I-Honeymoon ihlala iholide kwaye iququzelele ukuba ifune ukuba wonke umntu abe nomona

I-honeymoon ihlala iholide kwaye iququzelele ifuna ukuba wonke umntu abe nomona. Ingcamango yesibini yentsapho, njengeminye imiyalelo yengqondo, iza kuthi evela eNtshona. Kudala ixesha elide liyazi ukuba iibhangqwana ezingengobunye umnyaka ndawonye, ​​luncedo ngamaxesha onke ukuba zichithe iveki okanye ezimbini kuphela, kude nekhaya, ngokukhethekileyo kwezinye izixhobo ezikhethiweyo kwi-voucher yonke.

Enyanisweni, "okwesibini kwintsholongwane" ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa uhambo emva komtshato wesibini, xa abatshatileyo beququzelela umtshato wenene, apho baphinde bafunga ukuba bathandane baze batshintshe izindandatho. Kwiindawo ezininzi zokungcebeleka loo mcimbi inye yeenkonzo ezinikezelwa kubakhenkethi. Nangona kunjalo, kukuphi ukuchitha ixesha lokutshata?

Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba umphefumlo odibeneyo unokwenza ngaphandle komtshato, kunye neyesibini zentsapho - ngaphandle komcimbi okhethekileyo. Kwanele nje ukugqiba ukuya kwindawo ethile kude nehlabathi, okanye ubuncinci ngaphandle kwesixeko, cima amafowuni uze unikele lonke ixesha kuphela. Kwaye inzuzo yelo liholide ingaba lukhulu. Kakhulu kangangokuba, kuthi, eMalaysia, amagunya aseburhulumenteni aseTerengganu amemezele ukuba aya kuhlawula iiholide ezidibeneyo kuzo zonke izibini ezithandana nomtshato. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ufumane iholide enjalo ekhululekile, akwanele nje ukuvakalisa injongo yakho yokwahlula - kufuneka ufumane uvavanyo olukhethekileyo. Ngokuhambelana nabameli baseMalaysia, bahamba ngenxa yokuba ukuhlukana kwentsapho "kubetha abantwana" kwaye "kunemiphumo emibi emphakathini."

Ngaphandle kwemizuzu emihlanu, ukuqhawula umtshato kukuba, imeko ephosakeleyo, apha ngokuphindaphindiweyo uhambo olunye oluya eMaldives aluyicombululi ingxaki. Kulula kakhulu ukuququzelela okwesibini kwintsapho (kunye neyesithathu neyesine), nje ukuziva ukuba kwintsapho "into ehambileyo." Akuyiyo ingozi yokuba abafazi baqalisi balezo zihambo: ngenxa yokuvakalelwa kwengqondo eninzi, ubulili obuhle ngokuqhelekileyo benza ngokubini inxaxheba yoluhlobo lwe "barometer" olwenza ngokuthe tye ukuba utshintsho oluncinane kwiimozulu zemozulu. Nangona kunjalo, isigqibo sokushiya kufuneka sithathwe kunye, njengazo zonke ezinye izigqibo malunga nezo zibini - oku kungenawo.

Okwesibini ukutshatyalaliswa kwezilwanyana kudlalwa ngabaphathi bezengqondo ze-psychotherapist - xa bebona ukuba akukho zinkxwaleko ezinzulu kwiibini, kwaye ezo zikhoyo ziya kuphuculwa ngolu hlobo lolungiso. Abathengi abaninzi, ke, kufuneka baqiniseke ukuba kuyafaneleka ukuzama, kuba baqala ukubuza imibuzo: "Yintoni esiya kuyenza apho? Kwaye ndiya kuthini na? ". Oku kubuzwa ngabantu abanengqiqo, abanomdla okhangela izibonelelo kuyo yonke into. Ngoko banciphisa iimvakalelo, ihlabathi leemvakalelo njengento engabonakaliyo. Kwaye bhetele kungcono ukuthembela kumava, kungekhona kwiingkolelo: ukuba uzame enye kanye kwiholide engenayo iinjongo ze-pragmatic, kwanezityalo ezinjalo "zityalwe" kuyo njengesilwanyana.

