Izandi ezikholisayo. Sifanele simele njani xa esinye sezihlobo zethu okanye abahlobo baqala ukuthetha malunga nokuba yonke into "ayithandi abantu"? Yintoni ongayenza xa umntu ojikelezayo engakuvumeli indlela yokuphila? Makhe ndiqonde ukuba izinto zakho "ezingaqhelekanga" kunye nezenzo zokuzilibazisa, izigqibo "eziphikisanayo" - akusiyo i-whim kwaye ingabi ngcaciso emfutshane. Benza ube nolonwabo - yonke imihla iya kuba bhetele kwaye inomdla. Buza izihlobo zakho ukuba zikulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lokuphila kwakho. Kuthiwani ukuba uyazicima ithuba eliphambili, ukuba ukunyanzelwa kwipapa uya kusebenza ukuze uqine esikhundleni sakhe sokuqala ukwenza umsebenzi wakho? Unelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo. Izifundo ezinokubaluleka kakhulu esizifumanayo kumava ethu. Mhlawumbi kwiminyaka embalwa uya kuqinisekiswa: abantu abajikelezileyo babekho ngeendlela ezithile. Emva koko uthetha ngale nto kwaye uthetha. Ewe, ngoku ukhetha ukuthatha ingozi. Yizisa umzekelo wabantu abaphumeleleyo abawaziwayo abaye bajamelana nokungaqondi. Bonke bahamba ngendlela yabo, bengayithobeli ezinye iintlonelo. Umntu omncinci weenwele zowesifazane, owaqala ukumbatha uMademoiselle Coco Chanel, wabonakala bebaninzi. Yaye yintoni na? "I-Neformalku" uKoko ngoku unqula aze avume ihlabathi lonke.
Ngemithetho yayo. Kubalulekile ukuba izinto ezinqwenelekayo zingashushu. Usapho lwakho okanye abahlobo bakho banokwesaba kakhulu xa benqumle, umzekelo, ukuba uye wawela kwimpembelelo embi yomntu. Abantu abakujikelezileyo kufuneka babone: awunakulibala ngabo kwaye abayi kuhamba, nangona ubakha ubomi bakho ngokungathi nje. Ngaba abantu abakujikelezeyo bakuvumeli indlela yenu yokuphila? Cinga ukuba izimvo zabantu ziyashintsha, kwaye ixesha liyijaji elihle kakhulu kwimpikiswano malunga nendlela yokuphila. Uqinisekile ukuba ukhethe indlela efanelekileyo? Yiya phambili!
Ngaba ungumntu onyathelo? Ngaba ucinga ukuba isicwangciso esihle kakhulu "ukubandakanya emfazweni, kwaye siza kubona ..."? Siyakukunceda ukuba wenze isigqibo malunga nantoni na kuwe-izenzo okanye ukucinga. Uyi-"theorist" eqhelekileyo! Umsebenzi wakho kukuhlalutya, uqhathanisa amaqiniso, ufumane ubudlelwane obuhle. Abahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo ngezeko balinde izenzo zakho kunye nempumelelo. Kodwa, xa ujikeleza kwiblogi yakho kwi-Intanethi okanye uthetha nentliziyo yakho ngentliziyo ngentsimbi yekhofi, bayamangaliswa yintambo yeengcinga zakho. Ewe, ukuba ukwazi ukufumana umsebenzi ngomphefumlo, emva koko, i-theorist ecocekileyo yintaka engaqhelekanga, kwaye akukho mqeshi owaziyo ukuthetha naye. Xa ixesha lifutshane - usebenza, imeko idinga uhlalutyo olucacileyo - ucinga ngeengxaki. Unokuzivumelanisa neemeko kwaye wazi ukuba ungafani njani. Akulungele ukuba ube ngumlawuli wenkampani enkulu, nangona unqabile ukuhlala ekhoneni. Ndiyabulela kule nhlanganisela yeempawu, uhlala unqotshwe ngabantu abanomdla.