Ngoko, ngaba yinyani ukuba ngexesha lethu umfazi oqinileyo ngumntu obuthathaka? Kutheni kukho intombazana enamandla igqoke umfana esandleni sakhe? Akunjalo ngokwenene, kodwa ngokwenene, nangona apha unokuthi "ugqoke entanyeni yakho". Ewe, umntu akakwazi ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo ngokupheleleyo ukuba oku kuyinyaniso. Kwaye amadoda angokoqobo: onamandla, isibindi, isibindi kunye noxanduva alukho, kwakukho kuphela abafana abahlaselayo? Ndiyathandabuza ukuba kulungile. Kulowo nalowo ebomini kwakukho amadoda anjalo, ubudala obuhlukeneyo kunye nemimiselo, izikhundla zentsapho, kodwa zidibene-ngoko ndifuna ukukholelwa ukuba akusiyo yonke into elahlekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, akunakuphikiswa ukuba ipesenteji yamadoda efaniswa namantombazana iyakhula, leyo ibangele bonke abantu, ingakumbi abafazi, ukuba bangabandezeleka. Emva kwakho konke, kwaye ngoko "kubantombazana abalishumi ngokulandelelanisa" uyazi ukuba bangaphi abantu. Kwaye kufuneka uthabathele kulaba bantu abalisithoba abadakwa izidakwa kunye neziyobisi ezidakamizwa, amadoda angamaziko aqhelekanga. Yaye iya kuhlala yintoni? Ngokuchanekileyo, ngubani na? Kungekudala imfazwe yangempela iya kuqala phakathi kwabasetyhini amadoda aqhelekileyo. Umfazi angayi kuba namandla njani?
Ewe, kwaye ukuba akukho zihlazo, kutheni ezi nkqubo zenzeka? Kutheni abantu bebuthathaka, balahlekelwa umgca phakathi kwesini? Kutheni abesetyhini banamandla kwaye bexanduva, ukuba ngaphambi kokuba bahlale ekhaya, bafake isiphambano baze bavelise abantwana abaninzi?
Uyazi ukuba abantu bayabiza? "Yintoni abayilwela - baleka kuyo." Ngoku kutshanje, ihlabathi lonke liphazamiseka phantsi kwamanyathelo aguqukayo, kunye namaflegi kunye nemibhobho ecula ukuba bafuna ukulingana ngesini. Yiyiphi enye ibhinqa elifanelekileyo! Abasetyhini ababeka engozini esikhundleni seengubo eziqhelekileyo kunye neengubo zokugqoka iingubo zabo kunye nomsi womlenze wekhamera, bazama ukukhula komsebenzi kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo bangahambisani namadoda. Thina ngokwethu sifuna ukuqina kunye nokuzimelela-into. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba, ukuba le ngcamango kubo bonke abasetyhini abayidingiyo: ininzi lethu lisathanda ukuba ngumfazi, lincinci kwaye lincinci kumadoda. Baxhomekeke kubo, bathembele kubo. Ukukwazi ukuba banokuthembela kweli gxalaba elinamandla lomntu wabo, kwaye emva kwakhe unokuhlala ufihla ekufeni.
Mhlawumbi, zonke ezo zinto zenziwa ngefashoni kunye neendlela zaseNtshona ezenza ngathi, zatshintsha loo ndoda nomfazi kwiindawo. Nangona enye into ebangel 'umdla: iindawo ezivela phi kwiNtshona? Nangona kunjalo, kukho rhoqo ukuhamba okuthakazelisayo, kwaye siyavuya ngokuzithandela kwaye sizame, sihlawule umvuzo. Kwaye, ngokumangalisayo, ngamanye amaxesha sinokukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba oku kuya kusivuyisa!
Yingakho loo ndoda yaba buthathaka kangaka? Lapha umbuzo awukho nakwimeko yokuphucula umzimba wakhe - le nto iyinto ehluke ngokupheleleyo, nangona kunzima kakhulu ukubona umntu osemfana enomsoco "ubhiya" obuhle (kunye nentombazana engazibukeli - kodwa yile shishini lomntu wonke). Sithetha ngobuthathaka bokuziphatha, okomoya. Ziziphi iindoda ezilukhuni kunye nezingenangqiqo "zeplastiki" abangakaze bafezekise nantoni na ebomini babo, kwaye ngaphezu koko, abafuni ukukwenza. Kutheni? Ukuba ekuqaleni kukho abazali abanothando abaza kunika yonke into efunekayo. Emva koko kuya kuba nomfazi oza kuthatha yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye abe nexesha lokwakha umsebenzi ngokugqithiseleyo kunomntu wakhe. Kwaye kutheni uphinde uxhawule? Kunjengehlobo oluthile lokungasebenzi kwemvelo. Le ndoda iyancwina ngoku, kungekho enye eyayihambayo: kwaye ityala lelo lizilingo ezizilindele emva kobomi bonke. Kithina nabo, kwaye baninzi, kodwa ngandlela-thile siba nzima.
