Zingaphi iindlela zobuqili, iindlela, izicwangciso kunye namaqhinga ayenziwa ngabasetyhini ukukhanga amadoda anothando inkululeko kwinethiwekhi yomtshato! Abaninzi kubo bakulungele ukuthetha inkululeko kwikululeko yabo yokuzikhethela. Kwaye abantu abahlala besigxina kunye nabangenakunyakaziswa baqalisa indlela yokuthatha umtshato "womtshato", ubudlelwane beendwendwe okanye uthando ngaphandle kwezibophelelo. Le meko ikuvumela ukuba uzive inkululeko engenamkhawulo, ube ngumphathi wale meko kwaye uthwale uxanduva oluncinane. Kodwa abaninzi abafazi abavumelaniyo ukuba "banamalungelo entaka" endaweni yegosa elisemthethweni kwaye, bekhatyelwe ukulinda isibonelelo, baya kudlula okanye baqhinga. Ukufezekisa impumelelo kule nkalo enzima kuya kunceda ulwazi lweengqondo zesintu.
Kutheni umntu engakhange enze ngokukhawuleza ukwenza isipho?
Akukho mali (ukuzinza)
Kuyancomeka kakhulu ukuba indoda ibambelela kwinkqubo yeklastiki yokwakha intsapho: okokuqala uqokelela imali indlu, ngoko umthi, kwaye emva kwonyana oza kuzalwa nomfazi oqinileyo. Isiseko esiqinileyo sobaluleke kakhulu kubantwini bakhe ukuzithemba - kwaye abantu abanamahloni, kwaye unyana uya kuba nelifa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu unenkolelo ephakamileyo, kodwa engasebenzi, ukunyusa uxanduva kwilizwe, iinkosi kunye nezinye izinto ezimvimbela ukuba angene ezinyaweni, ngoko ke le meko iyenzeka. Umzekelo, awukwazi ukutshata.Azange ahambe
Hamba njengabo bonke abantu! Kodwa omnye unganalutsha, kwaye abanye bafuna izizathu kunye nezihlandlo zokuba "ngoMatshi ikati" ixesha elide kunokwenzeka. Kwaye akunakucingela ukuba kukho umzala omhle, onomusa, onomdla osondeleyo kuye, kangangeminyaka emininzi ngoku, ebambelele kuye "amaphahla" kwaye ulindele ukuba ahlale phantsi aze amenze umfazi osemthethweni. Andiyi kuyenza! Bangaphi kwizikolo ezinobungcali kunye nabafazi beentsapho abangenakufikeleleka. Emva koko, abanakuze bazi ukuba kukho umntu ehlabathini ohamba yedwa, kwaye ngubani owaziyo kakhulu ngothando.Bachelor ongunaphakade
Indoda ejongene nale syndrome (kunoko, ujabule), ayikhawulezi ukubopha inkululeko yakhe ngomtshato. Uxabisa kakhulu ithuba lokuba enze izigqibo ezizimeleyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uluvo lomntu, akafuni ukunika ingxelo kunye nokuthwala uxanduva. Kwinqanaba lamadoda entsapho indoda enjalo inokutshatyalaliswa yothando olukhulu. Kwaye nangona kwakungekho nto, indoda, nokuba ihlala "emtshatweni womtshato" iminyaka emininzi, iyicinga ukuba ikhululekile. Akayidingi umfazi. Ufuna abasebenzi bokugcinwa.Iingcamango ezingekho phantsi komtshato
"Ibhizinisi elithethiweyo lingabizwa ngumtshato!" - ilizwi elithandayo lomntu onjalo. Kwimeko yakhe esondeleyo, akukho mzekelo efanelekileyo yokufumana iintsapho ezivuyayo, okanye kunoko-amadoda avuyayo kwimanyano esemthethweni. Kwaye ukuba kukho, ke, bayazi, bengayazi apho bafumana ingxaki. Ngokuqinisekileyo akakho oza kukhwaza, ungayibopheli iqhosha, kwaye akayi kubeka isitampu kuye "watshata." Kulula kakhulu kwaye kuyamnandi ukuba nobuhlobo obuvulekileyo: kuza-ke, namhlanje ngomnye - ngomso kunye nomnye, kwaye ukuba enye, akukho zitampu kwipaspoti. Ubomi ngenye! Kutheni kuphazamisa umtshato wakhe?Amava aphumelele
Le ndoda yayisele isatshatile, kwaye ubuhlobo obuthathaka bubuhlungu. Ngoku ke bonke abesifazana kuye kwihlabathi elilodwa bayagqitywa: i-bitch, umthengi, umthengisi. Kuwo wonke umfazi omtsha, uyazijonga kakuhle iimpawu ezingafanelekiyo, kwaye uyazifumana. Kodwa njani, ngubani okhangelayo, uya kufumana! Iinkolelo zakhe ezibuhlungu ziqinisekiswa, kwaye uzifungela ukuba akukho mitshato kunye nobudlelwane obukhulu. Ngoku uthabatha umyalelo wokuziphindezela kuwo onke amabhinqa kubahlali bezilwanyana eziphosakeleyo kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho namnye kubo oya kumfumana abe ngumyeni osemthethweni!Ungamnceda njani umntu enze isipho esilindelwe ixesha elide?
