Umncinane wakho owokuqala, ubonakaliso obunamandla nangobonakaliso bonyango lomntwana kubazali uya kufumana kuye. Abanye abantwana babonisa intshutshiso kumntwana. Nangona kunjalo, baya kuthi baninzi banxaxhise impembelelo yabo engafanelekanga kuwe, owamncenga ukunakwa.
Umona wabantwana kubazali bawo uyinto ekhohlakeleyo. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho wokuqala uya kuqalisa ukuxelisa imikhwa nezenzo zentsana ukujonga ukuba usamthanda. Ngoko umona wabantwana kubazali bangazibonakalisa ngobusuku obusenyongweni bokuvuthwa, ukutsala iminwe, ukuhlala uguqa. Isizathu sokuba uya kuhokelwa nguye uyakuchukumisa.
Musa ukumgxeka ngenxa yokuziphatha okunjalo. Musa nje ukufaka isohlwayo sokulala kunye nempahla. Ekubeni bonke abanobubungqina banobubele bakhe kubazali bakhe, kwaye unobungozi bokungaboni.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba umona wabantwana ngabazali ngumsebenzi wokukhusela umntwana wakho wokuqala ekubonakaleni komdlali. Ngoko kungcono ukwenza konke kwangaphambili ukwenzela ukuba umntwana wakho angabi nomona wobuntwana kubazali ngenxa yomntakwenu okanye udade osanda kuzalwa.
Zama, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka, ukwabela ixesha lakho lomona. Ukuba umona wabantwana kubazali bawo awubonakali ngokwenza amandla okuvuselela, kubangela ukuba uxhalabele wena kunye naye, kufuneka uchaze umntwana omdala ukuba uyamthanda. Qinisekisa oku ngezenzo zakho nezenzo.
Nazi izicwangciso ezimbalwa ukuqinisekisa ukuba umona wabantwana kubazali bawo awunamandla yaye udlule ngokukhawuleza nomntwana wakho wokuqala.
- khumbula ukuba ixabiso elibalulekileyo kwintsana yakho yokuqala iimeko eziqhelekileyo zobomi. Akukho mzekelo ungamthinteli umntwana wokuqala ngezinto eziqhelekileyo: i-cribs, amathoyizi, amagumbi. Ukuba umxelele inkcazelo yenkwenkwezi yobusuku, musa ukulibala ukwenza oko, njengoko wenza ngaphambili. Qaphela izithethe eziqhelekileyo neziqhelekileyo kunye nokuqhagamshelana nabazali bokuqala kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, unike inkambo eqhelekileyo kwiivenkile ekhaya lakho.
Musa ukulibala malunga nokuba umntwana omdala uyindoda encinane. Ngaphantsi kancinci ngaphezu kwintsana.
Kwakhona, umona wabantwana ngabazali unokuvela xa uqala ukunyanzelisa izidingo eziphezulu kwizinto zokuqala, ezingenakukuqonda nokuzizalisa. Ungamphoqeleli kwikhonkco ngala magama: "Musa ukuchukumisa, ungayithinti."
Khuthaza naluphi na ukubonakaliswa kothando lomntwana wakho omdala kwaye uphendule okufanayo.
Ukuba umona wabazali kubafundi bafumana umntu womntu, kwaye umntwana akayi kulawuleki, uze uzame ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwenye into. Umzekelo, mnike uluhlu lwemisebenzi kunye nezenzo azakwenzayo. Emva koko umntwana omdala uza kuziva ukuba ufuna. Musa ukwenza kwisimiso sokusala ekusebenzelaneni naye. Uyaziqonda ngokukhawuleza, kwaye umona onobubele kubazali uya kufumana i-sludge yecala kuwe.
Zama ukwabelana ngexesha kunye nomyeni wakho, ochitha kunye nabantwana. Njengoko bathetha, abantwana ababini - abazali ababini abanokuthi bangenelela. Xa uyise, umzekelo, uya kuchitha ixesha kunye nomntwana omdala, ehamba naye epakini okanye kwiseksi, ngokokuba umona womntwana kubazali bakhe uya kuqala ukugqithisa. Uya kuqonda ukuba siyabathanda abazali bethu kangangoko ngaphambi komntwana wesibini.
Bonisa unyana wakho okanye intombi endala ukuba sele sele ekhulile kwaye unokukwenza oko umntakwabo okanye udade wabo omncinci akakwazi. Le nyaniso iya kunika ithemba ngakumbi kumntwana omthandayo kwaye uyamxabisa. Emva koko umona wabantwana kubazali uya kudlula. Uya kuqala ukuziva ngathi uncedisayo kwaye uya kukunyamekela umntwana osandula.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, siyaqaphela ukuba umona wabantwana kubazali babo yinkinga enokusombulula ngokupheleleyo onokuyisombulula yona. Yiba nesineke, kwaye kuya kubuya kuwe kubonga kubantwana bakho.