Akukho imfuneko ukulungiselela ukuhluthwa okungafaniyo kwinqanaba layo, kuba yonke into efanayo imfihlo yaqala ngokucacileyo. Kwaye ukuze ungaboni ngokungafani ncamnye kwiimvakalelo zesabelo sakho kunye nesithande sakho sesibini esithandekayo, kufuneka nje ugcine iimvakalelo zomntu, isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo komnye nomnye, inhlonipho kunye nentando.
Ngethuba lethu, ukuvakalelwa kwabantu abathandekayo ababini abaqhelekanga. Kodwa ukuxolelana, ukuhlonelana komnye nomnye kubaluleke kakhulu - uthando luye lwaluhlala luyinyani ngokumalunga nesahlulo sesibini, le mvakalelo kufuneka igcinwe njenge-apula kwiso.
Sonke ngabantu, kwaye sonke sinye, kodwa senza iimpazamo, emva koko, siyazisola. Kodwa ukuze ungabenzeli ngaphambili, kufuneka ufunde imigaqo ethile, leyo ke, ayiyi kukhulula.
Ukuba insizwa iyakunakekela, ikumema kwiivenkile kunye neefestile, ikuthatha kwi-movie - oko akuthethi ukuba uyakuthanda. Inokuba yindlela enye yokukubeka, intombazana enhle neyintombi elala. Ewe, kwaye ukuba loo nto uyayikhathazeka kakhulu kangangokuthi unganakutsho nokuba uthetha? Uyakuqinisekisa njani oku kwaye ufezekise ukuqonda ngokubodwa?
Masiqale ngeyokuqala. Okokuqala, kufuneka udlale umzobo malunga nendlela owaphula ngayo imoto eyiikhilomitha ezingama-200 ukusuka kwisixeko, kwaye kufuneka ulungiselele oku kungabikho ngosuku, kodwa xa esebenza. Ukuba umfana wakho uyakuthanda, akayi kunqanda ukukunceda.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, kufuneka ukwazi ubungakanani kwaye ungadluli, kuba yonke into iya kukhankanywa ngokukhawuleza kwabathandekayo bakho. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ofuna ukuyicebisa kukuthanda. Ukuba uyamthanda kakhulu iqabane lakho, awuyi kuba neyiphi na imibono yokuyivavanya.
Ukuba uthando luhlangene, luya kubonakala kwiso iso. Yaye ukuba omnye wenu udlala isilumko, kuya kubonakala. Ngoko, kukuthi wenze isigqibo sokuba wenze ntoni ngako, nokuba njani.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umfana wakho ukhangele amanye amantombazana, uyazi, oku kungaba ngumqondiso kuwe. Kodwa ngeendlela ezithile kanye kanye: nokuba umntu wakho ufuna ukutsala, ngoko ke, ukuziqwalasela wena, ukukwenza ube nomona, okanye uyayithanda ngokwenene isini sesini kunye namantombazana abanye ngaphandle kwakho.
Ukuba awufuni ukulala embhedeni wakhe emva kweentlanganiso zakho zokuqala kunye naye, mnike elinye ithuba.
Nangona unqwenela ukulala naye, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba uyamdinga. Emva koko, ukuba umfana wayebukele enye intombazana - uya kujonga ngenye indlela kwakhona. Kwaye oku, ndicinga ukuba awudingi. Ngoko ke, kufuneka wenze isigqibo malunga nalo mzuzwana nje ukuba uhlale naye okanye cha. Unokwenza uvavanyo lokunyaniseka kwintombi yakho, kwaye ukuba ixesha kunye nemali ivumelekile, unokuqesha umcuphi ukuba alandele intanda yakho kwaye uyitshekishe, ukuba ulungele ukukukhaphela okanye cha.
Ukunyaniseka yinto ephambili kwiimvakalelo, kwaye ukuba isibini sithandana kwaye sihlonipha omnye nomnye, kwaye sixabisa isibini nganye esichithwa kunye, oku kungabizwa ngokuqinisekileyo-thandana nencwadi enkulu.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ngothando kukho i-pluses kunye ne-minuses, njengoko sithethile, kodwa akuyiyo yonke into eqondwa ngokupheleleyo. Kufuneka senze imibingelelo ukuze silondoloze uthando kunye neemvakalelo. Ngoko ke, uthando lufanele luhlale luxabiseke, njengedayimane.