Okokuqala, ndiyakuvuyiswa ngokukhetha ngokukhethekileyo - ukwenza isifungo somntu ngamnye kunye nentsusa. Isifungo somtshato esifanelekileyo asifanele sikhumbule, ukuze emva kweminyaka emininzi, ujonge ukukhumbula la mazwi kunye nomthandayo. Othandekayo wena, ngokuqinisekileyo umntu uya kuqonda le nto. Uninzi lwabatshatileyo luyesaba ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo kuluntu, ngoko sebenzisa izithembiso. Musa ukukuyeka oku. Akukho nto inothando ngaphezu kwesifungo somtshato esibhalwe ngesandla. Ngubani onokukubonisa kakuhle iimvakalelo kunye nemizwa?
Ngako oko, akukho sizathu sokuba ungabhali izithembiso zakho zomtshato, ukuba unqwenela. Kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngale ngxaki kunye nomntu okhethiweyo, nokuba uyavuma ukuvakalisa izithembiso zakhe. Isiphumo siza kuba sihle kuphela ngesifiso sobunye sokusebenzisa izifungo zomtshato. Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba izibhalo ozibhalayo ziya kufuneka zivakaliswe phambi kwabanye abantu. Kungabonakala kunzima, kodwa xa kufike ixesha elifanelekileyo, uya kubona kuphela.
Ukuba umtshato usenzeka ecaweni, kufuneka ufumane ukuba unokufunda izibhambathiso zakho. Ezinye iicawa azivumeli oku, ngoko kungcono ukufunda imigaqo kwangaphambili. Izibhambathiso zomtshato zingenziwa ngokuzimeleyo kuphela xa ulungele ukwenza izivumelwano ezithile kwimibhiyozo.
Emva koko, kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngaba uya kubhala izithembiso zomtshato ngokuzimeleyo okanye ngokwahlukileyo. Kukho iinkonzo ezininzi kunye neqhayiya kwindlela nganye, kodwa kufike kuwe. Ezinye izibini zifuna ukuvuma kwazo ukuba ziyamangalisa umntu okhethiweyo, kwaye abanye bafuna ukwazi konke kusengaphambili. Akunandaba nokuba yiyiphi inketho oyikhethayo, into ephambili kukuba iyakulungelelana bobabini.
Izibhambathiso ezininzi zomtshato ziyahlula zibe ziincinci ezintathu. Oku kukubhengezwa, inkcazo, kwaye isifungo ngokuthe ngqo. Inxalenye ngayinye ibalulekile ngokwayo, ngoko kufuneka uyihlawule ngokukhethekileyo.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba isimemezelo sinokulula ukubhala. Kwimvakalo oyithethayo ukuba uyamthanda owakhethiweyo kwaye uya kuba naye kunye. Le nxalenye inokuzonwabisa okanye inothando, kuxhomekeke kukhetho lwakho.
Inkcazo kufuneka ifunde ngokulula kwaye iqondwe ngabaphulaphuli. Isifungo esisisigxina asikho ingxelo ekufuneka uyihlalutye yonke inkcazelo. Okokuqala, iimvakalelo neemvakalelo zibalulekile, kwaye kungekhona nje ukunikezelwa kwedatha. Kuyo uchaza oko wenzayo ngenxa yothando lomnye umntu. Ukuba ukuba ubhala le ngxenye kubonakala kunzima, ngoko kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba udlala umtshato nonke. Kule ngxenye ungabhala imizila evela kwiingoma zevesi okanye ingoma oyintandokazi ebonisa iimvakalelo zakho.
Kubantu abaninzi, umzuzu wokuvakalisa izibhambathiso zomtshato kunzima kakhulu, kungekhona nje ngokomzwelo. Abanye baqala ukuxhalabisa kakhulu, ngenxa yeentetho zabo. Kodwa yena ungomnye wabaluleke kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, isifungo sibophelelo sakho komnye nomnye. Ngesifungo, ubonisa umnqweno wokuba kunye kunye nentlungu. Izibhambathiso zakho zomtshato zibonisa kakuhle iimvakalelo nokulungela umtshato.