Ikoyikeka. Usemncinci kwaye uyintle, uqinisekile ukuba ufanelekile kunye nesimo esihle sengqondo esivela kumyeni wakho. Uyaqhubeka ekugxekisa esidlangalaleni, izimvo malunga nokuhamba kwakho kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ziziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo. Kwaye awuvunyelwe ukutyhila i-nudger emnyango, okanye ukumnqabela ukuba avele phambi kwamehlo akho.
Ngubani "yena"? Umamazala? Ummelwane? I nqununu? Umlingani? Hayi, ayikho. Ngulo dade womyeni wakho.
Unomdlalo kunye neenjongo zakhe, ukufezekisa ukuba ungasebenzisa konke okusemandleni ngaphandle kwesazela sesazela: ngokungahambi kakuhle kwakho, ukuxabana nomyeni wakhe, ukuxabana nomkhwekazi wakhe.
Abahlobo bakho ngelizwi elilodwa bathi: yebo tshuqa uze uhlabe, le ntlanzi inomona nje kuwe ngomntakwabo! Emva koko, ngenxa yakhe, usengumngane wezemidlalo kunye nabangenangqiqo, "obokuqala umfazi obanjwe" unokungqonge ". Kodwa udade-mkhwenkwe unzulu, ingakumbi xa engakuthandiyo ekuqaleni, ezama "ukukhusela" umntakwabo ekuthandeni "komnye umntu" kumntu wakhe. Njengommeli wendlu yakhe, naye ufuna umnakwabo ukuba azikhethele yena kunye nabazali bakhe.
Masiqaphele ngenxa yokunyaniseka ukuba wena ngokwakho awudluli nje ngokubanjelwa kwintlanano yobudlelwane. Wena, nawe, vumela uhlekise udade wakho womyeni xa kungengowesidlangalaleni, ngoko ke emehlweni akhe - ngokuqinisekileyo. Uze uvume kwidilesi yakhe ezo zifundo ukuba umoya phakathi kwakho uvele utyaneke. Imindeni apho amabhinqa amabini abancinci alawulwa khona ukuba ngaba kungekho uxolo kunye nokuvisisana, ngoko ubuncinane isenzo esingenasicatshulwa ngokungahambelani kwamacandelo, awanqabile.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uxanduva lokulwa phakathi koodade-mkhwenkwe kunye nomalokazana, njengokuba kukho nayiphi na ingxabano, luhlala kumacala amabini. Nangona kunjalo, simele sivume ukuba udade wakho udade unendawo ekhululekile - kwicala lakhe, njengomyalelo, abazali bakhe bafana nomntakwabo, uyazi kakuhle umntakwabo, oku kuthetha ukuba uqonda ngokuchanekileyo indlela elungcono ngayo "ukucinezela" kwaye uyifake ubuthathaka bayo. Kodwa kwicala lakho - "phezulu" iingqwalasela malunga nesidingo sokulondoloza uxolo kunye nokuchuma kwintsapho, kwaye ngoko ngokokuziphatha kuyaqina. Ukususela kulo siza kubakhela.
Izindlela zobuchule zokunciphisa umonakalo womkhwenkwe-mkhwenkwe kwilizwe lakho elingaphakathi elinokukhawuleza linokuba luninzi. Eyokuqala kubo - xa kuthengisana nomalokazana, ukudibana nodadewabo womyeni wakhe kwintsimi yelokugqibela. Iindonga zamanani, njengokuba uyazi, zithembele kumntu ophethe umfazi. Ngethuba elifanayo, ngokumema umkhwekazi ukuba akutyelele, uququzelele onke amathuba afihliweyo kwaye afihliweyo ukubonisa ukuba yonke into endlwini yakho ihlelwe ngokucacileyo, ngokuvisisana nangendlela efanelekileyo, nangona kungenjalo kwindlela umkhwenkwe-mkhwenkwe ayenayo.
Umgaqo owodwa: yonke into engathethwa kufuneka itshiwe. Xa ubini usho ngokuzwakalayo, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba lula. Into ephambili kukuthetha ngokwemvelo kwaye ngaphandle kwemizwa engadingekile. Musa ukunciphisa ukucaciswa kobudlelwane kumgangatho we-Babic hysteria. Nangona unamahloni ukuthetha izinto ngokuvakalayo, cingela - kulunge ngakumbi xa yonke into ngaphakathi kwakho ihlaselwa yintlungu engenamandla ("iphinda ikhuphuke ebudlelwaneni bethu" okanye "kwakhona ndiya kule ndlu, njengeGolgotha")?
Nangona udibene naloo mbono wolu, rhoqo ngamaxesha uzenza ngathi uphulaphule umbono wodade-mkhwenkwe uze uqaphele iingcebiso zakhe. Ukubonisa isimo sakho sokuphazamisa udade womyeni wakho kulula. Gweba uze uphawule amehlo akho - ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba kungcono ukuba angaphazamisi umbono wakho. Ngoko ufumene ntoni? Ineliseko yangaphakathi? Kodwa-kungekudala okanye kamva, kwaye kuya kufuneka ubhekane nayo - emva kokuba uziphatha ngendlela enjalo ixesha elide lahlekelwa yimiqathango yokuziphatha ukufuna uncedo xa uyifunayo ngokwenene. Yaye ubomi - into ede kwaye engalindelekanga, kungenzeka ukuba ngumkhwekazi oza kuba "wand-zhalochka" ngexesha elimnzima.
Ukuhlonipha - kuqala kokunye. Ngendlela ojonga ngayo udadewethu kunye nezinye izihlobo zomyeni wakho, ubonisa umyeni wakho ukuba unokuphathwa njani, ngokomzekelo, kwiintsapho zakho (kunye nawe). Ukongezelela - izifundo ezifanayo zixhaswa ngumntwana wakho, kuba abantwana bayamkela kwaye banengxaki kwiimpawu zobuhlobo boluntu. Cinga ukuba kutheni udadewabo enomona ngomntakwenu kwaye ugxeke uqoqosho lwakho. Mhlawumbi "uguqulela" amabango omama, umama-mkhwenkwe angafuni okanye akanako ithuba lokuxelela wena? Mhlawumbi awukhathalele ngokwenene umyeni wakho? Yiba nobulumko-ubuncinci kuluntu, bonisa ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu, ihlonishwa kwaye ilungele ngenxa yokubambisa. Musa ukulibala ukuba kwiintsapho zakho umyeni wakho ngumntu obalaseleyo emhlabeni, kwaye ngelixa ungumphambukeli ...
Yenza abahlobo kunye nomkhwekazi, yifake kwisangqa seminqweno yakho, qalisa abahlobo bakho ... okanye bhetele - funani isibini. Emva koko unokukhulula zonke iimbini zokungazithobeli ngokumisela amandla akhe kwesinye ishaneli. Wonke umntu uya kulungiswa! Smile kumkhwekazi, mema kuye kwisiganeko esibalulekileyo kuwe, mnike ingqalelo enkulu. Kukho ithuba lokuba uya kubuyela kuwe.
Kwaye okugqibela: musa ukukhononda kumyeni wakho. Umfazi unokutshintshwa, kodwa udadewabo akakwazi.