Ukunciphisa imvakalelo yenye yezona zizathu eziphambili ezikhokelela imibhangqwana kwiiofisi ze-psychotherapists kunye nee-arhente zokuhamba ekukhangekeni kwiindawo zothando zokuzonwabisa. Akukho mfihlo yokuba kunye neminyaka yokuhlala kunye, ulwalamano phakathi kobudlelwane luba luncinci, ukukhathala kwiinkinga zemihla ngemihla kuninzi, kwaye ukuba kukho abantwana, abanye abatshatileyo abashiyi ixesha labo kunye nabanye. Kakade ke, oku akunako kodwa kuthintela ubudlelwane bezesondo. Ukulala ngesondo emva kweminyaka emininzi yobomi bomtshato kukho nexesha elikhethekileyo elincinci - inkqubo yesondo. Indlela yokuziphatha ngokwesondo leyo yindlela yokuphila ngokwesondo, xa amaqabane ayazi ngaphambili ukuba yintoni imeko yesenzo sesondo iza kudlula kwi-prelude ukugqitywa.

Iimeko ezinjalo zivame ukuphuhliswa kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi obudibeneyo, xa ezimbini zilala embhedeni, zidwebe iimephu zemihlaba engafanelekiyo, zifunde iindlela zokuphumeza i-orgasm. Ngesilingo kunye nephutha, kukhangeka ubuchule bokungabikho nkathazo: apho kunokunyamezela, apho ukubanga, kwisiphi isigqi sokuhamba, ukuze ufumane ukuzonwabisa okuqinisekileyo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo le ncwadana isetyenzisiweyo, ngokukhawuleza umonakalo uyaphela: ukuvakalelwa kukuba ukuzaliswa kwexesha kunye nokunyakaza kuyaphela, umdla wokufuna, uvuyo lokufumanisa luyalala. Le yilapho inqwelomoya yesibini iza kuhlangula, indoda eyilumko eyazi kakuhle ukuba yonke into emitsha yindoda endala ingcwatywa phantsi kwezinto ezingadingekile.

Imfundo yeengqondo

Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, bachaza iimvakalelo zabo emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato, loo mbhangqwana iyaphazamiseka: "Uthando luphele phi? Kubonakala ngathi ayikho ndawo, kodwa kutheni kungenjalo ngaphambili? "Imvakalelo ayidluli ngokwenene ukuba ekuqaleni yayomelele ngokwaneleyo kwaye inzulu. Ukutshata nje, ihlabathi lethu lihlelwe ngokungafaniyo, kwaye sihlala omnye komnye - asisekho indoda kunye nomfazi, kuphela ehlabathini lonke, kodwa indoda nomfazi (nangona umtshato ubambiswano). Ulwalamano "umfazi-ndoda" luyintando yendalo, kwaye "umyeni-mfazi" uyabasebenzi basekhaya. Ukuzaliseka kwemisebenzi yansuku zonke nemisebenzi igcwele ixesha lethu kangangokuba asinelisekile ukubonisa iimvakalelo zethu. Kwaye into ephambili eyayixhuma le sibini, yafudukela kwikamva elikude, nangona liphela liphela. Uthando aluhambanga, kodwa alukho indawo kwishedyuli yethu exakekile. Emtshatweni, akukho ndawo yimiqathango yokuthandana - ayinanto, kuba ezimbini sele zifumene kwaye zanqoba. Yaye ukuba uyongeza kwinyango yezokwelapha eneminyaka yobudala yamadoda nabasetyhini, ukuveliswa kwama-hormones wesini kuyancipha - ungamangalisi ukuba isondo emva kweminyaka elishumi yomtshato ayifani nentsholongwane.

