kwisango elinye.
Musa ukuphazamisana nolwalamano lwakho nabasithathu.
Nokuba ingxabano enzulu kunye neyoyikisayo ayifanelekile ukuthetha malunga nabahlobo babo, ngakumbi, kumama. Ulwalamano lwakho - yinto yakho kuphela yoshishino kunye nokubandakanya "ukutshatyalaliswa" komntu wesithathu - osisidenge nokungahambi kakuhle. Kubantu, kubalulekile ukuba ungathethi ngobudlelwane bakho nabahlobo nabazali. Ngoko ke, ukuba unalo "buckwheat" olunjalo, qiniseka ukuba abo bayazi iingxaki zakho "gcina umlomo wakho uvaliwe."
Yonke le mithetho ingentla yinyaniso yamadoda amaninzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ufunde imikhwa kunye nomlingiswa wakho othandekayo, ngokusekelwe kulo, unokongeza olo luhlu. Vumela ubudlelwane bakho buzele uthando, ukuhlonipha, ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka!