Ngamnye wethu waxelelwa ubuncinane kanye ebomini bethu into enokuthi abanye abantu bengazi. Kwaye ukuba ngamantombazana athile agcine imfihlakalo-le nto iyinto engathandekiyo, kwabanye, ukuthulisa ngento ethile kungumsebenzi ongenangqiqo. Sinokufunda njani ukugcina imfihlelo, ukuze abantu abathembelayo bangadumisi kuthi kwaye bathemba ezinye iimfihlelo zabo?
Bhala
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ufuna ukugcina ulwazi olufihlakeleyo, ufuna ukuxelela umntu malunga nayo yonke into - bhala. Ungabhala iphephancwadi ngesandla, thayipha uxwebhu lweWadi kwikhompyutha yakho. Indlela yokubonisa ayibalulekile. Into ephambili kukuba ukwazi ukuthetha, uthetha ngekhompyutheni okanye kwincwadi. Ekuqalekeni kubonakala ngathi kwimeko enjalo, kodwa eqinisweni, emva kokuchaza imeko, yenza kube lula kuwe. Uyakwazi ukumane ulandele into oyaziyo okanye ufike ibali elipheleleyo. Into ephambili kukuba ufumane ulwazi. Xa uqedile ukubhala, uya kuziva ukhululekile kwaye awuyi kuphinda uzame ukuvula imfihlo kumntu.
Dumyenena kuqala
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ufuna ukutshela imfihlo kumntu, ngoko ngaphambi kokuba uvule umlomo wakho, cingisisa malunga nokuba unokukuphi na. Ngokuqhelekileyo, zonke iingxaki zethu ziqala xa sithetha ngento ngaphandle kokucinga. Ngoko ke, hlalutya imeko, iimeko ezikhoyo ezikhoyo zokuphuhlisa iziganeko. Qinisekisa ukuba ukuba yonke imibala icinga indlela umntu osondeleyo akhathazeka ngayo kuwe okanye aze aphule ubuhlobo bakho kunye nawe, umnqweno wokuxelela umntu ngemfihlo yakhe iya kuncipha kakhulu. Kuyafana nakwiimfihlelo zakho. Nangona uthembela umntu kwaye ufuna ukuyivula, cinga ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buya kuba lufana nenyanga, unyaka. Kwaye akayi kutshintsha iimbono zakhe emva kokuba efumene imfihlelo.
I-Nelyzte ingekho kwi shishini labo
Ngamanye amaxesha asikwazi ukugcina ulwazi olufihlakeleyo, siya kucinga ukuba umntu kufuneka afune inyaniso. Umzekelo, umhlobo wakho undixelele ukuba utshintshile intombazana waza wabuza ukuba angathuli. Wena, ke, yenza ubuhlobo kunye nalo mthandayo kwaye ucinge ukuba kufuneka awazi inyaniso. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kukulungele ukuthatha imisebenzi yezwi lokuphela. Ewe, ukukhohlisa komhlobo wakho kuyisicwenge, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza iphutha. Ngoko unganyuki apho ungacelwa khona. Ukuba uzimisele ukufunda, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufunda kwenye imithombo yolwazi. Ukuba akunjalo, intombazana iya kuqhubeka ihlala ngokuthula emnyama. Kodwa xa usenza isigqibo sokuxelela yonke inyaniso, imeko ingajika ukuze abathandi bathandane, kwaye awuyikuthenjwa kuphela. Ngoko ke, ukuba imfihlakalo ayinamathele kuwe kwaye ayikwazi ukuba yingozi kumntu womntu okanye ubomi, oko kungcono ukuthula kwaye ungabikho nto ebhizinisini lakho. Ubomi buya kufaka yonke into kwindawo yayo kwaye ngaphandle koluncedo lwakho.
Ukuphenywa
Ngokuphathelele imfihlelo odla ukufuna ukuthetha kwaye akukhathaleki ukuba ngubani.Ulo mntu unako konke ukungaxhalabisi, ngoko ke, ukuba ungekho konke uxhalabile, cela umhlobo wakho, unokukuxelela imfihlo. Mhlawumbi uyavuma. Into ephambili kukuba uqinisekile ukuba ngubani othembekileyo kwimfihlo. Emva kwayo yonke into, nangona wayevela kwelinye ilizwe kwaye akanakuze adibane nomhlobo wakho, ubomi buhlukile. Ngoko ke, ukuze unikwe imfihlo, khetha umntu onokuhlala ethule kwaye engathathi umnqweno wokuhlala uthetha ngento ethile. Kulula kubantu abathulekileyo ukugcina iimfihlelo, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo abafuni ukuthetha, ngoko ke lo msebenzi uba lula kubo kunabantu abathethayo. Ukuxelela umntu onjalo, akufuneki ukuba uye kwiinkcukacha. Awukwazi ukukhankanya amagama. Yenza nje ulwazi owaziyo. Emva koko, uziva ulunge ngakumbi, umntu ongenomdla kule mfihlelo, ukuphulaphula nje, i-aptom, inokwenzeka, ngokuqhelekileyo ayikhohlwe yonke into.