Kwiindawo zokuphumla ezidibeneyo, omnye nomnye uba yinto engakumbi - ngenxa yokuba ayilulwanga yimisebenzi yethu yemihla ngemihla, ashiywe kwelinye ubomi. Kwaye ke indawo yendlela echithwe ngayo kunye neemeko ziphuculwe. Unokunika omnye nomnye, nayiphi na imiqondiso yenkcazelo, ujikeleze ezitalatweni ezincinci zezixeko ezingaqhelekanga, uhlambe kunye kunye, ufune ukuhlala wedwa elunxwemeni ebusuku ... Ngokuqhelekileyo abatshatileyo bayavuya xa befumanisa ukuba kwimeko enjalo umnqweno wokuba nomnye umnandi kubo ngamandla, njengeenyanga zokuqala zokuba nolwazi. Nokuba utyhutyha kwiimvakalelo zabantu kungavulwa umnyango, emva koko kungabikho izinto eziphathekayo zothando.

Akumangalisi ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo ekuhambeni okuthandana ngenjongo "yeengxaki eziqabulayo" izibini ezinezingane ezindala sele ziqala: ukungabikho kwemfuno yokunyamekela inzala kukhulula ixesha elininzi lokukhulula. Kwaye kucacile ukuba kutheni i-fowuni yesibini yafika kuthi evela eNtshona. Kukho nje ukuphuma kubantwana ukuya kubomi obuzimeleyo ngokukhawuleza kwangoko - nje ngexesha zonke iimali-mboleko zihlawulwa, kwaye unokuzichitha imali ngokwakho isazela esithulile. Ngokubhekelana ngesondo, i-lack of scenarios ithinteka kakhulu. Xa umdlalo wothando unikezwa ngesigamu seyure ngeSonto ekuseni, kodwa ubuncinane ukujikeleza iwashi, ifilosofi iqala ukusebenza ngamandla onke - nangona ukuba ekuqaleni ilahlekelwe inkululeko engakaze yenziwe ngaphambili. Enyanisweni, baninzi ukuze bafumane ukuvakalelwa okungaqhelekanga, kwanele nje ukutshintsha indawo: ukusuka kwibhedlele yomtshato ukuya kwi-jacuzzi ye-hotele, ulwandle olufihliweyo, intente ehlathini, kwanegumbi lesitimela okanye ngasese yangasese. Utshintsho kwimeko luhlala luvuyisa, kwaye ubukho bepesenti ethile ye-adrenaline ininzi inzuzo kuphela.

Singaxelela ngoko, sibuyela kwiinyanga zokuqala zokuziqhelanisa kwaye sizama kwakhona, kodwa ngoku sibadala kwaye sinamava, sele sakwazi ukuchaza kumlingane into esiyifunayo ebhedeni. Nangona kufuneka uyenze oku kungabi ngetekisi ngqo, kodwa ngokujonga ngokubambisana kwefilimu ekhulayo okanye i-pornography (kwiindawo ezintle ihotele zihlala zikhutshwe phakathi kweteti zeTV), zikhupha kumaphephancwadi, zifundeka kwezinye iindawo "ezishisayo" ezivela kwiincwadi zokufunda, zihamba ngeentengiso zesini. Kukho imizi kunye namazwe apho umntu akakwazi ukuhamba ngokugqithiseleyo kwiimidlalo ezikhethekileyo-eParis, eAmsterdam, eThailand ...

