Ezahlukeneyo zobomi
Enyanisweni, kulo lonke lobomi bomntu, inani elikhulu labangane liyakwazi ukudibana. Kodwa baya kuba kufuphi nabo kuphela kwixesha elithile. Akukho nto engaqhelekanga, inqabileyo okanye inkohliso malunga nalokhu. Wonke umntu unako ukuguqula inkambo yobomi bakhe. Eminye yeminqweno yakhe iyalala, ezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa zifika kwindawo yazo, ezinye iinjongo zibonakala, zithande utshintsho njalonjalo. Ngoko ke, ngesizathu esithile, nabanye abantu, siqala ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, kunye nabanye sihamba. Indima ebalulekileyo idlalwe apho sichitha ixesha lakho. Ngokomzekelo, ngelixa ufunda eyunivesiti, abaninzi abantu banobungane obuqinileyo kunye nabafundi kunye nabo ekilasini. Oku akumangalisi, kuba abantu banomdla oqhelekileyo, iingxaki kunye nezihloko zokuthetha. Nangona kunjalo, emva kokugqitywa kwezifundo, abantu bahamba ngokuthe ngcembe komnye nomnye, kuba i-total is growing less and less. Kodwa ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo beyinyani, kwaye bengenayo inkampani, kufuneka yonke intlanganiso ibe yinto enomdla kakhulu, baya kuhlala bekhumbula kunye nokuza kunceda, ukuba kuyimfuneko.
Xa umntu esithi unabo bahlobo abaninzi, akuthethi ukuba uthetha nabantu abaninzi ngeli xesha.Kodwa ebomini bakhe kukho abo bantu abangaboni ngaso sonke ixesha, kodwa uya kubakhumbula njalo kunye nothando. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba bathetha kangakanani, ukubhalwa kwakhona kunye nokuhlangana ngokunyanisekileyo. Into ephambili kukuba unako ukuthembela kula bantu.
U bubele
Abaninzi abakholelwa kulo nto kwaye bakholelwa ukuba ihlabathi lethu lanamhlanje liqhutywa ngumsindo nenzondo, kodwa abantu abalungileyo banenjongo kubantu abalungileyo. Into eyona nto ayikukudibanisa ububele nokungahambi komlingani kunye nokunyaniseka. Indoda elungileyo iyazi ukuba ubani omele anqatshelwe kwaye ngubani ongafaneleki ukuthenjwa. Kodwa ngelo xesha uyazama ukubanceda abanye, xa beyidinga kwaye bangenzi kubantu bendawo engendawo. Ukujonga umntu onjalo, abanye abantu abalungileyo baqala ukukhangela imifanekiso yokunxibelelana. Kakade, akubona wonke umntu oqokelela abantu abasemgangathweni abahlobo abahle. Kodwa nangona bavavanywa kwaye kukho ngokwenene abaninzi abahlobo abasondeleyo kumntu onjalo. Yingakho umntu olungileyo navulekileyo akayi kuqonda ingcamango yokujonga ububi kunye nemigangatho, kunye nangoko. Abo bazama ukuthwala okulungileyo abakwazi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntu unabohlobo abaninzi kunye nabanokuthenjwa. Kwaye abantu abachasene nabantu ababi, ngokuchaseneyo, bayothuka, kutheni wonke umntu kufuneka akholelwe ukuba abantu abalungileyo bancinci kakhulu okanye mhlawumbi akunjalo. Enyanisweni, indawo esihlala kuyo, abahlobo bethu, ibonakalisa thina. Akukho isizathu sokuba kukho umntu ukuba abone umhlobo, kwaye ngoko unokuthi ungubani. Kule nto inyaniso yinyani. Ukususela kwindlela umntu ahlobene ngayo nabanye, ubuhlobo naye buxhomekeke ngqo. Umntu unako ukuba nabahlobo abaninzi xa ehlala ezama ukuphatha abantu kakuhle, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ubona ihlabathi, u-Ana uhlala ekhohlisweni, apho wonke umntu elungileyo. Umntu onomusa uqonde kakuhle ukuba ulungile, uzama nje ukuhlala kude naye.
