Uye waba kunye iminyaka emininzi, udlula ixesha le-pastel-candy-bouquet kwaye ufikelele kwimibutho yansuku zonke, "bytovuha." Kwaye akunandaba nokuba uhlala emtshatweni womtshato, kwimanyano yentsapho yomthetho okanye ngokwahlukileyo, le nto ayikwazi ukuphetshwa.
Yintoni kanye phantsi kweli gama elibi? Masizame ukuqhathanisa ubudlelwane bemihla ngemihla: uyayicoca, ahlambe izitya, ahlambe izinto zakhe aze afune ukubuya kuye, naye, uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi okanye uthengisa ngeenkonzo zakhe ("ndithande, ndifuna entsha yengubo yeboya / ijacket / i-hat ..."). Yena, ukuzithethelela ngento yokuba umnini-sutra osebenzayo kwaye uletha ininzi yengeniso yakhe kwintsapho, uyaqhubeka esasaza iisokisi zakhe kwaye angayinciphisi isiqwenga sebheyile yangasese. Kukho ukungqubana.
Ubomi bemihla ngemihla bunokuchaphazela ubomi bobulili. Ukuba umfana onentombazana engazi indlela yokulala ebhedini kwaye imihla ngemihla i-nahodnoobrazny, isondo esingathandekiyo, elinye lamalingani liyakhathazeka. Kwimeko efanelekileyo, ngokuhlwa kuya kugqiba ngegama elithi "makhe silale phantsi", kuninzi, utshintshe.
Umqondiso wokuqala wokuba ulwalamano lwakho luye lwafudukela kwinqanaba "lekhaya" - ukucasula kwizinto ezincinci. Ngokomzekelo, uyathukuthela kwaye akhwele ngomlingane ongenalo ngenxa yokuba uhlamba ixesha elide kwisibuko esingaphambi kokuphuma, nangona akukho ndawo yokukhawuleza. U-zhuzhutko uyakuchukumisa ukukhwaza kwakhe ebusuku okanye kwintlanzi etafileni. Kwaye abafihla izikhalazo, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, babonise uluvo lwabo ngomnye ngomntu.
Omnye unokukwazi ukuba u-bytovuha ukungafuni ukucinga ngomntu ngaphandle kwakho, uhlobo lobugovu kubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nentombazana. Ukuba uyazi kakuhle iimeko ezichazwe ngasentla - kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza!
Indlela yokuphepha isigwebo?
- I-Romantika. Khumbula wena ekuqaleni kwentsapho. Umfana onamahloni akazi ukuba yiliphi icala eliya kumfazi othakazelisayo, uzama ukumkholisa kwaye nceda. Ngoko kutheni ngoku ulungiselele isidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ungayi kubhayisikobho kwintsapho elihle? Zama ukulungiselela ukumangaliswa kuye: lungisa isitya sakhe esiyithandayo, uyihlobise indlu ngeentyantyambo kunye namakhandlela, ugqoke iingubo zokugqoka kwaye ulinde umthandi wakho kumsebenzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo kakubi.
- Ukusasazwa kwemisebenzi. Ukuba sele uhlala ndawonye, wonke umntu endlwini kufuneka aqonde ngokucacileyo oko akumele akwenze kwaye ngukuphi umhla weveki. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba kufuneka kube namalungelo alinganayo kwaye ahambelane namathuba omzimba. Unokubamba kwaye ubambelele kwifriji, umzekelo, ngubani na xa izitya zihlamba.
- Nika ixesha kubahlobo. Kanye ngeveki ungalungiselela ukuphumla komnye nomnye uze uhambehamba kunye nabahlobo bamandulo. Makhe aphuze ubhiya kunye nabasimili bebhola, kwaye uhamba ngeenxa yokuthengisa kunye nabahlobo bakho.
- Izinto zokuzilibazisa. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho ixesha elaneleyo loku, bhalisela i-yoga, ukubunjwa, ukubhukuda. Variantsmass. Into ephambili - musa ukuma, ukuhlakulela, ukuqhubela phambili kwaye ungabandakanyeki kuphela kwimpilo yentsapho.
- Ezahlukeneyo zesondo. Zama, ungesabi ukwenza oko ungazange uzame. Ibhedi yimboniso yeebini zakho. Dlala ngeendima zakho ezithandayo. Uya kumangaliswa.
Iindlela zokudibanisa ubungqina obude bubuhlungu kangaka, ubuninzi. Into ephambili kukuba ungavumi ukuhamba ngezandla zakho, ungadikibali, kwaye uphucule ngokwendlela eyahlukileyo. Zibeke kakuhle kwaye uza kubona ukuba yonke into ejikelezileyo iqala ukutshintsha ibe ngcono. Into ephambili kukukholelwa kuwe!