Intetho ngentliziyo
Kubalulekile ukufumanisa kumntu, ngaba uyazi nokuba ufuna ukutshata. Mhlawumbi kubonakala kuye ukuba, kuye, isitampu kwipasipoti ayikho into engabalulekanga. Okanye mhlawumbi ukwesaba ukuthetha nawe ngomtshato, ngenxa yokuba awuzange uthintele kwesi sihloko, kwaye ucinga ukuba uya kukuthusa ngeenjongo zakhe ezinzulu. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ingxoxo engathethekiyo iya kukunceda ukuba ufumane izizathu zokungaziphathi kakuhle. Oku kuya kusenza siqhubeke nokwakha amaqhinga afanelekileyo kunye nesicwangciso."Umtshato" kunye
Uza kufumana unxulumane nabahlobo abasondeleyo okanye izalamane zomntu onomdla kwintsapho yakhe. Umama-mzala kamva, umzalwana, udade okanye umhlobo ongcono kunokuba ngabaxhasi bakho abanokwethenjelwa ekufumaneni imeko esemthethweni. Bakhombise uthando oluqinisekileyo kumntu ongeyithandangayo, zibonise njengomntu onakekelayo, umfazi oyisilumko kwaye ufumene ngamnye kubo indlela ethinta umphefumlo wabo. Ukuba bayaqonda ukuba uyindoda ephuphayo, umntu wakho akayi kukwazi ukumelana nokutshabalalisa kwabo.Uloyiko lokulahleka
Akukho nto ekhuthaza izenzo ezinqumlekileyo ezifana nokwesaba ukulahleka. Ukuba le ndoda inqume ukuba sele sele uyiyintombi yakhe kwaye ayikwazi ukuhamba naliphi na, ixesha lokuba a bonise ukuba uphosakeleyo kakhulu. Ingaba kukho iimpawu zengqalelo kwabanye abantu, iifowuni zefowuni, ukutshatana okanye kungabi nakubonakele kakhulu. Into ephambili kukuba umntu wakho uyaqonda ukuba "ungumkhiqizo osebenzayo" weemfuno eziphezulu kunye nexabiso, eliza kuthathwa ngqo phantsi kwempumlo yakho xa ehlala ecetyiswa ngesandla kunye nentliziyo.Inqaku ngokuhlekisa
Imibuzo eqondileyo kunye neengxoxo ebunzini azivunyelwanga kubo bonke abafazi. Ndifuna ukuba iqela livela kumntu. Gcina i-ego yomfazi iya kunceda isichukumiso esihle, sambethe ihlazo. Umzekelo:- Emva koko kwakukho phakathi kwethu, kufuneka nditshatile!
- Kwindoda yam entsha iya kuba yindoda yomtshato efanelekileyo!
- Bathandekayo! Ndiya kutshata! - Ngubani na? "Awazi na?" Kuwe, kunjalo!