Uthando luvakalelo oluhle, kwaye kuyimvelo ukuba wonke umntu azive, kwaye akukho nto ihlazeka ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi ndiza kwihlabathi nje ukuthanda, kodwa abanye, mhlawumbi baninzi, bayakhubeka ngendlela efanelekileyo, apho uThixo asiyalele khona. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuvuma kumntu esimthandayo ngothando. Kutheni sifika ukuthetha okanye ukuva intetho ethi "Ndiyakuthanda"? Yintoni na? Sifihla iimvakalelo zethu ezifudumeleyo emva kwesibindi sokubandezeleka, kodwa ebusuku sizisola ngelixesha elilahlekileyo lokuqaphela okanye siphupha ngelinye ilanga siya kuthi, siyavuma kulo mntu othandekayo, uthi "Ndiyakuthanda". Kodwa, hayi, oku kuphupha nje. Ngoko kutheni kunzima ukuthetha - Ndiyakuthanda? ? Yintoni eyoyikayo?
Ndicinga ukuba ngamnye umfazi uya kundiqonda kunye nekhosi yeengcamango zam, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba abantu bacinga njalo. Eli binzana lilingana nokuhlulwa kwenkululeko. Emva kokuthetha la mazwi, kukho imbopheleleko yokuba abantu abaninzi bayayethusa. Imbopheleleko - yilokho esiyikwesabayo, sesaba ukhathalela uxanduva, kwaye ke ukuphazamiseka. Nabani na umntu oyika utshintsho ebomini bakhe, kuba engayazi ukuba yeyiphi indlela kunye nendlela ezo zitshintsho ziyakuchaphazela ngayo ubomi bakhe.
Ngaphambi kokuthetha eli binzana umntu uhamba ngentambo yokuhamba ngentlawulo, njengentaka, kwaye emva kwala magama, uzibeka esentwini aze abe yinto enjenge-kertrot Kesha. Unokuba usenokutsho ukuba amazwi ala magama alinganiswa nelokuba uzibeka kwisigodlo, kwaye ngoko ulahlekelwe inkululeko yakho. Umntu, kwi-kroti yaseKeshi, uhlukile kuloo nto umntu owaziyo ngobunkokheli bomntu, kodwa engazi i-parrot. Uloyiko lokuba ukuhlala emgodini ngenxa yakhe kuya kuba yintlungu. Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba silindele ukuthembela kumntu, kwaye sithembele, sesaba ukuxhatshazwa. Sinoyika ukuba xa sidlala ngokwaneleyo kunye nathi, baya kusiphosa njengodonsa olungadingekile, ukuphula iintliziyo zethu nokusika amaphiko ethu, kwaye ke asiyi kukwazi ukundiza, kwaye nangakumbi asisoze sakwazi ukuthemba omnye.
Ibinzana elithi "Ndiyakuthanda" libopha izandla zethu ngeentonga ezikhusela ukuba sithuthelele ngokukhululekile kubomi. Isithintela ukuba sinentembelo. Kwaye sinesaba ukuba asiyi kukwazi ukubamba igalazi yothando ephosakeleyo kwizandla zethu eziphosiweyo kwaye siyilahle kwaye siyiqhekeke ngentliziyo yothandekayo. Yintoni enokuba yimbi ngaphezu kokudumala komntu othandekayo kuwe?
Okanye mhlawumbi awuvumeli ukuzikhukhumeza ukuvuma, kwaye mhlawumbi uhlushwa ngokungathandabuzeki, kodwa ngaba lowo mntu, kwaye ndiyamthanda ngempela? Sinoyika ukuphosoka okulungileyo, kwaye xa silahlekelwa yinto esinayo, siyaqonda ukuba le nto yayingcono.
"Kungcono ukwenza kwaye uguquke kunokuba ungenzi kwaye uguquke," watsho u-Boccaccio ohlakaniphileyo. Ewe, wayethetha, ngenxa yokuba wenze okanye uthethe, uya kufumanisa oko kukukhathazayo ebusuku, kwaye kuphela ngale ndlela uza kufumana impendulo yombuzo wakho emva kokufunda yonke inyaniso. Uyeke ukuva ubunzima kwizinto ezingaziwa. Emva koko, kulula kakhulu ukufunda nokuzola kunokuba ufumane ubunzima obungaziwa.
