Ngaba akunakwenzeka ukuba yonke into isongele?
Abantu abaninzi, xa befunda le mihlathi, banokuthi loo mabinzana aya kukhwaza kakhulu. Kodwa abo bakule meko, oku kunokunceda. Enyanisweni, awanabo bonke abafazi abangenako abantwana bam, baninzi bafuna aba bantwana. Baye baphenjiswa ngumnqweno wendoda, isimo sengqondo sentsapho njalonjalo. Wonke umntu wayekhathazekile kwaye wabulawa ngenxa yokuba loo mfazi wayengenakukhulelwa. Ekugqibeleni, ejonge ukuba umntu uyayibona njani loo nto, lona wesifazane uqala ukukholelwa ukuba unentlungwini eyingozi kwaye ufuna ukuba ngumama okhuni. Nangona, ukuba kwakungenako uxinzelelo olunjalo kwabanye, mhlawumbi, uya kuqonda imeko leyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uye wafumanisa ukuba unalo mqathango, ube kunye nawe. Akukho ntoyikekayo kwaye yatshitshisa ukuba umfazi akanakunqwenela kakhulu ukuba abantwana babulawe ubomi bakhe bonke ngenxa yokungabikho kwabo. Ngoko ke, hlalutya iimeko kwaye uzenze izimpendulo ezinyanisekileyo. Musa nje ukukhathazeka malunga noko abanye baya kucinga. Oku akukhathaleli nhlobo. Umntu oqhelekileyo onithandayo uya kuba novuyo nje, njengoko umthandi wakhe eyeke ukuhlupheka. Kwaye abo baqala ukulila baze bazibuze ukuba bangaphila njani, i-bastard engabonakaliyo, kwaye ungalili emlanjeni imihla ngemihla, ngokuqhelekileyo ayifanelekanga ingqalelo yakho, kuba kuba kufuphi nabantu abanjalo abakwazi ukubizwa nje. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi na izibongozo ezingenakwenziwa ngumntu, abantu abathandayo, abayi kulandelwa ngokufanelekileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo kwaye bayavuya kuba sele kulula.
Inkxaso efanelekileyo
Ukuba amava eneneni yiphumo lokungazalisekanga, ngoko kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujongana nayo kwaye akukho mfuneko ukuba uzivumele ukuba uzibandakanye noko kwenzekayo. Yingakho ufuna inkxaso efanelekileyo. Emva kwakho kufuneka ube ngumntu onokukunceda ukuba uphume kwixinzelelo, okukuthi, ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kuqala ngenxa yento eyenzekayo, kwaye akukuqhubi ukuba ungene ekuphoxeni kwintlango yokuphelelwa lithemba. Ngoko ke, nakunoma ikuphi na, musa ukuzivumela abo bazisola ngokunyanisekileyo. Kuphela nje ukuba awudingi isihawu. Ewe, ekuqaleni uya kufuna ukukhala kwaye uthethe kwaye umthandayo uya kuphulaphula, uvelwano, inkxaso. Kodwa emva kwexesha elithile, amaqhinga enkxaso aza kufuna ukutshintshwa. Umntu onokuzayo, kufuneka, ngokuchaseneyo, angakuvumeli ukuba uhlale ucinga ngako kwaye uhlupheke kwiingcamango zakho. Ngelishwa, kukho abantu abathanda ukubandezeleka kwabanye. Umntu onjalo oza kuhlala nawe ecaleni kwaye ahlale ecula: "Oo uluhlwempuzekile, njani uThixo akujezisa. Kuyatshitshisa ukuba awuyi kuba nantoni. Kak uhlala kunye nentlungu enjalo. " Ukongezelela, loo ntokazi kufuneka ixatywe ngendlela enjalo (kunye nokuziphatha kweziganeko ezilisithoba kwii-100 eziqhelekileyo kwabesifazane) zingafikelela kumyinge ongaphantsi. Ukuba wena ngokwakho uqala ukuzama ukuphuma kwimeko yokudakumba, kuya kuthi ngokukhawuleza ukukugxotha, ukukhumbula ukuba izinto ezimbi zifanele ukuba ziphi na ubomi obusabekayo nobungenangqiqo okhoyo ngoku. Ngoko ukuba imeko ingcono, hlala kude nabantu abanjalo. Umhlobo oqhelekileyo ofuna ngokwenene ukuxhasa, akaze akwenze oko. Uya kukukhwaza, uya kuzibamba kunye aze ayeke ukuthetha okunjalo phakathi kwakho kunye noluntu ohlala kulo. Ngoko ukuba ngokwenene awufuni ukuhlupheka ngenxa yobomi bakho bonke kwaye ufuna ukujamelana nombuso wakho, qiniseka ukuba uzama ukuthetha ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka nangomntu onokukunceda ngokwenene. Ngomntu onjalo, akufanele ube yintlongo, apho kufuneka udibanise kwaye ukhale naye. Ngokuchaseneyo, uya kuhlala ezama ukukukhumbuza ukuba wena - umntu onamandla uya kulungisa imeko. Kubantu abaninzi, umntu onjalo uba ngumyeni. Kodwa ukuba akunjalo-kulungile. Into ephambili kukuba ayikuxinzelelekanga kwaye akayi kuba ngumntu ogxininisekile, ongunaphakade. Kananjalo inkxaso ingatholakala kumama, umhlobo osondeleyo, udade. Into ephambili kukuba lo mntu uyazi kakuhle kwaye ufuna ukuxelelwa ukuba axhaswe, akusekele kakuhle kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba angabi nantoni. Ukuba uhlala uqhagamshelana nomntu onjalo, ngokukhawuleza uya kubona ukuba kuba lula ngakumbi. Kwaye kwiindawo ezininzi kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, kuba uya kukunyanzela ukuba udibanise kunye, utshintshe imeko, wenze into ethile, ungagcini ekhaya, ukukhathazeka nokuzonda into ongeyona nto inecala.
Abahluphekanga kuphela kuThixo
Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene umama, ngokokuqala, ufuna umntwana oya kumthanda. Ewe, ukuzala kwakho kuphelele, kodwa ukuba akukho nhlobo, unokuhlala ugcina ubomi bomntu. Yiya kwiinkedama. Kwaye akudingeki ukuba uphulaphule abo bathi: "Oo, awaziwa ngumntwana wakhe, kwaye ngokukhawuleza izakhi zegciwane zibi, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukhula nomntu omncinane okanye umntu oziphatha kakuhle." Iimvelaphi - into engacacisekiyo nakwiintsapho zakho kwindawo ethile kwakukho izidakwa ezifanayo. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba baya kudluliselwa kumntwana wakho kwizizukulwana ezithandathu. Ngoko ke, umntu makangayi kuthobela ingqalelo into engafaniyo. Nangona utywala obunobuncwane angakhula umntwana oqhelekileyo, ukuba ubeka imilinganiselo efanelekileyo kuye, mfundise ukuba angenzi iimpazamo kwaye ngokufanelekileyo ubhekisele kwiimeko kunye nabanye. Ngako oko, musani ukoyiko luluphi ulwimi olubi. Yaye ungadideki ngento yokuba umntwana akanako ukufana ne-Navas. Emva kwexesha, uya kufumana iimpawu zakho, amazwi, ukuziphatha kunye nokumjonga kuye, akukho mntu uya kuqiniseka ukuba nguyena unyana okanye intombi yakho. Khumbula rhoqo ukuba abantwana babe ngabazalwana kungekhona ngenxa yokuba sibabele, kodwa ngenxa yokuba siyabathanda kwaye sizityala kunye nomphefumlo wethu kuwo. Ngoko ungahlupheki.