Ngabo bazali, umntu omncinane ufunda ihlabathi elibajikelezile. Nangona ukuba umntwana useyingane, sele sele ikwazi ukukhula ngokukhawuleza. Inyaniso yokuba uchitha ixesha lakhe kwiphupha akusiyo isizathu sokunqaba ukuthetha naye.
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuziphatha kubazali kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bentsana, kufuneka uxhomekeke kwi-intuition yakho kunye nesikolo sobugcisa.
Abazali abaninzi banokucinga ukuba umntwana usemncinci kwaye akaqondi nto, kodwa ngoku kunyanzelekile ukuseka uqhagamshelwano nosana lwakho. Xa umntwana engalali naye kuyimfuneko ukuyidlala, kumncumo, uthethe amazwi amnandi, nangona engayiqondi, kodwa uyayiqonda intetho yezwi abathethiweyo. Unokwenza umntwana abe ngumzimba wokuzihlaziya okhethekileyo, okwenzela umzimba umzimba. Ngendlela, ngenxa yokuxilisa, abantwana bahlakulela ingqondo, inkqubo yeentlanzi. Kubalulekile ukuthwala umntwana ezandleni zakhe, le ndlela ikuvumela ukuba uqhagamshelane ngokusondeleyo phakathi kwabazali kunye nosana lwabo - oko konke okufuneka uqhagamshelane nosana kwiinyanga zokuqala zokuphila.
Kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bentsana, abazali badlala indima ebalulekileyo, abagcini nje ngokutya, ukuhlamba, kodwa bathande. Yaye uthando kumntwana kunoma yiphi na iminyaka yinto ebalulekileyo.
Kufuneka kuthiwa ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba kwabadala ekuphuhlisweni komntwana, akukho nto inomdla kuye, kungekhona na amathoyizi aqaqambileyo oya kudlala naye, ukuze asebenze nawo kwaye akaphazamisi inkxalabo yakho yemihla ngemihla evela kuwe. Abazali kufuneka bahlehlise yonke imicimbi yabo baze bafundise umntwana, banomdla, bathathe ithoyilo baze babonise indlela yokudlala nayo, kuthetha ukudlala kunye nosana kwaye emva kwexesha abazali baya kubona indlela umntwana ngokwakhe, ngokulandela umzekelo wabo ophilayo, sele edlala umdlalo. Ukusebenzisa ithoyilo njengomzekelo, sibona ukuba umntwana ukopisha zonke izenzo zethu, imodeli yokuziphatha kuluntu nakwabazali, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngubani oza kukhula kumntwana wethu.Ukufundisa abazali ngamnye kufuneka bakhumbule imithetho embalwa yokuziphatha nabantwana babo.
Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, unokubonakalisa kwisigwebo esisodwa - kungekho phantsi kweemeko, abazali abazithandayo abacaphukisiyo, ngenxa yokuba iziphumo zomsindo wakho unokungafihlisiyo, into yokuqala engayi kuvela kukuba yi-neurosis, ngoko umntwana angakwazi ukuhlaziya, unokufumana ingxaki yokulala.
Umgaqo wesibini ungabonakaliswa ngolu hlobo: abazali abazange bafumane ubudlelwane kunye nomnye ngoncedo lokumemeza komntwana - kunokusongela aze ahlale kwindawo yakhe. Umntwana ukhula, ukwesaba
ingxolo - le yimiphumo yabazali abahlaselayo. Kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bentsana, kubaluleke kakhulu ukudala ikhaya elithulileyo nelinobubele, ngaphandle kokumemeza, amaqhinga, amahlazo.
Umthetho wesithathu uluthando, ukuqonda kunye kunye nentlonelo phakathi kwabazali ukuba konke oku kubakho kwintsapho yakho, ngoko umntwana uya kulungela - uya kukhula kwindawo ehambelanayo kwaye uya kukhula ubuntu obunelungelo.
Ulwalamano lwabazali, imikhwa nayo yonke into ngumzekelo wokulingisa kwaye ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo yokuziphatha, uzitshitshise yena ngokwakhe, utshintshe isimo sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kubomi kunye nenkambo kumntwana wakho. Emva kwakho konke, abantwana abayiyo kuphela injabulo yethu, kodwa kunye noxanduva olukhulu, kunye nokubonakalisa kwethu kwisibuko.
Abazali, ukususela kwiinyanga zokuqala emva kokuzalwa komntwana, kufuneka bamlethe ukuze umntwana akhuthele aze aqiniseke ukuba abazali bakhe baya kuhlala bexhasa.