Kwaye ndifuna ukuqwalasela kwelinye icala, oloyiko lokuva amazwi athandekileyo. Khumbula, ebusheni bethu, sanqabanga ukukhanga, kude kube loo mfana evuma uthando. Ngobusuku obumnyama emva kwe-disco, emva kokukuthatha emnyango wendlu yakho, kufuneka athi amazwi akhanukisayo anokukuanga. Kwaye, kuyinyaniso okanye kungekhona, ngokubanzi, kwaye kwakungazange kuthintele ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuva la mazwi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, thina, ngokuqinisekileyo, sinokukholwa ukuba oku kuyiyinyaniso, kwaye bavumela abafana ukuba bazibambe, baze bavume, kodwa, kwaye ngoku? Ngoku siyakuvumela, size sikhuphe kwaye sisibambe, size silale nabo nje ukuba singaliva la mazwi. Ngamanye amaxesha silungele nantoni na, kodwa kungekhona kumagama aya kusidibanisa.
La mazwi amnandi ukuva loo maantombazana asemncinci aze aphuphe inkosana enhle kwihashe elimhlophe, kodwa kungekhona abo bafazi abasele bazijwayele ukuzimela. Loo ntokazi, owayezimela ngokuzimela abantwana, wazinikela ekufundeni kwiindawo ezihloniphekileyo, kumfazi owazithengela imoto epholileyo aze aqhube kumsebenzi wakhe omangalisayo, ngaba kufuneka bave la mazwi kumntu? Emva kwakho konke, kuba yinyathelo, baya kuphuma kwindlela, kwaye kutheni utsho utshintshe into ebomini, ukuba sele isele kakuhle.
Ibhinqa lenkampani yokuzithemba, awuyedwa, ujikeleze wena uzele amadoda akulungele ukuqwalasela ukuvumela ukuba uzisebenzise. Ikhululekile njengomoya, ehamba ngokukhawuleza iqhuma kwaye ihamba. Akukho ukuzibophezela kumntu, akukho zihlazo, ukuxabana, umona, iinyembezi, intukuthelo, akukho nto embi neyibi, egalela ukubonakala kwemibimbi. Kwaye injalo ibhinqa ibonakala ibancinci kunowesifazane otshatileyo. Abasetyhini abasetyhini, ndithi, uhlobo oluthile lwenkathazo kwaye aluqhelananga, soloko uphikisana. Ewe, abafazi abakhululekileyo banokuphefumlelwa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye bazive bekhululekile nakweyiphi na imeko.
Ngaba akwanele ukuba ufuphi kuwe, ukuba uya kuma-movie nakwiivenkile, ekuxelela amazwi amahle, kwaye isiqingatha sakho sesibini sebhedi asinalutho. Ngaba akunjalo? Ngexesha elifanayo, kuzo zonke, uziva ungenazo izibophelelo, sinokuthi phakathi kokulala ngesondo, kwaye akukho nto. Ngokufanayo naye unako ukuthetha ngokukhululekile nabanye abantu, kwaye yena kunye nabanye abafazi, kuba akukho mbopheleleko, akukho ntando, kwaye akukho ntetho "Ndiyakuthanda".
Kodwa xa ekutshela ukuba "Ndiyakuthanda", ngoko awukwazi ukuthetha ukuba ulala ngesondo phakathi kwakho, kuba ukuba ubuncinci omnye ufumana iimvakalelo zothando, ngoko kukho enye ikhonkco. Kwaye ke kukho izibophelelo, kodwa, ngokwenene, unelungelo lokumnika "ukujika esangweni," okanye ukumthabatha nothando lwakhe kwaye uhambele kwinqanaba leentsebenziswano ezahlukeneyo, ukuya phezulu, apho ungagcinwanga kuphela ukuxhunywa komzimba, kodwa no komoya. Kuye kuwe!
Ukuvuma kothando akugcini nje ngamazwi, akufanele bangabi nalutho, kufuneka bafihle inani elikhulu luthando, isisa, uthando, ukunakekelwa kunye nokuqwalaselwa. Ewe, le nto ayilona uluhlu olo umntu onothando kufuneka abonise ukuba uyintanda yakhe, njengoko u-Archimedes wathi, "Uthando luyinto enokuthi ibonakaliswe imihla ngemihla!" Ngoko, bonisa ubungqina bakho, kungekhona nje ngamazwi nokuvuma, kodwa ngezenzo.
Kodwa ke ndiyakholwa kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba nayiphi na umntu uya kufumana isiqingatha sesibini. Isiqingatha ixesha lokuyifumana, kufuneka usenokukwazi ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye uyigcine, ngoko ungesabi iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ungesabi ukubonisa. Emva koko, wonk 'ubani unelungelo lokonwaba kunye nothando, kodwa akuyena wonke osebenzisa le lungelo!