Kulo nyaka ubudala umntwana sele sele akwazi ukwenza izinto ezininzi ngokuzimela: ukugqoka, ukubopha, ukuncedisa indlu. Kwimeko. Kodwa ufuna? Hayi njalo. Kwaye akukho malunga neetalente ezingenasisiseko. Ukunyamekela kwabantwana kunako kwaye kufuneka kukhuliswe malunga nentsusana.
Sekuyiminyaka emithathu, abantwana banomnqweno wokunceda abazali babo. Iqala ngokuxelisa, kwaye iyaziwa ngabantu abaninzi "ndinike yona." Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abadala bakusindisa ixesha okanye ukwesaba ukuba umntwana angenza into engalunganga, asuse amathoyizi womntwana, ungawaniki ihlamba ukuba uhlambe isitya okanye utyhile iindidi ngokwabo ... Musa ukumangaliswa emva kweminyaka emi-5, xa umntwana wakho ephendula izicelo zokuncedisa ngavumi. Ukufundisa uthando lomntwana kunokwenzeka kuphela ngomonde nomzekelo ngamnye. Ukususela ekuzalweni, iintsana zibona abantu abadala kwaye zizama ukuzixelisa kuzo zonke izinto. Kwaye ekugqibeleni bazama ukuphinda benze izinto zabo. Kodwa ukubonwa kunye nokulingisa akukwaneli. Ukususela kwiminyaka yokuqala, kubalulekile ukubandakanya abantwana kwimisebenzi edibeneyo kunye nokuchaza ngokunyameko ukuba njani kwaye njani. Ngaloo mntwana uza kufunda ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwazo zonke iindlela ezenziwe ngayo. Yaye iya kuba nevuyo lokwenza imisebenzi elula imihla ngemihla. Ngoko ke, xa umntwana wakho oneminyaka e-3 uthi: "Mama, ndinike yona! "- Mnike ithuba lokuba" uncede ". Kwaye emva kokuba "uncedo" kufuneka uchithe amaxesha amaninzi ukucoca / ukuhlamba / njll - ukukhuliswa komntwana ngomsebenzi womsebenzi kuyafaneleka. Emva kweminyaka embalwa uya kuhlawula ngokuphindwe kabini: unyana okhutheleyo uya kuhlamba izitya, ubeke iimpahla zakhe kwiitrhefini, ungakhankanyi ngamathoyizi akhe, uhlambulule izicathulo zakhe, unqande uthuli kwaye ngaphandle kwezikhumbuzo wenze ikhefu - ngokubanzi, uya kuba ngumncedisi ongenakuxhaswa kwiimeko ezininzi. Imicimbi yasemakhaya yomntwana iya kuba yinxalenye yobomi bemihla ngemihla, kwaye ayiyi kubangela ubudlelwane obubi.
Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka eyi-5-6 ubudala, ungadikibali. Umonde omncinane, umnqweno, uthando kunye nengcamango - kwaye umntwana wakho omncinci uya kuba ngumncedi wakho omkhulu. Kuyinto enhle, xa uthetha ngomntwana wakho: "Hayi, yintoni encinci, kwaye kusebenza nzima kangakanani! ". Kwimiba ebalulekileyo njengokwakhiwa kokunyamekela, umntu akufanele athembele kwi-intuition kunye nethuba. Kufuneka ukuba ufunde iincwadi ezifanelekileyo, qhagamshelana nengcali yengqondo yomntwana kwaye uqwalasele iimpawu zobuntu kunye nobuntu. Omnye umntwana uthatha umsebenzi ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle komdla, kodwa into leyo, eyazimela ngokuzimela, imlethe into enokulinganisela. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana abanjalo bagxininise kwisiphumo, ukulindela uvuyo oluvela emsebenzini ozimeleyo, kwaye bahlanganyele nalo uvuyo kunye naye, kungabalulekanga kakhulu malunga nokungaphumeleli okuncane ekusebenzeni kwesabelo. Omnye umntwana, ngokuchaseneyo, ukwamkela ngokutsha ibhizinisi elitsha, lithathwa kalula, kwaye lilula nje. Kwaye abanye, bengenakufika emsebenzini, bazama ukuwukrazula - ukuvakalelwa kweshishini elingagqibekanga elixhomekeke ngekrele