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Ngaba ucinga ukuba awunenhlanhla ebomini? Ngaba "abantu ababi" kuphela abawela kwaye iingxaki zomsebenzi ziwela emva kwesinye? Kwizengqondo, kukho ixesha elikhethekileyo kubantu abahlala bekulungele ukuba ngamaxhoba kwabanye abantu kunye neemeko - "ubuntu bentwaba". Ubuntu bobuthathaka babumbene nantoni yokuba abaziqondi kwaye abahambelani nombono "wokuxanduva". Ngoko, makhe sijonge kwiintlobo ezintathu eziqhelekileyo "zexhoba" kufuphi.

Iqhwaba: "Umele uxanduva!"

U-Olya waphendukela kum ngxaki elandelayo. Watshata nendoda eyayimnene naye ngaphambi komtshato, kwaye kamva waba "ngumnyelisi wekhaya". Wayithatha imali, wayelawula zonke iinyathelo, wajonga iifowuni kwaye akazange avumele ukuba basebenze-ngokufutshane, wenza konke ukukhusela umfazi kwiintlanganiso kunye nehlabathi langaphandle. U-Olga wayekhalaza ngesabelo sakhe esibuhlungu, ngezinyembezi wathi: "Ukuba kwakungeyenaye, ubomi bam buya kuba mnandi ngakumbi, bukhanyise ngakumbi."

Nangona kunjalo, sele sele ekhona kwintlanganiso yokuqala, waqonda ukuba unenzuzo yakhe kulo mbandela - uyakhuselwa, kwaye akadingeki ukuba asebenze ngokwakhe. Kwavela ukuba wayeyika ubomi obuzimeleyo nazo zonke izinto ezisongelayo. Kwaye ungakhange ukhangele kakuhle uhlobo oluthile lwabantu abangayifumana imfuno yakhe yokukhusela kunye nokungahambi. Ibhinqa liguqulela uxanduva lomnye umntu, ize immangalele.

Ungatshintsha njani?

Ubomi bowesifazane obululwimi lolu tshintsho, kubalulekile ukuhamba ngezigaba ezibalulekileyo zokuqonda ingxaki. Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka aqonde, qaphela ukuba "ixhoba" linalo meko inzuzo yalo. Emva kokuba eqonda ukuba lonke eli xesha uguqule uxanduva lomntu wakhe komnye umntu, unokufuna ukutshintsha yonke into. Ukukhawuleza inkqubo yokwenza utshintsho, unokwenza, umzekelo, usetyenzise iindlela zokusebenza kwengqondo apho umntu ebonakalisa eneempawu ezingenalo. Ufanele uzibonakalise kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, uzame kwiimpawu ezifana nokuzimela, uxanduva, ukuzithemba, ukuzimisela, ukuzithemba.

Iindaba ezibalulekileyo: ukuba umfazi uthatha isigqibo sokuba athathe uxanduva lwakhe kubomi bakhe, ngoko umtshato esekelwe umnqweno wokudlulisa isithuba sakhe kumntu onokumelana nokutshintsha.

Umbulali: "Ndixoshwa ngxondorha elibi!"

U-Elena uhlala ekhona into eyenzekayo, iingxaki zihlala kuyo yonke indawo. Kodwa akafundanga kwimpazamo yakhe, ngalunye ixesha athi: "Yintoni enokuyenza, ayiyi kudlula." Xa umyeni wakhe wokuqala wamshaya okokuqala ngqa, naye akazange amelane okanye afune ukukhuselwa - kutheni? Liyilo lizayo. Walethwa entlanganisweni kunye nomhlobo, ongenakukwazi ukumbona imivimbo yakhe evela kwesinye ukubetha.

Ngoko, phambi kwethu ngummeli woluhlobo lwabasetyhini abaphumelelayo ekutshintsheni uxanduva lobomi babo kungekhona kumlingane, kodwa ukulungiselela. Inkolelo engaziqondi ibakhangayo: "Andifanelanga ukuvuya." Njengomntwana, abazali baka-Elena babedla ukuthetha amagama athile: "Kodwa ngubani na ofuna uninzi kangaka?", "Akukho nto enokuyenza kuwe," "Nantoni na oyenzayo, awuyi kuzuza nantoni na," njalo njalo.

Ungatshintsha njani?

