Ukuba ubambe iso kwinqaku le nqaku kwaye ugcinwe ingqalelo kuyo, kuthetha ukuba uthando lomyeni wakho lwaluhluthwe ngokukhawuleza okanye lubekwe ngokuzithemba nangokuxinzelelo. Esi sincoko esichukumisayo sizalisa zonke iiseli zeengqondo kwaye sikhiqiza ukusola, ubunzima kunye nokungaqiniseki. Ngaba uyeke ukuthanda? Okanye ngaba kucingelwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yiyo? Ziziphi iimpawu kwihambo yomyeni wakhe zithetha ngokungazithandiyo?
- Indoda iyahamba. Uphantse, kodwa ubonakala ehamba. Abaninzi abatshatileyo baxhamla kwiingcamango zabo, bephulaphule ngaphandle, abaphenduli kwaye abakhulumi ngeengxaki zabo namava, abaya kubabelana nawe kuphela. Umyeni akanomdla kwiingxaki zansuku zonke kwaye kulula ukuba wenze umsebenzi ngokwakho kunokuba ucele kwaye ufumane ukungavumi okanye ukuthanda. Ukunxibelelana kwakho kuya kuncitshiswa ekuxabaneni, kwaye umyeni waqala ukuphepha nayiphi na ingxoxo kunye nezihlandlo ezidibeneyo. Uqhubeka uzibamba ukuba ubomi bakho phantsi kophahla olufanayo lufana nommandla ongenakhathazeka nomntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo.
- Indoda isoloko ihlakulelekile. Uyakucasulwa nantoni na into eshiwo okanye eyenziwe nguwe, kwaye imvakalelo ayinamahloni ukuvakalisa ngokumemeza, ukuhlambalaza kunye nokuzenzela. Kwaye indoda ayikhethi amagama. Akasayi kuba nemvakalelo yakho, kuba ukholelwa ukuba awufanelekanga. Uqala ukukhala ngokuphindaphindiweyo, okwenza umsindo ube ngakumbi. Usuku olungenazo izikratshi, uyamkela ngolu hlobo kwaye uzama ukukholisa umyeni wakho ngazo zonke iindlela, kodwa xa uzama ngakumbi, ufumana ezininzi izizathu zokunganeliseki nawe. Ukuguquka okungaqondakaliyo, okuphindaphindiweyo kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo, kukukwenza ube neentloni, kungabonakali, kwaye uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba umyeni ulungile.
- Umyeni uyeka ukunyamekela. Ukungabikho kwenkathalo kunye nengqwalasela ibonisa ukungabi nandaba. Indoda ayisenomdla kwiingxaki zakho, akabizi ukuba uxwayise ukuba uya kukhawuleza, ungalungiseleli ikhofi yendabuko ekuseni, ngaphandle kokuba ungashiyi ekhaya. Akakhathalele ukuba i-rheumatism iqhubekile, ayikho ibhotshi yasebusika, kwaye ayikhohliwe ngokuzalwa kwakho. Uhlala eqinisekisiwe ngamandla kunye neengxabano ezinamandla. Ukhohlisi lwakho olufanayo lithetha umlingane ulahlekelwa indlebe. Uvakalelwa kukuba uyakuncika, kuba akafuni ukuvuma ukuphosakela kwakhe. Kwaye akaphindi ukuxolisa. Akakhathalele oko uvakalelwa. Akayiva nantoni na kuwe.
- Indoda ifuna inkululeko. Uhlala ehlala emsebenzini, ngokuqhelekileyo waqala ukuhamba ngezoshishino aze asebenze ngeveki. Ukuba awukwazi ukufihla emva komsebenzi, unako nezinye izizathu zokungabikho ekhaya: uncedise umhlobo, unina, izinja ezingenamakhaya okanye abantwana abalambileyo e-Afrika. Indoda ayisenomdla kwiintlanganiso zakho zeentsapho kunye nezihlobo, ukutyelela abahlobo, ukuthatha iholide kunye kunye nokuhamba. Emva koko umlingane uchaza umsebenzi wakhe ngomsebenzi, ukugula okanye ukuziphatha okubi, ukuba abe neenjongo ezingakumbi. Kodwa ukuba ulawula ukuyifumana, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuzisola ngokubuhlungu. Umyeni wenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ungabi naso isifiso sokuchitha ixesha kunye naye.