Umfazi oqinileyo ngumphumo wokuvela kwamadoda athathaka. Emva koko, umntu makomelele! Konke kwaqala, mhlawumbi, kunye nokuba intsapho yayeka ukuba yinto ephakamileyo kakhulu kuluntu. Kwakhona, ezininzi izilingo zaqala ukuphazamisa ukuzinikela ngokuzinzileyo kwabatshatileyo - umntu waqala ukukhangela umntu ohlangothini ukuze akhanyise yonke imihla. Omnye onentloko wayengena kwi-hobby entsha kwaye wayibala malunga nosapho. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, lo "mntu" wayeyindoda, ekubeni ethanda ukubuthathaka kwaye ingcinga yentsapho ayinamandla njengokuba yabasetyhini kwinqanaba elincinci. Kwaye, esishiywe yedwa, kwiminyaka engama-30 ukuya ku-35 ukuya kwidlaphu ephukile, enabantwana ababini ezandleni zakhe kunye neminyaka emibini yokufunda kwisityalo sokupakisha inyama, kunzima ukuyiqonda: yintoni oyenzayo ngokulandelayo? Kwaye kukho imfuneko yokuphila, kubalulekile ukukhulisa abantwana kwimilenze. Ngoko loo mfazi wabeka umthwalo phezu kwakhe, waya kukhangela ingcono engcono. Kwaye emva kwakhe kwakungekho ngumntu onobuqili obuqilima, kodwa inkwenkwe yothando eyayimnene yayiphulaphula yonke iqela kwaye yakhonza njengenja yekhaya. Kuphela ukusetyenziswa kwalo kwakungekho ngakumbi kuye, njengoko wayenentlungu kunye nokungabikho kwamanyathelo. Bafunyanana, izibini ezinjalo: ibhinqa elinamandla kunye nendoda ebuthathaka, umfazi obuthathaka kunye nendoda enamandla. Kuphela ngeminyaka yo kuqala yaba ngaphezulu nangaphezulu, ngelanga. Ukuba akunjalo, lo wesifazane wasala yodwa, eyazi ukuba umthwalo entanyeni yakhe ngendlela yongumntu onjalo ngumthwalo owongezelelweyo.
Indoda yayingafuni ukusebenza nzima, kodwa yayifuna ukuhlala kakuhle. Ngoko le ndoda iya eAlfonso - ngokubanzi, yaba nguhenyukazi kwiingqungquthela. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abanye besifazane babe nethamsanqa ngemali kwaye bahlala ngaphandle kokunciphisa. Kwaye, enhle kwaye enhle, ngokukhenkceza kweengelosi kunye neengqungquthela zengqungquthela, ikherubhi, kwafuneka asebenze, angazibhali. Wayediniwe, ikerubhi. Ukukhathala, wayefuna ubomi obumnandi - kwaye waba ngubukhoboka bezezimali kumfazi oqinileyo kodwa onesidenge. Apha uye uyaqonda: kukulungile ukuba uqine, ukuze uchithe iminyaka embalwa edlulileyo umntu obuthathaka?
Emva komntu oqinileyo umfazi onamandla onjalo akayi kukunyamezela: ukhuphiswano lunzima, kwaye kunzima ukuhambisana nabo, abalawuli. Ngoko kuvela: bafuna ukuzimela ngabasilisa - baba ngabazimeleyo kwamadoda. Kwaye ngoku amadoda axhomekeke kuthi. Ngoku intombazana enamandla ithwele umfana kwisandla sayo, isondla kwi-spoon, njengomntwana omncinci. Akunjalo, kunjalo, kodwa kwenzeka. Kubuhlungu ukuba ixesha alikwazi ukubuyela emva kwaye liwele kumaxesha eenkwenkwezi kunye namantombazana, ukuze unandiphe uluntu lwabantu abaqhelekileyo ngamandla kunye neyona nto!