Kuyimfuneko ukusombulula imisebenzi eninzi kunye nemiba yenhlangano: awukwazi ukulibala nayiphi na into, ulahlekelwe yimpumelelo, kufuneka udibanise ngqo ngexesha.
Ezinye izibini zithatha isigqibo esisodwa sokufaka isicelo kwi-arhente ekhethekileyo, apho bazinikela ukulungiselela umtshato, othiwa "turnkey". Oko kukuthi, abantu abalungileyo baya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nento yonke kwaye benze yonke into, baqwalasele iimfuno ezintle kunye nokuphumeza iingcamango ezintle kakhulu, iziganeko ezimnandi. Apha unako, ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba umcimbi wakho wokuqala usapho uya kuba yinto ekhethekileyo kwaye iyodwa.
Ininzi yezibini zithatha inxaxheba kwintlangano edibeneyo yokubhiyozela: bayathemba into kwi-arhente, benze into ngokwabo.
Kwaye, ke, kukho abantu abanesibindi abazenzayo ukulungiselela umtshato ngokwabo, ngokusebenzisa izixhobo zabo kunye noncedo lwabahlobo kunye nabazalwana-izalamane. Isinyathelo sinesibindi kwaye akusoloko sigwetyelwe. Kodwa le nto iyimfihlo kumntu wonke. Ngoku siza kuthetha ngenye into.
Naluphi na uhlobo lokulungiselela abafazi abaza kukhetha, kuyacaca, into enye: okokuqala kukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo uluhlu olufanelekileyo lweendwendwe zomtshato. Abazali baya kuvuyela ukujoyina le nkqubo, kodwa njengokuba kubonisa ukubonisa, umsebenzi awunakuba lula kule nto, kodwa nangona kunjalo, kuluxakekisa imeko. Emva koko, uluhlu lwoluhlu oluchanekileyo lunamandla. Yaye ukuba uthe wabuyela kule ngxaki ngawo wonke uhlolo kunye noxanduva, kamva uya kuba nako ukuphepha ukungaqondi kakuhle kunye neengxaki.
Ngoko, siqokelela uluhlu olufanelekileyo lweendwendwe zomtshato.
Okokuqala, nayiphi na imitshato ibhajethi. Ukuze uhlale ngaphakathi kwemida yayo, kuyimfuneko ukuyisebenzisa le ngxaki ngokukhawuleza, ungabi nongcipheko ngesabelo esithile sobulumko obubandayo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele apha ukuba lo msebenzi awukona nje ukubhala uluhlu lwabahlobo, abaqhelana nabo, abahlobo kunye neentshaba, zonke iintlobo zezihlobo, omelwane kunye nabalingane. Sidinga ukwenza uluhlu oluhle kakhulu lweendwendwe zomtshato, apho igama elithi "elungileyo" ligama eliphambili. Ngendlela, uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali oluvunyiweyo ngaphambili luya kunceda ukuphepha iinyembezi ezingadingekile, iingxabano kunye neentlekele.
Okwesibini, phantse bonke abatshatileyo abasandul 'ukutshata, ngakwelinye icala okanye kwelinye, banomnye u-Anunt uMotya, okanye badla ngokutya okunxilisayo kunye neempembelelo zabo, isihlobo esihlaselayo, u-Ivan Solomonovich. Ngaphambi kokwenza ukhetho kwisinye okanye esinye isivakalisi, abantu abatsha kufuneka bacinge ngenyameko: kuyafaneleka ukwenza ntoni kwaye, enyanisweni, kusemngciphekweni? Ngaba abantu abatshatileyo baya kuhlala "nomthwalo onzima" we-mthetho kaMnti kaMantshi okanye uphulaphule umlambo ovuthayo we-Ivan Solomonovich ukulwa okudakwa kwieholide zeentsapho ezidibeneyo? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, konke oku kuya kwenzeka kamva, i-postcript, kwaye kungekhona ngomhla wokubhiyozela, xa kungekho nto ifanele ilahle iholide eqaqambileyo. Akukho ndawo yokungaqondani, amahlazo, ukulwa kunye naziphi na iziphoso ngokubanzi. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba wenze uludwe lwamamemo, kuyimfuneko ukucinga ngokucophelela malunga nento enokwenzeka kunye nemiphumo.
Enye into ebalulekileyo. Kubalulekile, ixesha elide ngaphambi komhla wokulindela, ukuzola ngokukhawuleza zonke iindwendwe ezingenakwenzeka ezicetywayo ukuba zimenywe emtshatweni. Emva koko, phantsi koluhlu kwikopi enzima. Kulungile, kwaye ngoko, njengoko kuyimfuneko, yenza utshintsho kunye nokutshintsha kwimeko. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko ukulibazisa le meko: kwakhona, uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali aluyi-rubber, kwaye zonke izitshintsho kufuneka zenziwe kuqala, ukuze zingabonakali inhlalakahle yezinto eziphathekayo zeentsapho ezizayo. Kwakhona, ukulawulwa kwetoni elungileyo kukuthumela amakhadi omemo (okanye ukumema ngomlomo: konke kuxhomekeke ekukhuliseni, iinkcubeko kunye nezithethe zentsapho) ubuncinane kwiiveki ezimbini ngaphambi komhla obalulekileyo, nangaphambili. Emva koko, umtshakazi nomyeni bakulungelelanisa umtshato, kodwa kunye neendwendwe ezizayo. Kwakhona kufuneka bazinike ixesha lokuqonda, balungiselele umcimbi ozayo, kunye nabo, ukuze baxelele ukuba banokukuhlonela kunye nobukho babo. Lo ngumbuzo obalulekileyo ongenakunakunyuswa.
Elinye iphuzu elibalulekileyo. Xa uluhlu lweendwendwe zomtshato lwenziwa, lugqityiwe, zonke iinguqu ezenzekayo kwaye zivunyiwe, ukuze ziphephe iziganeko ezingathandekiyo kunye "nomzuzu othile", kuya kuba kuhle ukuba abasanda kutshata bavuselele imemori baze bawakhumbule bonke abo bantu abangabonakala emtshatweni ngaphandle kwesimemo kunye nesilumkiso. Ukuba loo nto inokumangalisa into enokumangalisa - kuyimfuneko yokwazisa into eyongezelelweyo yendleko. Ewe, ukuba ukutyelela kwimibhiyozo yakho ngamanye umntu akunakulungeleki - kufuneka uthabathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo.
Mhlawumbi lo ngowokuqala ulungelelaniso lweentsapho, olukhethiweyo oluya kuthintela lonke ikhosi yezobhiyozo ezizayo. Kwimiba ebalulekileyo njengoko udweba uluhlu lweendwendwe zomtshato ngaphandle kokunciphisa, awukwazi ukwenza. Oku kuya kuba luqeqesho olufanelekileyo ekukwazi ukuhlonipha imibono yomnye nomnye, ngokukwazi ukuphulaphula nokuva, ukunikela nokunikela. Ngaphambili isiganeko esikhulu esiya kuguqula indlela yokuphila yobomi, inqanaba eliphambili. Kwikamva elitsha, omnye nomnye.