Ngoko, icebiso kubazali: into engasetyenziswanga ekukhuliseni umntwana.
- Gcina kwimithetho efanayo.
Ngamazwi alula, musa ukuvumela umntwana ukuba enze oko akuvunyelwe, nakuphi na imeko. Ngokomzekelo, ngosuku lokuphuma, wavumela umntwana ukuba ahlale kwikhompyutri endaweni yee-30 imizuzu - iiyure ezingama-2, nangona oku kuvumelekile kuye. Le yimpazamo enkulu yemfundo, kuba umgaqo oyintloko ekuxoxaneni nomntwana uhambelana. Akunakwenzeka ukufunda imigaqo yendlela, ukuba namhlanje "ukuyeka" kuthetha obomvu, nangomso-eluhlaza. Xa udala ukulungiswa okufanelekileyo, akufanele kubekho ngaphandle kwemithetho.
- Ungaze uqalekise umntwana.
I-psyche yengane ayizinzile kwaye iyingozi. Amaxesha amaninzi amazwi ahlaselayo, apho singacinga khona ("Yinto engenanto!" Okanye "Uyingumntwana owonayo!"), Unokuzisela umntwana ingxaki. Uya kuvala ngaphakathi kuye, ayeke ukuthetha nawe. Kunzima ukufumana umntwana ngaphandle kweli lizwe, ngokuqhelekileyo unxibelelwano olunjalo lukhula kumntwana ubunzima obungabalulekanga obuya kuphazamisa ubomi bakhe besikhathi esizayo. Ukuba uvumelekile unyango olunjalo nomntwana, khawuleza wenze umsebenzi wezemfundo kunye nawe kunye nomyeni wakho. Zama ukusungula ukuqonda kunye nomntwana, zibonakalise ukuba nguye ongcono kuwe. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, cela uncedo kumntwana wengqondo yengqondo.
- Ungasebenzisi izisongelo zokufumana nantoni na evela kumntwana.
Utshutshiso kunye nosongelo luphulaphula ingqondo yengane. Uyaba neentloni, ngexesha, elichaphazela kakubi impilo yakhe yonke. Amazwi, afana: "Ukuba uphinde usiphule indebe, ndiya kukukhupha ngaphandle kwendlu!" - akuvumelekanga xa uthetha nomntwana. Iisongelo aziyi kuphucula ulwalamano lwakho, umise nje umntwana. Okubi nakakhulu, ukuba inkunzi iqala ukwesaba.
- Musa ukwenza umntwana akuthembise nantoni na.
Abantwana abaqondi ukuba yintoni isithembiso, kuba baneengcamango ezingekho phantsi kwexesha elizayo. Bahlala kwimini yanamhlanje, ukuze bangathembisi ukuba bangaphonsa amathoyizi emva koko abakwaziyo.
- Musa ukuyenza loo nto into enokuyenza yona.
Ukugcinwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwabantwana kubangele ukuba bahluma amandla, banqwenela amandla kwaye banengqondo. Fundisa umntwana wakho kwasekuqaleni. Sekudlulileyo kwiminyaka emibini nesiqingatha umntwana kufuneka abe nezakhono zokuqala zokuzibonela. Ungenzi nto kuye, uzikhuthaze ukuba iya kukhawuleza. Ukuba uya kuhamba, kungcono ukuba uchithe ixesha elide kwiimirhumo, kodwa ulinde de kube ngumntwana ngokwakhe uya kubopha izihlangu zakhe.
- Musa ukuthobela ukuthobela umntwana ngokukhawuleza.
Ngokuqhelekileyo oomama bayathukuthela xa bambiza umntwana ukuba badle, kodwa akahambanga, kuba udlala umfanekiso okanye udlala umdlalo. Kufuneka ukuba uqonde ukuba umntwana, osebenza kule nto okanye kuloo shishini, unomdla kuye, ngoko akakwazi ukumshiya kanye kunye nokuya kwifowuni yakho. Khawucinge wena endaweni yayo, mhlawumbi uya kwenza into efanayo-uza kuqhubeka ixesha elithile ukuba wenze ishishini lakho. Ngaphambi kokuba ubize umntwana, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kuya kuthatha imizuzu engama-10. Ngoko umntwana uya kutshintshwa ukuba emva kwemizuzu eyi-10 uya kuphazamisa umsebenzi wakhe.
- Musa ukuthobela yonke iminqweno neemfuno zomntwana.
Kufuneka siqwalasele ngokucophelela iimfuno neminqweno yomntwana, ukwahlula phakathi kweemfuno ezifanelekileyo kunye ne-whims. Ukuphunyezwa kwee-whims zezingane kunokukhokelela ekubeni umntwana uya kukhula ngokuqhelekileyo kulowo wonke umntu akwenzayo kuye, ukuba uhlala efumana oko akufunayo. Abantu abanjalo abayi kuba nobunzima ebomini bokwenene, apho ukuzimela kubaluleke kakhulu.
- Musa ukumangaza nokufundisa umntwana kaninzi .
Abanye abazali baxubana nabantwana kuphela ngohlobo lokuxhaphazwa nokunyanzeliswa. Ngoluvo lwabo, nokuba yintoni eyenziwa ngumntwana, konke okungafanelekanga kwaye akulungile. Ukuba umntwana ukhula kwimeko enjalo, kungekudala ingqondo yakhe ihambelana nezihlazo eziqhubekayo ezivela kubazali, umane uyeka ukuwaqonda. Abantwana abanjalo kamva kunzima ukuvelisa naluphi na ukukhuliswa kwaye bangoluhlobo "olunzima". Umntwana kufanele akhule emoyeni onobubele.
- Vumela umntwana ukuba ahlale umntwana.
Abantwana boMzekelo abanelisekile, abanakukwazi ukufumana iimpazamo, imidlalo yezobudlova, ukuziphatha kakubi. Umntwana ungumntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyayiphakamisa njani. Awukwazi ukumthobela ngokupheleleyo kwaye uthobele. Ubuhle bobuntwana kukuba abantwana banako ukwenza oko abantu abadala abakwaziyo kwaye abazivumeli. Yiphathe umntwana ngomusa nokuqonda, kwaye akayi kunika iingxaki ezinkulu!