Namhlanje, ngelanga, "ulutsha lwanamhlanje" luthandayo, luqhayisa, lugcineli abazali, aluhloneli abantu asebekhulile, abakwazi ukusebenza, baxabise imali kuphela. Ngethusa lokukhangela ulutsha olunjalo, wonke umama onothando uyazibuza indlela yokwenza umntu olungileyo emntwaneni? Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana kakuhle?
"Ukuvelisa ububele kumntwana" kulula kwaye ngexesha elifanayo alilula, kodwa ngamnye umzali unokukwenza, kuphela umzamo ofunekayo.
Leli gama elithi "ububele" linombono oqhelekileyo, nje ngegama elithi "ulonwabo". Omnye umntu uyonwabile xa enqobile inkundla ye-Everest, enye iyavuya xa uthenge indlu okanye imoto, yesithathu iyavuya kuba nguyise.
Ngomntu oyedwa, ukunyamekela abazali ububele, ngokuba omnye ubabalo luzuzisa kubahlobo, okwesithathu - ukwenza kwindlu yabo indawo yokukhusela izinja ezilahlekileyo kunye neekati. Njengoko sibona yonke into ehlukileyo kwaye ineemida kunye nemiqathango.
Ukuqhubela phambili kulo mzekelo, umzali onomdla, okokuqala, kufuneka enze okhethekileyo kwaye ngokwakhe ngokwakhe ukucacisa ukuba ibinzana elithi "umntu olungileyo" lithetha ntoni kuye. Yenza isikhumbuzo sakho, ubhale izigqibo zakho.
Umzali onoxanduva nokunyamekela kufuneka aqonde ukuba abantwana abaphakathi kweminyaka emihlanu ukuya kweyesihlanu abenzi oko baxelelwa ngamagama, kodwa baphinde benze izenzo zabazali babo. Eli xesha kubazali lilungile, kuba abanamagunya okungaqinisekiyo kunye negunya elipheleleyo kumntwana wabo, ngoko banokuchaphazela kakhulu ukuziphatha komntwana. Ngoko ke, kufuneka nje ube "ngumgangatho wothando" kumntwana wakho. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba kuza kuza ixesha apho oontanga kunye nezithixo ziya kuba ligunya lomntwana wakho, kwaye igunya lakho liya kuvela kwimvelaphi, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuba uzame ukuhlangabezana nemigangatho oyenzayo kumntwana wakho.
Wonke umzali osukela umgomo wokukhulisa umntwana omhle kufuneka akhumbule ukuba akukho mfuneko yokukhuthaza u-childhood egoism, okuyiyona nto ichazwe ngumntwana ngamnye. Kwakhona, umntwana akadingi ukuba afundiswe ukunika izipho ezingapheliyo. Izipho ezingapheliyo zihlobo 'lwesifo sokugula', esoloko sibonwa kulabo bazali abambona umntwana wabo ngokungaqhelekanga, njengoko bezama kanzima baze banakekele umntwana ngeetayiti kunye nezinye izipho. Okubaluleke kunene konke, xa ukunikezwa kwesipho kuhambelana namagama alandelayo: "Khangela oko umama wakho akulethele! Umama uyakuthanda kakhulu! "Okanye" Kha wuleza ubaba uze ubone oko akuthengayo! ".
Ukuba uyamthanda umntwana wakho, kubalulekile ukugxilisa kuye umgaqo-ukunika izipho kulungile kunokuba ufumane. Kunokuba kunzima ukufaka le mgaqo, kuba uninzi lwabantwana lujolise kuphela kubo, kwiminqweno yabo, ngoko ibinzana elithi "le nto kuwe, yithathe okanye ndikunike yona" izandi ngakumbi kwaye ziyancoma ngakumbi kunokuba igama "linike omnye okanye linike." Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthenga umntwana wakho itekisi elibizayo, unokuxoxa naye, unike into kwenye umntwana kwaye ingabi ngumhlobo. Ingaba ngumntwana wommelwane, umntwana ovela kwintsapho enomvuzo ophantsi, umntwana edlala kwindawo yokudlala. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukhethe umdlalo odlala kuyo. Lo mgaqo usebenza rhoqo ukuphumelela. Ungayisebenzisa le migaqo kwiingubo ezintsha.
Kumntwana kubalulekile ukunxulumanisa uthando kwizenzo ezilungileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba uthenge i-candy, iziqhamo okanye ezinye iiskese, ke uhlele kunye nomntwana ukuba uya kubelana nabo nabantwana abaza kudlala nabo egcekeni. Fundisa umntwana ukuba anike njalo kwaye yonke indawo aze avelise umntu olungileyo kuyo ayiyi kuba nzima.
Kubalulekile ukuba kukho ukunxibelelana phakathi kwakho nomntwana. Ingeniso kwaye uxelele abantwana bakho namabali ngabantu abalungileyo, ukuba kukho umthetho ehlabathini "into umntu ahlwayela ngayo, ngoko uya kuqokelela." Ukuvelisa umgangatho ochazwe kumntwana, kubalulekile ukuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bomntwana, ukufunda kunye nehlabathi elijikelezayo kunye nemithetho ekhoyo kuyo.
Yondla ngothando lwakho lomntwana kwaye ngexesha uya kuvuna umntu ohloniphekileyo, onobubele kunye onyanisekileyo kwaye unokukwazi ukuziqhenkceza kude kube ngumdala!