- Umyeni ugwema isondo kunye nomsa. Ucaphukiswa ngamazwi obonisa ububele kuwe, nangona akazange alele ngaphandle kokubanga ubusuku obuphambi kwakhe, akazange asebenze ngaphandle kokumbumbana kwaye akakwazanga ukwenza ngaphandle kwembonakaliso yothando olubi. Ngoku ke isondo sele sincitshiswe kuba ngumsebenzi, kwaye ke uyayenza loo nto inokuyenza, okanye ngaba "itekiti", ukuze ikwazi ukuhlaziswa ngenxa yokwenqaba isondo. Umfazi uhlala evakalelwa lo mmahluko phakathi kokwenza uthando nokulala ngesondo, nangona kusebenza kakuhle. Xa isondo sinyamalalala ebomini bashadile nabasempilweni, kubonisa ukuba uthando luye phambili.
- Umyeni wam unemfihlelo. Akayifaki inxaxheba kunye nefowuni yakhe, ukusetha amaphasiwedi kumanethiwekhi omphakathi, ukulahla iifowuni okanye ukuya kwelinye igumbi. Imibuzo yakho malunga neempendulo zenzelenqe okanye ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye mhlawumbi ukufihla kwayo kubonakalisa kwaye akunjalo ngokucacileyo, kodwa awukwazi ukunceda ukucinga ukuba unemfihlelo evela kuwe eyayingekabikho ngaphambili. Ewe, okokuqala unokwenyiswa ngamangalisa ukuba iqabane lilungiselela ukumangaliswa okanye ayifuni ukuphazamiseka ngeendaba ezimbi, kodwa ukuba imfihlakalo yakhe iya kwanda, kwaye uxhalabanye nezinye iimpawu ezibonisa ukungathandeki kwakhe, ngoko lixesha lokunciphisa umyeni wakho uze uchaze konke «I».
- Umyeni uyalahlwa ngenxa yokungafezeki kwakhe kwaye uyatshintsha uxanduva. Ukuxazulula iingxaki zentsapho ngendlela engaqondakaliyo yafudukela kumagxa akho. Ugijima kunye nomntwana ogulayo oogqirha, uxoxisane kunye neplumberhi ukucoca umkhumbi we-sewer, uncede uninazala umlungise, kunye nomyeni wakho - ngengxelo. Umlingane uye wayeka ukukhathazeka malunga neengxakini zeentsapho, kwaye ukuba kukho into ephazamisayo, yile lo mbuzo, kutheni ungazange uhlehlise yonke into ngenxa yengxelo yakhe? Imizamo yokubuyisela imithwalo yakhe yemfanelo kunye neengxelo ibangela ukucaphuka kunye nokutyholwa kwentliziyo, ukungabi nxanduva kunye nokungakhathaleli kwiingxaki zakhe. Usebenza ngokukhululekileyo, kwaye xa kwenzeka, akayi kubeka isohlwayo ngenxa yokungasebenzi, kodwa ngenxa yokungahambisani nomsebenzi wakhe.
- Umyeni ulahla izibophelelo zemali. Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo, ukuxhaswa kweentsapho kwindoda okanye kwasasazwa ngokulinganayo. Ngoku olu xanduva luba lenu. Umyeni wayeka ukukhathazeka malunga nerenti, izindleko zesikolo zomntwana, imali yokutya kunye nezinye izinto zokuthenga ekhaya. Uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uyayifumana kakuhle, akanalo iingxaki zemali, njengoko kungekho mnqweno wokuxhasa intsapho ngemali. Akafuni ukuphulaphula izikhalazo zakho kunye nemibuzo malunga nokuba iholo lakhe lihamba phi. Kwandlela-thile waba yinkampani yakhe. Ewe, apha kwakhona akufanele ukhethe ukuthenga okuthetheleyo kuwe njengesipho. Kodwa ukuba umbuzo wemali uxoxwa ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo kwaye unganikezwa ukuphumla kunye nezinye iimpawu zokungazithandi, ngoko, mhlawumbi, oku kungesizathu esinye sokuba akazange abe nomdla kuwe.