Ukongezelela, ngekhefu, kunokwenzeka ukuba ungayinaki ingqalelo kwilizwe langaphandle elixolisayo, elizama ukusibiza kwi-mobile engagqithwanga ngexesha elihle kakhulu. Ukuvakalelwa ngxhala kunye noloyiko, ngezinye izihlandlo esingenakukuphelisa ekuxhalabeni kwimihla ngemihla yokukhathazeka, kuya kuba yinto engafanelekiyo, kuba ikhefu lichaza ngolu hlobo njengoko lukhuselekile kwaye lukhululekile kunokwenzeka. Ngokukodwa kunceda ukuphucula ubulili obuhle. Ibhinqa lifikelela kwiimeko zesini, ngokungafani nendoda, ngokukhawuleza, kwaye inokukhutshwa ngaphandle kweli lizwe ngokukhathazeka kakhulu. Amadoda, nangona ahlelwe ngokungafaniyo, ayafana nathi kule nto, njengoko bakholwa njengamanje. Ewe, indoda enempilo ifinyelela ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula, kodwa inqaku elincincileyo kwiqela lomlingane okanye umnxeba ovela kubaphathi bakhe banokubamba ngokusisigxina indoda yokuzithemba kwizakhono zakhe zesondo kunye nomnqweno wesondo. Ngako oko, umgaqo "cima iifowuni!" - yesibini intsimbi. Ngokufanelekileyo, i-intanethi ibhetele ukuba ingahambi, kwaye awufundanga amaphephandaba. Kwaye, ngokwenene, ngokufanelekileyo-ngokusemgangathweni, ukuba ungadlulanga kwiintsapho zeengxaki zengqesho ngendlela yexesha elingaphezu kwexesha okanye ukuxoxa ngemicimbi yezoshishino kwikhaya lekhaya ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwisidlo sakusihlwa.

I-fly in the ointment kwi-ointment

Akukho mntu uya kukwazi ukuphazamisa i-honeymoon ngokungathandabuzekiyo njengoko sikwenzayo. Okokuqala, ukungathandi kwethu ukushiya iingxaki ze "hlabathi langaphandle". Oku akuchaphazeli kuphela abantu boshishino, kodwa abafazi abangenasiphelo, nangona ngexesha lesondo kunye nabathandekayo bakho banenkxalabo: ingaba kukho umntwana? Nangona "umntwana" sele sele eselula kwaye uyazi ukuba uyazinyamekela njani. Ukuthintela ulolu hlobo, kuyinto enqwenelekayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukulungisa yonke imiba phambi kohambo: ukujongana nemirhumo yomsebenzi, ukulungiselela umntwana ngokufanelekileyo-kwikampu yehlobo okanye kunye nezihlobo. Kodwa into ephambili - kunye nobunzima - kukuzama, ekugqibeleni, ukuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukulawula yonke into ehlabathini, kwaye ukhulule.

Abaninzi bethu bakwazi ukuhamba nabo ngohambo lothando oluninzi lwamaxhala kunye nokwesaba ngokubuyisela kwabo bashiye ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, sesaba ukuziphatha ngendlela yokulala ngokukhululekile: kuthekani ukuba umntu oye wahlala enomntu othobekileyo uya kukucingisisa? Ngokukhawuleza uya kuqwalasela iminqweno yakho embi? Enyanisweni, njengoko kubonakalisa ukubonisa, ukuba iqabane lakho liyamangaliswa, ke le nto imangalisa. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kuvuyela ukwazi ukuba uya kuba yintoni ukuba awukho isidingo sokudlala indima kunye neemplates.

Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba "imidlalo yokudlala" enjalo ayiqhubi nje kuphela embhedeni, kodwa nakwimpilo. Singabachazela abazali abonwabileyo nabazali abanomdla, kodwa ngasese asinanto sithetha omnye nomnye. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kubonakaliswa nje kweso sesibini, xa kufuneke ukuba isidingo sokudlala indima siphume kwaye kuyacaca ukuba kanye emva kwexesha sasihlangene kungekhona ngokuvakalelwa, kodwa ngomsebenzi ohlanganyeneyo, uvelwano lobubele okanye ukukhuliswa komntwana. Yaye xa iidolophu zilungisa ukunyaniseka kwethu - sibona ukuba emva kwabo kwakungekho nto. Apha ke, i-honeymoon ijika ibe yinto echaseneyo: esikhundleni seminyaka emininzi eyonwabileyo, sinomsebenzi wokuqhawula umtshato phambi kwethu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku akuyona into emnandi kakhulu, kwenye - ayiyaziwa ukuba umtshato omde onokuyilwa ngantoni na?