Ngoku kukho i-20% yeentsapho-lo ngumtshato phakathi kwabantu belizwe ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuphathelele indalo yentsapho nabantu baseRashiya, malunga ne-85% yemitshato enjalo yintsapho apho indoda ingumDagestan kunye nomfazi wayo isiRashiya. Abafazi baseDagestan bashada amadoda aseRussia amaninzi kangangoko: imitshato enjalo yenza kuphela i-15% yemitshato yaseRussia.
Ukuba unomdla phakathi kwowesifazane waseRussia kunye nomntu waseDagestan, okanye ukuba uceba ukudibanisa ubomi bakho kunye neDagestan, uya kufumana ezinye zeengcebiso zethu malunga noko kulungele ukulungiselela kunye noko kukufanele ukuyiqwalasela.
Okokuqala, iDagestan lizwe lamazwe amaninzi. Bahlala kwiAvars, Kumyks, eRussia, iTabasarans, i-Chechens, iNogais, amaYuda, i-Dargin, i-Lezgins, iLak, i-Azerbaijan kunye nezinye izizwana. Ngoko, ukususela ekuqaleni, kulufanelekile ukuba wazi ukuba luhlobo luni lwabantu abakhethiweyo bakho, nokufunda inkcubeko yabantu abathile.
Okwesibini, kulungele ukulungiselela ukuba izihlobo zomyeni zingenako ukulungelelanisa umtshato wesintu. Kwi-Dagestan, imitshato phakathi koontanga ithathwa njengowomeleleyo. Ubuzwe, inkcubeko, isimo sezenhlalakahle, isimo semali, ukholo lufanele lufane. Ngaphezu koko, ezinye i-Dagestanis ziqinisekile ukuba kulungele ukudala intsapho kunye nelungu lentsapho enxulumene nayo okanye umntu ohlala kuyo. Abahambi kufuneka balwe ixesha elide ukuze bafumane iindwendwe zendoda okanye umfazi ovela kwiDagestan.
Kwi-Dagestan, imitshato emininzi isalungiselelwa ngabazali. Ngoko umtshato phakathi komfazi waseRussia kunye noDagestan ungonakalisa izicwangciso zabo. Kwaye nangona kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ukuziphatha kukhululekile, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela lo mbandela kwaye ungabi nexhala xa abazali beza kuqala ukulungiselela umtshato wonyana kunye nomtshakazi abazithandayo. Ukuba babona ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, mhlawumbi, abayi kuphazamisana nokukhetha konyana.
Ezinye izithethe zophuhliso lwentsapho kwiDagestan ziphela ngokudlulayo kwixesha elidlulileyo, kodwa ezinye zibonakala, zingalindelekanga kuwo wonke umntu. Ngokomzekelo, ukweba komtshakazi ngoku kunqabile. Abafazi bayabamba kuphela kwiidolophana ezide kwiidolophu, kwaye kaninzi nangemvume yakhe. Kodwa kwiminyaka yamuva, isithethe sokuhlawula umtshakazi imali saqala ukuphuhlisa.
Ukuba i-Dagestan yakho ekhethiweyo yindodana encinane kunentsapho, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kufuneka ulinde ixesha elide lomtshato. Ulwalamano phakathi kwamalungu entsapho kwiDagestan lwakhiwe ngokuhlonela abadala. Yaye ukuba ngabazalwana abadala bomyeni wakho abatshatile, ngoko intsapho yakhe ingacela ukuba ilinde de ilungiselele ubomi babo. Oku akuthethi ukuba le ntsapho ibona into evukisayo kwintsebenziswano phakathi komfazi waseRashiya kunye nendoda yaseDagestani. Le yinto nje eyamkelwe kwiDagestan.
Ukuba ufuna ukudibanisa isithuba nomntu waseDagestan, kufuneka ukuba ulungele ukuthatha inxaxheba kwixesha elithile ekusebenzeni iinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo nokugcina izithethe.
