Okokuqala, isondo - oku kubonakaliswa komzimba kwemizwa phakathi kwabantu. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu ocinga ngoko, ukubeka ubudlelwane bokuqala, kwaye emva koko ubumnandi. Ngokwamadoda amaninzi, luthando olunomdla - oku sizathu esona sizathu sesini. Kodwa abaninzi bethu abaqinisekanga ngoku. Emva koko, isondo ngokwaso, kude kwangexesha elide, sisisiseko, indlela yokuqhubela phambili kwintsapho kunye nokuzingela imali. Ngoko yintoni lo thando emva kwakho konke? Konke kwimihla yamandulo, indoda eyayinomfazi, okokuqala, ukubonisa ubungqina namandla akhe, kwaye kuphela ke wayenakekela ukuphindaphinda isizwe sabantu. Apha unayo izilwanyana zesintu, eziye zasinda nanamhla. Ngoko kutheni umntu efuna ukulala ngesondo, kunye nothando lomfazi kwaye yeyiphi na imeko umntu oziphatha ngayo?
Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo, abantu banamhlanje abasoloko begcina ubudlelwane babo ngokwesondo njengento ethile kunye nesondlo. Kwabaninzi, amadoda namabhinqa, kufuneka ukuba ulwabelana ngesondo, njengenjongo yokuzibonakalisa ngokwakho, umthombo wokukrazula iingxaki okanye indlela yokuxazulula iingxaki zabo. Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, ingqondo yengqondo yabesifazane ihluke ngokubonakalayo kwindoda kwaye ngoko kuyinto enomdla kakhulu ukuba sivelele "Ndiyakuthanda! "Kunoko oqhelekileyo" Ndifuna wena! ". Apha unalo uthando kunye nesondo, okuqhubekayo phakathi kwabo ngokwabo.
Ngoko ke, masibe sesinye imizekelo sicinge ngezizathu eziphambili zokuba kutheni amadoda afune isondo, kunye nenxalenye yesetyhini yobuninzi bomntu kunye nokuthandana.
Ukwabelana ngesondo njengomsebenzi .
Amadoda amaninzi acinga ukuba umfazi omhle ngumfazi ohlala epheka isidlo sakusihlwa, eshicilela iikhati zakhe kwaye, ngokukhawuleza xa umyeni wakhe enqwenela, uya kulala naye, nangona ekhulelwe. Ewe, ukuba umfazi akahlangabezane neemfuno zomlingane, uya kujonga kwicala aze ahambe. Ukuba umfazi, emtshatweni, ingqwalasela eyona nto, uyinyamekele kwaye uvakalelwa kukuba uyadinga umyeni wakhe, kwaye emva koko kwaye sele esele i-conjugal duty. Nasi umzekelo wokuqala wesibini esitshatileyo esahlukileyo.
Ukuzimela ngokuzibandakanya ngesondo .
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kubonakala kuba amadoda ukuba ngobudlelwane bezesondo baya kukwazi ukuzibonakalisa kunye nokubonisa amandla abo besintu kunye nesidima. Naliphi na intombazana endiyithandayo umntu, uyibona njengendlela yokuzikhumbuza ukungahambi. Oku kuzisa umntu ukuba abe nokuzola nokuzithemba. Kulula ukuba ibhinqa lifumane ingqiqo ngokuqiniseka ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyayithanda. Emva koko, umfazi othembekileyo ngumfazi onomlenze onamandla, onokuthembela kuyo nayiphi na umzuzu onzima.
Isondo kunye no lonwabo .
Amadoda, xa iifom ehamba ngeenxa zonke kubo, ibona isondo ukuba sisisindululo esona sikhulu, sisityezelo okanye umsebenzi "ongenanto". Abasetyhini, ngokuchaseneyo, bazame ukuzigweba ngenxa yokuba bengakwazi ukugcina abantu besondelene nabo. Ngenxa yoko, sisoloko sizongcwaba ngaphakathi kwethu kwaye sizibonele singenakufaneleka kwaye singenakunqanda. Kwaye konke oko, kuba sidinga indoda, kodwa kungekhona njengomlingane wesini, kodwa njengomntu onokubonisa ubungqamene nokulahla ubunyulu.
Impumelelo ebhedeni iyafana nemidlalo .
Amadoda amaninzi anokukwazi ukubonakalisa ubomi babo bobulili ngeenombolo ezintathu: umzekelo, 16, 25, 88. Kuloluhlu, i-16 ithetha ukuqala kwamava ezesondo, 25 ubudala bakhe, 88 inani lamalingani esondo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanjalo bendoda baxhonywe nge-mania "yokuqokelela" inani leentombi ezithandana ngazo zesondo. Nangona unakho ukulibala ngeentombi zakhe ezinsukwini ezimbini. Amadoda acinga ukuba into ebalulekileyo kubo ifom yezesondo ephezulu kakhulu, inani lamantombazana asele embhedeni kunye nenani leengqungquthela. Apha zilapha, izikhombisi zalo mqulu, apho nganye ibhinqa ibonwa njengendlela yokuvavanya, iqinisekise ubungqina babo. Kakade ke, abafazi nabo babonakaliswa ngolu hlobo lobunqunu babo. Ngethamsanqa, ithayile ngelishwa, kungekhona. Ngako-ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba siyaziqaphela kakhulu abantu.
Olu luhlu lwemimandla luya kuqhubeka ixesha elide, kwaye kunqabile apho iimbono zamadoda nabasetyhini zingahambelana. Hayi, ngokuqinisekileyo asifuni ukuthetha ukuba abafazi abayidingi isondo, kwaye amadoda ayakuthanda. Enyanisweni, wonke umntu uyadinga yonke into, kodwa yonke indawo kufuneka ibe ngumlinganiselo kunye nesabelo sobabini kunye nokuthanda. Ngokulula, ngamnye ummeli wesini esahlukileyo uyazibona ngesondo aze athande ngendlela yakhe, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, akukho kubo babona uthando ngaphandle kwesondo, kodwa nje ngesondo - ngaphandle kothando. Apha unomzekelo obunzima wobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Nangona bekuncinci kwabo, abafazi banokudibanisa kalula le mibono emibili, ukubeka isondo kuqala. Kuphela nje ukuba i-psychology yethu ibonisa ihlabathi elisijikelezayo ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Ukuthi ukuphathwa ngesondo njengendlela yokuhlala yedwa okanye njengendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba uyamnciphisa umbala wothando, akukho "ikhulu leepesenti" ezithathwe. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, kwingqondo yengqondo into enjalo "njengezimiselo zomntu". Ngamanye amazwi, oko kuthathwa njengokwemkelekileyo kumntu omnye kubonwa njengesiqhelo komnye. Nantsi ingcaciso yazo yonke imizekelo yethu. Kodwa asimele sikhohlwe ukuba abesifazana badinga uthando kunye nesondo ngokwawo, njengokuhlanganiswa kwamalungu amabini athando, ehambelana nomvakalelo ozalisa abathandwayo abapheleleyo kwaye kubangele ukuba bazive bevuya. Ngenxa yeso sihlandlo kulungile ukuhlala, nothando kunye nokunyuka emlilweni. Kancinci kakhulu into esiyifunayo, abafazi besilisa. Sifuna nje uthando kunye nokunyamekela, kwaye emva koko sithandana. Ngaba kunzima ukuqiqa. Inhlanhla ngothando!