Ukuba umntu akakaze azame ukwakha i-destiny yakhe eyedwa, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ayikho "ilitye elibi" kwimpendulo kuyo yonke into eyenzeka kuye yinto enzima kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, unokumxelela oku okulandelayo: ngeli xesha uya kucinga ukuba ubomi bujikeleza ngokwalo kwaye akukho nto ingatshintshwa kuyo, iingxaki ezikuyo aziyi kutshabalala, kodwa ziza kuzibuthela kuphela.

Ukuba uyazi ngokwakho kwenkcazo kwaye ufuna ukwenza ubomi buvelise ngakumbi, zama ukutshintsha ingcamango yamandla onke edwaleni kunye nembono yokuba unokutshintsha ezininzi kwiindawo zakho. Ukuphindaphinda amaninzi kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zegama elithi "Kuxhomekeka kakhulu kum," nangona ungakholelwa okokuqala, emva kwexeshana uza kuzibonakalisa ngokutshintshwa kweempawu zobomi.

Jonga indlela umsebenzi wakho ekukhokelela ngayo oko ufuna, kwaye ulondolozo lugcinwa kwiinqununu ezingenakubalwa kunye neengqayi. Okwesibini "phambi kokuhlaselwa" kukuphakanyiswa ukuzithemba kunye nokuqatshelwa kwelungelo lonwabo. Khumbula, umsebenzi wakho kufuneka ube ngumsebenzi kunye nomqondiso wokudibanisa. Ngoko zibeke iinjongo ezifanelekileyo, ungayithobeli ubuncwane bakho nobuchule.


Umqhubi: "Ndifuna ukuhamba kwinqanaba"

Njalo, ukuthatha inyathelo eliyingozi-ukuthatha imali mboleko enkulu ebhankini okanye ukuhamba ngohambo ngaphandle kwemali -Anastasia wayekholelwa ukuba uthatha uxanduva kwaye uthatha ingozi ngokuvisisana ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa kwakungenjalo-iingxaki zafunyanwa ngethuba elingaze lilindeleke, kwaye ngokukhawuleza wazitsholwa ngazo zonke izono zokufa. Wayekholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ulawulwa yimeko, kwaye wayengenakuqonda ukuba kutheni izicwangciso zakhe zawa.

Ngokuchanekileyo kakhulu ukuba kunobungozi njani ngcamango yokuba akukho nto incike kuwe, ingcamango yokuba yonke into ixhomekeke kuwe inobungozi. Into ehlala ixhomekeka kwiimeko, kwaye oku akunakukunyanzelwa.

Ingxaki ye-Anastasia yayinjalo nokuba wayenomdla wokufumana umdla. Kuye, lo kwakukuphela kwithuba lokuziva into ethile-wayengayiboni i-half-tone yokuphila kwengqondo kuwo onke.

Ukuza kwi-adventurism kunokunyanzeliswa ngumntwana ongaphakathi, owayevalelwe phambi kwenkululeko, owayesoloko elawulwa ngabazali bakhe. Ngoku unako ukuqonda izifiso, ezifana nomnqweno wabantwana wokukhahlela ukutshiza kwiqhwa uze uthinte intsimbi. Akuzange nanini ifudiswe ebuntwaneni, loo ntokazi ayiboni iingozi zobuntu abadala.

Ungatshintsha njani?

Kulo hlobo lwabasetyhini luncedo ukufumana ubomi kwizinto ezinjalo ezingapheliyo, umzekelo, isidlo esinomsoco, ifilimu ekhangayo, ukunxibelelana nabahlobo, ngokubanzi, kunandipha yonke imibala ekhoyo. Ukuba ufumene iimpawu 'zethambileyo', ngoko uhlala ucinga ngento yokuba akuyiyo yonke into elawulwayo, ngamanye amaxesha unamandla kunathi. Njalo, uthabatha ingozi, cinga ngemiphumo emihle yezenzo zakho. Umntu omdala uhlukile kumntwana, onokuqikelela amanyathelo ambalwa ahamba phambili.

Ukuba ufumene kwelinye lala mazwi achazwe apha ngasentla "achazwa ngabantu" kwaye ufuna ngokwenene ukuba ubomi bakho bukhuseleke, ngoko kufuneka usebenze. Umsebenzi wakho ngoku uzibhalela ngokwakho isicwangciso sezenzo zekhonkrithi zokuziphucula ngokwakho, ukuqhubeka kwezi zibonelelo eziqhelekileyo oye wazinika ixesha lokuziqhelanisa. Kwaye zonke izinto zizakukusebenzela!