Ukufakwa kwamagama
Kakade ke, akusoloko kwenzeka ukuba umntu unenehlobo oluninzi lwabahlobo. Mhlawumbi ufuna nje ukucinga njalo kunye nomntu omaziyo ngokuqhelekileyo amphatha, uqala ukubiza umnina wakhe. Kule meko, kukho ukutshintshwa kwamagama amaninzi. Kwaye ngenxa yolu bantu baninzi ukungabaza ukuba kunokuba nabahlobo abaninzi. Enyanisweni, kukho umda omkhulu phakathi komhlobo kunye nolwazi oluhle. Xa sicinga ngomhlobo, siyinyamekela oko kwenzeka kuye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, sinokumnceda umntu esaziyo, kodwa ukuba sinento ethile ebalulekileyo, sihlala sihlehlise iingxaki zakhe kwisicwangciso sesibini. Kuyinto inqabile ukuba abantu bacinge ngokuthe ngqo ngabantu bonke, i-apopot sele ivele malunga nabo. Lo mkhuba awuqhelekanga, ngenxa yokuba umnqweno wokuhlala uthabatha kwaye uncede abanye uthi ngeengxube ezingenakunqoba. Kodwa ukuba umntu unesimo sengqondo esivamile kunye nombono wehlabathi, ngaphandle kokugqithiseleyo, ngaba ngabahlobo abaxhalabisa ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye bengacingi ngezicwangciso zakhe, ngabahlobo abafuna ukunceda umntu ngaluphi na ixabiso, kwaye xa kwenzeka xa bengenako ukunika uncedo olufunekayo, isazela siqala ukuxhamla. Ngoko ke, ukuba ucinga malunga nokuba unabangani abaninzi okanye abangaqhelekanga, phendula umbuzo olula: ungathini na ukuba uzibingelele ngenxa yale bantu kwaye zifuna ukuzincama ngani. Intetho apha ayihambelani neengxaki ezinjalo, indlela yokulahla ubomi, ususe ihembe lakho lokugqibela njalonjalo. Kukho izinto ezingapheliyo, izinto ezincinci ezibonakalisa ubuhlobo bethu. Njengomnqweno wokwenza umntu isipho afunayo ngokwenene, kwaye kungekhona into, nje "u-otmazatsya, ukukwazi ukuphosa umcimbi obalulekileyo kwaye ukhawuleze ukukunceda, nangona unokuba nezicwangciso ezahlukeneyo kunye nokunye. Ukuba lo luhlobo lokuziphatha ophawulayo ngokumalunga nabahlobo bakho, kwaye ngokulandelelana, kuthetha ukuba lo buhlobo bokwenyaniso. Kodwa xa kungekho nto enjalo, ngelishwa, uvele udale ukubonakala kwakho kunye nabanye kwaye uzama ukuzikhohlisa ukuze uzive uwedwa.
Xa uthetha malunga nokuba unabo bahlobo abaninzi, akukho imfuneko ukubala inani leencelo eziqhagamshelana kunye nezinto ezithandayo phantsi kwezithombe zakho. Amaphepha kwi-intanethi kunye neentliziyo azikho ubuhlobo nonke. Abahlobo abaninzi banomvakalelo xa uyazi ukuba awusoze wanyamalala, kuba ukuba ngenxa yesizathu esithile umntu wokuqala unokukunceda, isihlanu siza kuza, kwaye ukuba asiyiyo yesihlanu, ibe seshumi. Inani labo kuphela lixhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo kubantu, ngokwabo, ngokubhekiselele kwindlela yokuphila kunye nokunye. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uthi kukho inhlobo ezininzi abahlobo abangakwazi ukulwa nabo kunye nokubeka, kodwa uya kubathanda, ngoko uyakwazi nje ukufumana abantu abalungileyo.