Ungayibhalisi
Abanye abantu, emva kokufunda imfihlelo, baqala ukuphazamisa abanye, kwaye xa beqiqa, bathetha konke. Ngexesha elifanayo, kubonakala ngathi bathatha uxanduva kubo, kuba loo mntu ngokwakhe uqikelele. Enyanisweni, akuphosakeleyo, kuba eqinisweni, ufuna ukutshela imfihlo uze uyenze, ukuze abantu bazi ngako. Ngoko ke, isigqibo esinjalo asilungile. Kwaye umntu othe wawaxelela ngasese, uya kugxeka, aze enze isigqibo sokuba awukwazi ukuthenjwa. Ngoko kunokuba uthabathe umntu, kungcono uzame ukuphepha abo banokhathalela ngandlela-thile iimfihlelo zakho. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba kungekudala uzakuxoxa, ngoko ngokubanzi, uphazamise ingxoxo uze uqhubele kwesinye isihloko. Unokwazi ukuhamba kunye nemizuzu embalwa, hlala ucebile uze uzikhumbuze ukuba imiphumo ingaba yimpembelelo yeemfihlelo zabanye.
Musa ukuzibandakanya inzala yabanye
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntu omkhulu ufuna ukwazi imfihlelo yakho kwaye uqala ukukukholisa ukuba uxelele yonke into malunga nayo yonke into. Kule meko, ikhulu elininzi ngamaxesha, cinga ngesizathu sokuba ufuna ulwazi oluninzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntu efuna ukwazi umfihlelo womnye umntu, abakhokelwa ngumdla ongenzi lutho. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba emva kokufunda imfihlelo, umntu unokuncedisa umhlobo wakho kwaye utshintshe ubomi bakho bube ngcono. Kwezinye iimeko, abantu bazama ukufumana iimfihlelo kuphela ngenxa yokuba banomdla wokufunda into entsha okanye bayathukuthela kuba bakuxelele ulwazi olufihlakeleyo, kungekhona kubo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba umntu uzama ukukunyanzela ukuba uvule imfihlo nangayiphi na indlela, kha wuleze le mizamo. Cacisa kumnxibelelwano ongafuni ukuthetha kwesi sihloko, kwaye ukuba akayi kukhawuleza, ngoko unxibelelwano lwakho luya kudlula. Kule meko, kufuneka ubonise i-sazu ukuba awuyi kufumana ulwazi kuwe, ngaphandle koko umntu uya kusebenza kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kufumana indlela yokufaka uxinzelelo kuwe ukuze umxelele yonke into.
Kwaye into yokugqibela ekufuneka kuthiwe, ukuba kuwe ukulondolozwa ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye ongenakwenzeka, kungcono ukuba ungenzi nto kuye. Kuya kuba yinyanisekileyo kwaye ilungele ukuxwayisa umntu ngokukhawuleza ukuba awukwazi ukuthula, ngoko ukhuseleko lwemfihlo yakhe aluqinisekanga. Ngoko, ukuba ufuna ukuthetha into emfihliweyo, ngoko kufuneka alungele ukuba awukwazi ukumelana nokuxelela abanye imfihlelo. Ngaloo ndlela, ukhulula yonke imbopheleleko yakho kwaye awukwazi ukutyholwa ngokuba uhlulekile ukugcina ilizwi lakho kwaye wenza ngokunganyaniseki.
Ngokubanzi, ukugcina izimfihlakalo akuwona umsebenzi ovela emiphakeni. Abanye oogqirha babecinga ukuba ukuzibamba ekufuneni ukuxelela umntu ulwazi oluthile kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki zempilo. Ngako oko, njalo xa ucela umhlobo wakho ukuba akuxelele into eyimfihlelo, cinga malunga nokuba uya kukwazi ukuthwala umthwalo kwaye nokuba imfihlo yomnye iya kuba ngumthwalo kuwe.