Ukunyaniseka emtshatweni.
Kuya kuba yintlekele ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luphazanyiswa ngumntu wesithathu (ngaphandle kokuba bangabantwana bakho). Nangona kunjalo, ukungcatsha kubi ngakumbi ubuhlobo bomtshato? Abatshatileyo banokutshintshana ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ubudlelwane bomtshato boba luncedo. Kungcono ukuzama ukuxoxa ngale nto kunye nomlingane wakho ngaphambi komtshato kwaye khumbula ukuba akukho mntu uphelele.
Intlonipho.
Simele sibahlonele abatshatileyo. Ukungabi nhlonipho kuya kubangela ukuba ulwahlulo lube nolwalamano. Awufanele ukhangele i-SMS okanye inombolo edibeneyo kwifowuni yomlingane wakho ngaphandle kokumxelela ngako. Ukuba unakho ukungathandabuzeki, kufuneka, kuqala, wabelane naye.
Ulwalamano lwemali.
Iindleko zakho ziya kutshintsha kakhulu emva kokutshata. Kungenzeka ukuba kufuneka uchithe ngaphezulu emva komtshato. Oku kunokuba, njengokuqasha indlu okanye imoto, nokuchitha abantwana. Kufuneka uxoxe kunye nokulindelekileyo izinga lokuphila ukuze kungabikho ukungaqondani.
Iinkolo zonqulo.
Kufuneka uhloniphe iinkolelo zenkolo yesahlulo sakho sesibini. Akusiyo ingcamango efanelekileyo yokuguqula iqabane lakho kukholo lwakho. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene imibono yakho yehlabathi ukuba ihambelane, ngoko kufuneka ufumane umntu eneenkolelo ezifanayo, kuya kunceda ukuphepha ukungaqondani nokukhusela ukwahlukana kobudlelwane bomtshato. Akufanele nakanjani ucele umlingane wakho ukuba anike into ayifumanayo. Ngaphandle koko, ulindele ukuhlukana phakathi kobudlelwano.
I zihlandlo eziqhelekileyo.
Ngaba uyazi izinto zakho zokuzonwabisa. Unokuthatha ukuhamba ngexesha lakho lokukhulula, ngelixa umhlobo wakho enqwenela ukufunda le ncwadi ekhaya. Enyanisweni, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuzonwabisa ngezinto ezahlukeneyo. Omnye ucinga ukuba abantu ababini baya kunye, kuba bahluke. Isitshixo sobuhlobo obuhle emtshatweni kukuba ukwabelana ngokuzonwabisa kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa. Ukwahlukana novuyo kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa, uqinisa kuphela ubuhlobo bakho emtshatweni.
Ulwabelana ngesondo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo luyinto ebalulekileyo ebusweni obuhle. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iibini zintloni zingaziva zihlazo malunga nokuxubusha ngokuthandana ngesondo ngohlobo lwabo. Enyanisweni, le ndlela engalunganga ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane bakho. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakho lithandani kwaye aliyithandi ngesini. Musa nje ukwesaba iimvavanyo, ziya kukunceda ukuba ungalahlekelwa ngumtsalane kumlingane wakho, ngaloo ndlela uqinisa ubudlelwane bakho emtshatweni.
Igor Mukha , ngakumbi kwisiza