leDamocles kunzima kubo. Wonke umntu ufuna indlela ekhethekileyo. Kwiminyaka emi-5-6 kubalulekile ukuphakamisa inzala kwinkqubo yomsebenzi okanye ukuphumelela kwesiphumo, okanye unokubandakanya umntwana kumsebenzi ngoncedo lomdlalo okanye ukhuphiswano. Vusa umdla kwaye ugcine kuyo yonke into - isiqingatha sempumelelo. Kodwa kuphela isiqingatha. Inxalenye yesibini ebalulekileyo yokufundisa umntwana ukukhuthaza-kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ancede ngokucwangcisekileyo, kwaye kungekudala, kuyimfuneko ukulawula ukusebenza komsebenzi kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukudumisa nokugxininisa ukubaluleka kwento eyenziwa yintsana. Ukungabikho komsebenzi ochanekileyo kumntwana yenye yezona mpazamo ezinkulu kwizemfundo. Akunjalo nje kwimfundo yothando ngomsebenzi. Umsebenzi osebenzayo ekhaya kunye noxanduva lomntwana, apho yena ngokwakhe unembopheleleko, unceda ukufundisa kumntu obalulekileyo njengomgangatho obalulekileyo njengoxanduva, kwaye umncedisi wexesha elizayo ufunda ukusebenza ngokholo olufanelekileyo nangokuzithandela.
Awukwazi ukunciphisa indima yokusebenza kunye nomntu omdala: kuye umntwana ufunda ukwenza konke okufunekayo kuye, ngokusemandleni akho. Kodwa ukuze into ifakwe kumbhinqa umntwana, kuyafaneleka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba sele ekwazi ukwenza oku, ukujonga ngenyameko umsebenzi owenziweyo, kwaye ngokucophelela, kunye nomntwana, ukuba asebenze kwimpazamo. Yaye ke yonke imihla, ade umntwana afunde ukwenza imisebenzi yakhe ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye kude kube lo msebenzi ungangeni kumkhwa womntwana. Emva koko, unokongeza uxanduva olutsha kumntwana.
Unokuqala ngezinto ezilula. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlambulule amathoyizi eyedwa, ukususa etafileni. Beka iimpahla kwikhemitha uze unakekele izihlangu. Ungaze unqabe umntwana ukuba ufuna ukukunceda. Ukuba ngaba umncedisi wakho wanqwenela ukukwenza akunakwenzeka ukuhlawulisa umntwana (ngokukhawuleza umntwana ufuna ukulungisa iskotshi okanye ukujikila kwibhubhu), ungamvumeli ukuba enze oku, ngokunyanisekileyo uchaze ukuba kutheni le nto ayinakuyenza kwaye utshintshe enye into . Njalo ukhuthaze umnqweno womntwana wokwakha. Mlethe kumalungiselelo okutya okudibeneyo, makabonise amandla akhe okugcoba, mhlawumbi kwixesha elizayo umntwana wakho uya kukukholisa ngokuthokoza ngaphezu kwexesha elilodwa, kwaye uya kuzikhumbula ngokukodwa imizuzu xa izandla ezincinci zapheka i-patty yazo yangaphambili phantsi kwesikhokelo sakho esichukumisayo. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlambulule umbhede wakhe kwaye anakekele izityalo zangaphakathi - le mi sebenzi inokuguqulwa lula ibe ngumdlalo othabisayo oya kuzisa imemori enhle kumntwana wakho ngexesha lobomi bonke abadala. Umkhwa wokusebenza kanzima uncedo kumntwana ngokukhawuleza: isikolo asikude, kwaye ukufunda ngokukhawuleza kudinga uthando lomsebenzi, uxanduva kunye nomkhwa ukwenza imisebenzi yabo yemihla kakuhle. Ukukhulisa kumntwana uthando lomsebenzi, uyamsiza ukuba akhe ikamva eliyimpumelelo kwitena. Ukunyamekela kunceda umntwana ukuba akhulise ukuzithemba, umntwana unentembelo yokuba unokukwenza okuninzi, kwaye unokukwenza kakuhle, kwaye oku kuya kubachaphazela kakhulu ubomi bakhe abadala.