Ngokomzekelo, kwi-Dagestan, njengaseYurophu, kuyisiko ukujonga iimvakalelo. Ngaphambi komtshato, kuyinto yesiko ukugqiba inxaxheba, enokuhlala iminyaka emininzi. Kwaye kuphela xa abatsha bengatshintshi iingqondo zabo kule minyaka, umtshato uya kudlalwa kwaye udlalwe.
Imitshato emininzi yaseDagestan ngoku ayifani neze emishadweni yaseRussia. Olu luhambo lokuya kwi-ofisi yeRejista, isidlo, iingoma kunye nemidaniso. Kodwa izithethe zangaphambi komtshato zomfazi waseRashiya zinokumangaliswa.
Ngokomzekelo, kwezinye iidolo zaseDagestan ngexesha lokudibanisa, izalamane zomyeni zingalungiselela "iholide yabesifazane". Bafika endlwini kumtshakazi kunye neempahla ezipheleleyo zeesipho. Ngokwenene, iingubo kunye neengubo zokugcoba, ukwenzela ukuba wonwabe wonke umntu eze, xa umtshakazi kunye nabahlobo bakhe banethuba lokuzama kwiingubo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo ngaphandle kokuthenga.
Emva komtshato, umfazi we-Dagestan kufuneka abonise izinto ezimbini ezibalulekileyo: ukuthozama nokuhlonipha abadala. Abafazi beDagestan banamhlanje kwiidolophu ezinkulu banxiba iimpahla ezintle kunye neendwanguzo, kodwa kwiidolophana kunye needolophu ezincinci kusengokwesiko ukuhamba ngeengubo ezinde okanye ukugqoka.
Umfazi makahlonele kwaye amthobele umyeni wakhe, kodwa ubuqili bamabhinqa kulindeleke kuye. Ngokungafani namanye amasiko aseNtshona, apho ukuphathwa kakubi ngumfazi kuthathwa njengento engcolileyo, amaDagestani asamkelekanga kuphela, kodwa ayinqwenelekayo. Musa ukuhlabalala, kungekhona ukuhlaziya kwaye ungahambisi imiyalelo kufuneka ufune umfazi wakhe uDagestan. Ukuze ancede umyeni wakhe ngesigqibo ayifunayo, kufuneka abonise ubuqili, umkhwa kunye nengqondo engavamile.
AmaDaghestani, ngokungafani namadoda amaninzi aseRashiya, anike ixesha elide lokukhulisa abantwana. Abasetyhini baseRashiya bangakufumana okuqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokuzalwa komntwana kwintsapho apho uyise engumDaghestanian kwaye unina nguRashiya, umfazi unokulindela umangalisa. Igama lobawo ngumntwana kwintsapho yaseDagestani lithetha into eninzi, kwaye umfazi unokujamelana nexesha lokuba abantwana bakhe bebephulaphule uyise ngaphezu kwexesha.
Oku kunamanani ayo kunye nee-minuses. Okuninzi kukuba imfundo yowesilisa yenza uhlobo olukhethekileyo lokulungelelanisa kwihlabathi kumntwana-ukukwazi ukubuyisela ihlabathi, ngokwabo iimfuno zabo. Ingxaki - ukuba indima yomama ekukhulisweni kwabantwana iyancitshiswa, ke abantwana banokukhula befuna ukunyanzelisa kwaye bahlukumeze. Kuyinto yesiko kwiDagestan ukuba ibhinqa likwazi ukukhusela amalungelo akhe ukuba inxaxheba kwisisombululo semibandela ebalulekileyo malunga nabantwana. Kungabonakala kungavamile ukuba umfazi waseRussia angaqhelwanga oku: kwimikhaya yaseRashiya, umfazi unalo ilungelo ngokungafihli, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nokuba imeko ye-polar yenzeka xa uyise engabandakanywa ekukhulisweni kwabantwana de ukukhula.
Ukuba ubiza ingcamango yokuba "engenabantwana", oko kukuthi, abafuni ukuba nabantwana, mhlawumbi awuyi kutshata noDagestan. Ngenxa yenkcubeko yabo, isiseko somtshato kukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana. Ibhinqa elingafuni ukwenza oku liya kuhlala libonakala liphantsi, kwaye ngokukhawuleza liwela kwindawo yokukhutshwa.